Shocking Things Pictures Don’t Tell You. My Story (And Maybe Your Story Too)

“Pictures are worth 1000 words”…𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆?
𝘚𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵 𝘢 𝘱𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘦🫣 {Maybe you can relate}

💁🏼‍♀️I changed my approach to life…I don’t put myself in a “motivation space” I put myself in a 𝙒𝙄𝙉𝙉𝙄𝙉𝙂 space.

Do what you love. Eat what you love. Move how you love👉 & 𝙡𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙚𝙣👂 to what loves you back. 𝚃𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚜𝚙𝚊𝚌𝚎 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚠𝚎𝚛𝚜.

My most successful clients are the ones who have been through some shit yet still choose to be high achievers.

Because they know what it feels like to hit rock bottom. They know they don’t ever want to feel that way again & aren’t afraid to work hard to do & sacrifice to get where they want to be.

They want to be 𝗪𝗜𝗡𝗡𝗘𝗥𝗦. They believe they’re winners. And they execute.

This also means living a life authentic to them. It doesn’t mean having the biggest bank account with the fanciest clothes or lowest weight on the scale or heaviest weight on the barbell or looking a certain way. ✨It’s about embodying the person they want to be.

𝙒𝙞𝙣𝙣𝙚𝙧𝙨 𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣’𝙩 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣, 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮’𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙤𝙤𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝗘𝗟𝗘𝗩𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 {write that shizzle my nizzle, down}

This is why many high achievers have small circles & spend much time alone because they know how to weed out the bullshit. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 & 𝘦𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴, 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘴 & behaviors 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥 decisions.

So if you need someone to tell you it’s gonna be OK, you’re not alone, you can do this, & you can figure it out➡️here you go.

Did you know:

I have Crohn’s disease, had cervical cancer in my mid 20s & am unable to have children. I suffered decades with bulimia, orthorexia, gallbladder attacks, kidney stones, surgery, & paralyzing gut complications. I spent the majority of my childhood, teens, & early adulthood, 55 lbs overweight, sick, & broke as fuck. I wrote a blog on my healing & weight loss journey here.

I eat a flexible “carnivore” diet because it serves me best mentally & physically — NOT because I think carbs are the devil, plants are the devil, or people who eat differently than me are wrong. I believe everyone has the right to eat & live as they choose. My priority now at almost 41 years old is longevity, feeling my best, all while looking good nekkid 😉 You can find my daily routine & “secrets” here.

Here are a few videos of simple, basic af meaty deliciousness I enjoy!

#meatbars saved my life!!

I know what it feels like to check out at the grocery store, have all of your cards declined, acknowledge you were broke as fuck, & stand there in tears & shame. I used to be over $40,000 in debt & had my car repo one time. I used to live out of my office & car & eat at hotels to save food on money.

Through these struggles, I learned to love & respect money, time, energy, & freedom. My clothes in this picture are from Goodwill. I shop at Goodwill because I love Goodwill not because I don’t have any money to spend on designer clothes if I wanted to.

It took over 11+ years of consistent social media content, fluctuations in my journey, & learning a lot of shiz along the way to build my platform to what it is today. It wasn’t something I set out to do intentionally it’s something that the Universe blessed me with. I am forever grateful for all of you and the gifts bestowed upon me.

It took over a decade of CrossFit, lifting, multiple cycles of muscle building, fat loss cuts, maintenance phases AND making a lot of mistakes to mold & create the physique you see today. Learn to be patient. It’s about playing the game, not the finish line. There is no finish line. Be an athlete of life. The bulletproof routine I’ve used to keep my body fat low for 4+ years is here on the gram.

I’ve been divorced twice, consider myself “self partnered”, AND the happiest & most fulfilled I’ve ever been. Lonely vs alone are 2 different things. I do have hope for the future that I find my aligned person who loves freedom and adventure as much as I do. The one who makes me feel the way I want to feel & I make them feel the way they want to feel.

I would coach & do Xray for free if money wasn’t a wonderful tool necessary for energy exchange & life because I love them that much. I value having purpose, I love working & I hope you guys have things in your life that light your soul on fire too!

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Some things to know:⁣⁣

I believe healing, mentally & physically, take time. I provide daily consultations & coach people to live THEIR best life. I’ve worked in radiology & as a nutritionist for over 18yrs.⁣⁣
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Body image healing is a skill you sharpen & learn to navigate successfully with wisdom & acceptance & a whole helluva lotta self love.⁣⁣
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Emotional inflammation & trauma weigh you down more so than physical weight.⁣ As a former US Marine wife, I’m especially fond of supporting our military & veterans – body, mind, & spirit. ⁣
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I’m a farmers daughter, & Purdue graduate with degrees in Science, Radiology, & Nutrition. Grateful for vast training which focused on mental health, disordered eating, sports performance, & gut healing.
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I love all the meats & eggs & bourbon 🥃 & my wish for everyone is to find a lifestyle & LEGACY they love that gives them PURPOSE, nourishment, & food & body freedom no matter what diet.⁣⁣ I am not a “genetically lean” petite (5’1) woman. I spent the majority of my teens & 20s overweight. I’ve been all shapes & sizes.⁣⁣
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I post blogs daily for you with tons of free content here that I enjoy creating for y’all.⁣⁣ my mom & dad are my best friends & biggest influences in my life. They are the hardest working people I know & I will forever be grateful for them. I hope you have people in your life you love too!
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A million more things I could put here. So here’s to learning from my dumb shit not to do dumb shit 😂

Oxox
Coach “sorta sweet sorta Beth Dutton🤷‍♀️🤠” K

All resources, discount codes, meal plans, workout routines, guides, recipes, coaching, & more here

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She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, body transformation, & adapting to a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 18 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, Brand Growth & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

June 27, 2023

Life On The Real Reel Updates & Energy Check At 41

Had a mentor tell me one time,

“When you are “getting your shit together” & finding clarity it oftentimes gets lonely. There’s growth in being alone & there’s a big difference in being lonely vs alone. You don’t have to be the person with a lot to say & you don’t owe anyone any explanations. The most powerful person is the best listener, especially with yourself.”

I’ll never forget that.

I’m writing this update & sharing my thoughts just as much for me as it is for you. Enjoy the storytelling! I appreciate all of you who take time to read & allow me to add value to your lives whether it be here on the blog, Instagram, or “real life.”

I’m at a point in my life where I’m so trusting in my abilities, self awareness, adaptability, & faith that the Universe always takes care of me, it’s unfathomable. I always end up where I’m meant to be. Especially when I feel anxious, stagnant, & just fuckin weird sometimes.

I finally surrendered & quit trying to make sense or rigidly control everything.

I live by the MO: “I don’t do rules, I do what feels right.“

Maybe you’re here in a similar energetic space, too.

Warm summer days, the road & the radio = life’s simple pleasures

When you first meet me, I’m pretty quiet. (Unless I’m jacked up on caffeine😂)

I’m an observer, an “experience collector” I like to say.

I might not have a ton to say. I may not have a ton of questions to ask, but that’s because I do a lot of listening.

Not in a judgmental sense, but out of an intention to learn. To actually hear your story. To connect with your energy & not just the words coming out of your mouth.

The more you listen, the more people tell you. The more you get quiet with yourself, the more clarity you have with your answers & paths you wish to take.

In these times when I go internal & solitary (hermit mode lol), some people in my life tend to get triggered. My silence is nothing personal, but a protective growth measure & absolute survival necessity for me.

↓SIDE NOTE ↓

{A tip that will help you live a more peaceful life: live by the Four Agreements}

The Four Agreements are:

Be Impeccable With Your Word.
Don’t Take Anything Personally.
Don’t Make Assumptions.
Always Do Your Best.

current body and inbody scan — Best I’ve ever felt & looked. My 40’s have treated me well! Every year gets better!

Here are a few blogs for you, because I know I’ll get asked about food/workouts/routines, etc. ↓

🦾Biohacking/Anti-aging Guide Here

🦾Daily Fit Routine Here

🦾A Guide On How I Fixed My Fat Loss Levers: Leptin Resistance, Insulin Resistance, & Cortisol Balance Hacks

Meals I’m currently enjoying right now

I’ve had a lot of conversations. I’ve listened to a lot of stories from y’all. I’ve heard a lot about life. I’ve had a lot of wisdom, vulnerability, courage, & confession shared with me.

And while I’d never disclose the words & revelations composing these exchanges, the one thing I am constantly reminded of is:
→nobody has their shit together.

The ONLY way to truly have your shit together…is to accept that you’re NEVER going to have it together & to find out how to live within that.

The people we admire for their “togetherness” just have one piece or a few pieces of the puzzle figured out. What they don’t do, is let the subsequent balls dropping interfere with their success & progress.

Managing overwhelm comes with how well you know your comfort zone. Not for the purpose of staying within it, but having enough awareness to know when it is beneficial for you to push past your pre-existing limits & when you need to stay in it.

you're never too old — Tap photo for my weight loss, gut healing, & carnivore story. This is how I did it!

Get comfortable in the chaos.

Hey, I like my bourbon on the rocks kinda like my life LOL! Beef & bourbon can solve alotta problems ya know. [ Write that down 🙂 ]

Having it together is boring. It doesn’t give you much else to learn nor extension to grow.

I’d rather take my mess & have a story to show😉

I stumbled across a letter I wrote to myself my freshman year at Purdue.

During orientation, we were told to write these letters to our future selves with our hopes & dreams.

“Dear Katie, I hope you always remember how wildly beautiful you are. And on those days that you forget, I hope you always remember you have the strength to come back, forgive yourself & try again.”

The one piece that struck me → I ended it saying that, “I hope that when I read this letter, I have learned to love myself & have grown as a person.”

You’ll learn as you get older when you know you’re rare, you live different.

You love different. You surround yourself with other rare, high value people, too.

You don’t waste your rarity taking things personal or trying to control other people.

You don’t waste your time trying to chase or convince others of your worth.

So proud of the woman I used to be that created the woman I am today.

I wrote another letter on July 1st to myself on my 40th birthday eve last year.

I sent it to a woman today mourning a younger version of herself…

“People everywhere walk around fearing aging, & trying to deny its fate.
But it is exciting…a new decade, a new start, a new adventure!

I love how much you have grown in your acceptance of being just who you are over the last few decades.

I love how you are willing to do the hard work of examining thoughts, actions & past experiences.
How you work to find all the little elements that make you, you.

I love how you have taken on challenges & stepped into new things, with some trepidation but also excitement.

I love that you feel more & more comfortable in your own skin, with your own particular way of dressing, loving, eating, & being.

I love that you are a good friend & an encourager of women.

I know that last decade had pain, some heartache & tears, & I can’t promise that the next decade won’t hold that too.
But I pray that you will continue to remember that grief is a part of life, that you will allow it to wash over you but not overwhelm you.

I pray that you grow in your writing. That your words reach women of all ages, that you lift them up will a simple phrase or a recognition of “me too”.

I pray that you continue to grow in your capacity to love. That you will continue to be a true, honest friend & lover. One who is able to have hard conversations & grow a friendship & relationship.

I pray that you will not despise the small ordinariness of life. But also, that you won’t get subsumed by it & will reach for extraordinary experiences.

I pray that you will continue to treat your body with the respect & honor it deserves. Not despising any part of it, but celebrating that you are a woman of 40 years.

Above all I pray that you will continue to listen to your maker & creator, when he says “this is the way, walk in it”. (Isaiah 30:21)

Happy 40th, & may the next decade be better than the last,

Katie
Oxox”

It was✅

Take what you need from this❤️

✪All resources, email list, discount codes, guides, recipes, coaching, & more here

Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, body transformation, & adapting to a carnivore diet lifestyle.

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

June 25, 2023

Easy Carnivore Macros & Meal Plans For Fat Loss

Meal prep & macro cheat sheets to help give y’all visual examples of how to break down meals.

Cheat sheets on IG here

Included the “meat your macros” with #MeatBars examples if you like 2 meals/d.⁣

These are basic af & utilize 2 lbs of ground meat to keep them as easy as possible. You don’t necessarily have to cook these in the air fryer, you can cook them anyway you want.
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Blog for Meat Bars Recipe here

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You can eat 2-3 meals/d or even 4 of you need to. You guys can do things however you want, there is no right or wrong way.⁣
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Protein requirements will vary for different individuals, your goals, food & training preferences, health history, digestibility, etc…⁣
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I recommend weighing out your meat raw, which is the information available on the label. Meat shrinks down 20-30% in weight after cooking. I find most people are either weighing & logging meat incorrectly &/or are inefficient at eyeballing.
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Hitting protein goals is a non-negotiable. Starting out hitting your maintenance macros is also highly recommended when adjusting to this way of eating (WOE). Use the tdeecalculator.net to find yours.⁣
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Our need for protein becomes even more important if we’re avid exercisers, in a muscle-gaining phase, a fat loss phase, &/or as we age.⁣
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My typical range is .8-1.2g/lb of bodyweight for most active individuals. The leaner the individual, the higher protein most can tolerate or require. I’ve had some even prefer up to 1.5g/lb of bw especially if they’re carnivore & in a fat loss phase. Those with more body fat, I’d likely have aim closer towards that ~0.8 recommendation.⁣
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Some examples I’ve used with clients:⁣
21-40 y/o, 105 lb, 5’0-5’2 lean individual = ~105-158g protein (~1.0-1.5)⁣
30 y/o, 120 lb, 5’2-5’3 lean individual = ~120-135g protein (~1.0–1.1)⁣
30 y/o, 160 lb, 5’3-5’5 individual = ~130g protein (~0.8)⁣
45 y/o+, 130 lb, 5’3 individual = ~130-145g protein (~1.0-1.1)⁣

Recipe book & guides here

June 14, 2023

Simple Strategies That Helped Me Stop Binge Eating And Start Treating Food As Fuel

strategies that helped me stop binging & start treating food as fuel, abstainers vs moderators

I didn’t dare talk about it much publicly when I was younger, I used to binge eat — A LOT. It didn’t help my health, gut issues, gym performance, or fat loss goals either.

It would happen mostly when I was lonely, stressed, or bored out of my mind. Sometimes, it would happen when I was celebrating, too — but always when I was alone. I would go to the store, buy all the junk food, then go home or sit in my car & eat as much as I could. I was an addict, food was my drug, & binging was a high.

I’d eat until I didn’t think I could eat another bite, & then felt so sick I’d puke to “undo” what I’d done. Sometimes even after I threw up, I’d wait a while, & when the feelings of nausea started to subside, I’d start eating again until either the food was gone, I vomited, or until I went to bed in deep shameful sleep.

Without fail, I’d wake up feeling like absolute shit the next day. I’d beat myself up, forcing an unending spiral of guilt, restriction, & punishment.

To make myself feel even worse, I’d look in the mirror & tell myself how terrible I looked, & that I would never be good enough until I could stop eating & got as thin as I could. That if only I could somehow turn myself into one of those people who just “forgets” to eat, then I’d finally be good enough.

But that was the wrong approach.

Learning to Treat Food as Fuel
Looking back at how I used to treat food & abuse my body, my first reaction is to wonder what the hell was wrong with me. After all, the binge eating obviously made me feel like a dumpster fire, physically & emotionally, yet I kept doin it.

But when I took the time to look deeper into my behaviors & habits, I started to be kinder to myself & feel empathy for that past Katie.

Back then, I didn’t treat food as fuel as I do now. I treated it as the enemy.

So if you deal with binge eating at times, or know someone who does, know that you’re not alone. Know there’s hope. But you have to start treating food like you should — as nourishment, not punishment, a treat, or reward.

Here are the strategies that slowly helped me learn to stop binging & start treating food as fuel!

If you don’t know how to stop binge eating start here

Start Eating Enough During the Day

One of the constant mistakes I used to make was to eat as little as possible throughout the day, often limiting food intake to as little as 1,000–1,200 calories. I thought I was being “good” & if I could eat as little as possible without completely crashing, the better.

This caused several problems:

Incredibly low energy, meaning my workouts were shit (if I worked out at all).
Mental fatigue, due to lack of fuel — your body needs food to function at an optimal level.
Feelings of endless hunger due to hormones bring completely f*cked, even after eating a reasonable meal. This made me more susceptible to binging!

The key was pretty simple: EAT enough throughout the day.

Start tracking your calories if you need to keep yourself accountable, & aim to eat at least every 4 hours. This strategy may scare you a bit & make you feel like you’re eating “too much.” But trust me — eating enough during the day does wonders to help you avoid binging.

Don’t Keep Trigger Foods Around

We all have certain foods that once we start eating them, we just can’t stop.

A few of mine:

Cracker, cookies, cereal, cheese nips, goldfish
Sweet sugary candy & drinks
Ice cream, cool whip, chocolate, nut butters
Cake, cupcakes, doughnuts, rolls, biscuits
Rice, french fries, mashed potatoes – basically any CARB.

I’m an abstainer, carbs are drugs for me so I cut them out of my diet almost completely switching to a carnivore WOE (way of eating). Not only is my Crohn’s disease in remission, I’ve lost 55lbs, & healed my binge eating changing the way I eat.

weight loss before and after katie kelly carnivore — Tap here to learn how I healed my gut and lost weight via the carnivore diet

Why do I not “cheat” on my diet? Because it’s not worth it. You’re not winning by cheating on yourself.

Grace & Control Your Environment

Nobody is perfect. We will all have days when we eat too much, choose the less healthy option.

That’s why I follow a flexible “carnivore” low carb approach. I eat well 90% of the time, eating perfect & healthy 100% of the time is unrealistic.

One of the most common questions: How do you stick to a healthy diet when you’re surrounded by tempting food?

The answer: change your environment.

In other words, make it as easy as possible to eat healthy food & as difficult as possible to eat unhealthy food.

Keep healthy food with you so you’re never tempted.
Make it harder to eat out by cooking more meals at home.
Don’t grocery shop when you’re hungry & make sure you’re eating enough to fuel your day!

Restriction or Food Freedom?

Abstainers vs Moderators

Food & sugar addiction are not bullsh*t excuses people make to eat & live a certain way. I lived food addiction for 30+ yrs. It negatively affected me physically & mentally.

I am definitely an abstainer when it comes to carbs & sugar. It is freeing to me to have food rules & not have to waste energy justifying my choices & actions. I either DO or I DON’T. I also understand not everyone is wired this way.

Moderators & abstainers are often very judgmental toward each other, as they both believe that their way of approaching temptation is the right way.

Some think that a meat-based diet or “carnivore” is too extreme and restrictive. But whether that’s true for you might depend on whether you’re an Abstainer or a Moderator. This is why we determine which one you are. It makes choosing a nutrition approach easier because sustainability, ease, & adherence are everything.

I feel our society as a whole has a strong moderator bias. How many times have you heard someone say: “Everything in moderation”?

As one who is an abstainer & suffered with food addiction, disordered eating, orthorexia, alongside an autoimmune condition like Crohn’s, I know first hand not everyone can moderate & eat all foods without repercussions.

Saying things to an abstainer like:

“You’re too restrictive.”

“Just loosen up.”

“One won’t kill you.”

etc…

…is like telling an alcoholic or drug addict to “just have one drink or one hit, you’ll be fine.”

How to Handle Food Pushers & Moderators If You’re an Abstainer

“You’re too restrictive.” We’re all different & I respect your choices. To me, the way I eat is freeing & meets my needs so I can be the best for you. I honor my body & that may change in the future, but for right now, I feel great!

“Just loosen up.” I’m happy you can moderate food choices, but that does not align for me. For people who are abstainers, we have specific needs & approaches that work better.

“Just have one.” I appreciate the gesture, but I don’t feel my best when I have those foods, mentally or physically. Thank you for understanding!

“Meat is bad for you.” Well, so is drinking nothing but celery juice. ( jus sayin lol)

Everyone has the freedom to eat & live as they choose. Right now this is my choice & I respect yours. I feel great, it’s easy & sustainable for me. If I get to a point where I feel like I need to make an adjustment, I will honor that.

Go your own way.

Can you relate to my story too?

oxox Coach K

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June 6, 2023

5 Psychological Reasons You Hate Your Body & Don’t Feel Confident

All you need to know…

I tried every program possible to get in shape in my 20s & 30s, & I still looked & felt like sh*t.

I constantly had ‘projects’. Big Plans.

Keto for 6 weeks. Crash diet for 3 months. Cold showers for… well I didn’t last long with that one, to be honest. Brrrr.

After 40 your mind & body start arguing with you a little. You realize 99% of people struggle to do things that can’t be found in their social media feeds, meal plans, cookie cutter bs fitness stuff, & Google searches.

The secrets come from within. Check out this video with Serena at Carnivore Revolution!

In the video we talk:⁣
– Your relationship with food, exercise, & self
– Being a moderator vs abstainer
– Crossfit, training & workouts
– Trigger foods & tracking food⁣, macros
-What I drink & eat
-High fat vs high protein carnivore
-Meat bars & recipes
-Tips to help anyone wanting to change their health
-Gut issues, gut healing, Crohn’s disease, disordered eating
-Judgment, criticism, worrying about what other people think of you
-Social media triggers, food pushers
And more!

If you want to feel more confident, work to identify & eliminate these confidence-killing, progress smashing habits:

Avoiding emotions & reassurance-seeking
Second-guessing yourself
Constantly catastrophizing & thinking negatively
Dwelling on the past, mistakes, & failures
Avoiding fear & feeling unsafe

Each week, I create blogs & content with simple, practical tips for building emotional & physical health & wellbeing. I truly hope these have helped you create a better human!

All resources, links, & guides live in the link in my Instagram bio, highlights, blog at lilbitoffit.com, & YouTube! You can also subscribe to my private email list!

I enjoy sharing my experiences & knowledge. Thank you to all who read, engage, & have become a part of my digital family!

oxox Coach K

23 Simple Rules to Transform Your Fitness & Health in order to live your best life! girl with barbell deadlifts in gym

Rules To Live Your Best Life including my daily routine to help you create your own!

It comes down to your habits

Here’s how most people think about their lack of confidence:

I’d be more confident & successful if I lost 20 lbs…
If only I had more money I’d be happier…
If my parents had really loved me then I’d feel more confident & secure in my relationships…
If I had more time I could focus on my fitness…

Fortunately, they’re wrong.

Of course, everything from genetics to childhood experience has some influence on how confident you feel (or don’t). But by far the biggest influence on confidence is the one everyone seems to miss…

It’s your habits in the present, not the events of your past, that determine your confidence.

In my work as a nutrition coach & taking care of patients for over 18 years in the healthcare industry, I’ve found that there are a handful of confidence-killing habits people fall into without knowing it. And it’s these habits that are the real causes of chronically low confidence, body hate, & unhappiness with life. If you can learn to identify & work through them, you’ll find that your natural levels of confidence & life satisfaction are much higher than you realize.

Why you over eat & self sabotage

1. You’re addicted to avoiding emotions & reassurance

Reassurance-seeking is like outsourcing emotional labor onto other people. And not only does it kill your confidence, it also tends to sabotage your relationships & lead to people becoming resentful of you.

Food & healthy emotional navigation are medicine. They can stabilize you & also throw you off. I’ve observed in over 18 years of working in healthcare & nutrition, overeating, body hate, & food addictions are common among those who avoid &/or numb emotions & are constantly seeking reassurance & outside validation.

Food addiction is a biggie. Frequently, the specific addiction is to sugar or carbohydrates, which is a huge reason I adopted the “carnivore” WOE (way of eating) for both my Crohn’s disease & disordered eating. I’ve lost 55lbs & put my Crohn’s & bulimia in med-free remission for over 4 years.

Avoiding painful feelings always makes them worse in the end. When you immediately run away from your emotional difficulties, you’re teaching your brain that you’re afraid of feeling bad & can’t handle it on your own. This means the next time you feel afraid you’re going to feel doubly afraid and not confident to deal with it, oftentimes seeking numbing through food, drugs, alcohol, spending, & using other people.

A helpful survival guide

Tips that have helped me to eat well, stay fit, & release negativity before self sabotaging & over eating:

Breathe: When you feel stress, immediately focus on breathing slowly & deeply. This releases negative energy. Holding your breath out of fear traps toxicity in your body.

Hydrate: Water purifies you. Drink filtered or spring water, especially when you’ve been exposed to negative energy & have the urge to overeat. Consume at least 1/2 your body weight in oz daily. Get in adequate electrolytes. Take a bath or shower. Water washes away impurities of all kinds.

Minimize Sugar & Processed Food As Much As Possible: Although you may crave carbs & sugar (as well as alcohol), they will destabilize you mentally & physically. This makes you more susceptible to absorbing unwanted energy & self sabotaging. These kinds of hyperpalatable foods are like drugs, leaving you wanting more.

Prioritize Protein: Protein stabilizes. It gives a sense of grounding & satiation. Get protein at every meal, at least 30-50g. Big reason many food addicts thrive, lose weight, & heal on carnivore.

Rest: Sleep. Remove yourself from your busy routine. Regularly unplug. We stay stuck in the in-between, dissatisfied & seeking something to make us feel better. Solitude is your best friend. Go take a walk in nature. Eat alone & mindfully especially if you’re an empath.

Restore & Release: Part of the human condition is that we come with soul wounds, past trauma, & conditioning. Our job is to heal & reintegrate the perceived “unlovable” parts of ourselves so we can live connected to Self, Source, & each other. The parts of yourself that you’re angry or ashamed of are the source of your suffering. Therapy does wonders!

Move: Walk, go to the gym, get sunlight, connect with friends. We cope with stress, including loneliness, by using dopamine-triggering substances & behaviors as a means of avoiding painful emotions & self-awareness. But if we make a commitment to living a kick-ass life, then moving the body will get the dopamine flowing, reconnecting us to what we truly enjoy, like our friends & families. Oh, and that workout high & lookin good nekkid too!!

Second-guessing & perfectionism

2. You second-guess yourself constantly

Each time you second-guess yourself, it’s a tiny message to your brain that you don’t believe in yourself. If you’re in the habit of constantly second-guessing yourself, think about what you’re teaching your brain?

If every time a big decision arrives your immediate reaction is to tell your brain you’re not capable of making big decisions, how confident can you expect to feel the next time a big decision comes around?

Look, it’s obviously important to be thoughtful before making decisions — especially big ones with major consequences and lots of uncertainty.

But it’s also important to accept that you will never eliminate uncertainty entirely. This means there will always be a chance you make the wrong decision, but they’re just lessons that help make you a better, more well-equipped version of yourself.

The heart of second-guessing is the unwillingness to accept the fundamental uncertainty of life. Chronic second-guessing is a form of perfectionism where you feel like no matter how hard you work, the result is never good enough because it’s not perfect. If you want to feel more confident, you need to make your peace with uncertainty & accept the responsibility of making decisions & being unattached from the outcome.

Managing your inner narrative

3. You constantly catastrophize & think negatively

Catastrophizing is an extreme form of worry where you quickly start thinking about all the worst case scenarios…

Oh my God, I’m gonna gain 10 lbs if I lift & eat more…
Great, I’m gonna lose my job. How will I be able to make rent? What will other people think?
I can’t wear that… they probably think I’m poor or ugly, etc…

The ability to imagine the worst case scenario can be a good thing in the appropriate time & place if you can emotionally navigate thru the therapeutic process to shift your mindset to one of safety, power, & security. But if you’re in the habit of always catastrophizing, not only will it chip away at your confidence in your ability to handle difficulties in the future — it’s also going to make you incredibly anxious & stressed to the titties all the time.

If you’re constantly telling yourself the world is ending, you’re going to constantly feel like the world is ending. And it’s awfully hard to feel confident when you’re always worried that disaster is right around the corner.

“Instead of worrying about what you cannot control, shift your energy to what you can create.” Roy T. Bennett

Embrace failures as lessons

4. You dwell on past mistakes

Just like it’s hard to feel confident if you’re always predicting that disaster is about to strike, it’s similarly hard to feel confident if you’re constantly reminding yourself of your mistakes & “failures.”

Healthy reflection is a good & normal thing. Which means some degree of thinking back on your mistakes in an attempt to learn from them is very useful — even confidence-boosting!

But if you’re habitually reminding yourself of past mistakes well past the point of new learning, it’s all side effect & no benefit. You’re keeping your shame & insecurity high & your confidence & self-worth low.

It’s hard to feel confident about the future when you won’t let go of the past.

The trick is that you have to be willing to live with the fact that the past is unchangeable, which means you are truly helpless to change it.

More often than not, incessant rumination about the past is a sign that you haven’t really confronted that helplessness & learned to embrace it o make better decisions. Your low confidence & life dissatisfaction are unfortunate casualties of that denial.

“To think too much is a disease.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Stop avoiding fear

5. You’re afraid of feeling unsafe & afraid

The American President Franklin Roosevelt famously said: The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. And while his political and economic policies aren’t something I’m qualified to comment on, as a statement of human psychology, that quote is pretty right on the mark.

Because here’s the thing: The fear that keeps your confidence low doesn’t come from the thing itself, but from the feelings about it.

Why do you think many people drink before giving speeches/toasts or going on dates? Alcohol doesn’t make you more articulate or attractive. Alcohol makes you feel confident because it gets rid of your fear & inhibitions & lets your natural confidence shine through (at the right dosage, anyway 🙂

In any situation where you lack confidence & feel afraid or unsafe, there’s a good chance the real obstacle is your relationship with fear & specific triggers. If you want to feel more confident, start to cultivate a healthier relationship with your fear. Start acknowledging it & validating it instead of trying to avoid it. Remember: Confident people don’t escape fear. They master it.

“The soul becomes dyed with the color of its thoughts.” Marcus Aurelius

June 2, 2023

The Hard Truths About Body Fat % & Getting Lean Af

My body shivered as I undressed & stepped on the scale.
I looked at the number. Shit.

But I’m different now. I’m better. I don’t read Anorexia blogs, starve myself, or equate my weight with my self-worth anymore. Yet, a tiny thought crosses my mind. “Just five more,” it whispers. “Imagine how powerful you’d feel. Maybe then you’d actually like yourself.”

Instead of glorifying shredded abs & single digit body fat, I’m speaking up. In a society that pressures us to look a certain way, I know others share my past struggle.
Yeah, they’re the parts of me I’m not proud of, but understanding them changed my life.

I used to believe that starving was an art, bare bones were beautiful, & I was an artist.

I’d try & mold my body to match the models on TV & in the magazines. I worked hard to paint the emptiness I felt inside.

When I was in 3rd grade, I got the honor of being ‘the fat kid.’ This event might not sound like a big deal to some, but to 8-year-old me, it was traumatic. Food became my enemy. My stomach hurt all the time, too. Later on in life to be diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease. My poor relationships with food (specifically binging on carbs & sugar) & body image exacerbated.

At the beginning of 7th grade, we did weigh-ins. When it was my turn to stand on the scale, my health teacher made a frowny face at the numbers & pulled me aside. I was informed I was 160lbs & obese at 5ft tall.

My cheeks burned, & tears streamed from my eyes as I was lectured about exercising & eating less.

And by my senior year of high school, I was a mastermind of my craft. I learned how to eat just enough to keep me from binging or passing out.

Losing weight was like a drug — each time I stood on the scale, dopamine rushed into my brain, & I forgot all my problems.

Getting smaller also gave me a sense of power — & I loved it. I loved feeling “better” than everyone else because I was the ‘perfect’ anorexic & bulimic.

No matter how skinny I became, I couldn’t get rid of my problems. My weight yoyo’d over the years. I was fading away from my life; I was lonely, miserable, & sick. I burned bridges in relationships because of my constant irritability, fatigue, gut issues, & obsession with losing weight.

While I’d been chasing the ‘high’ & power, there were other feelings, a deeper longing, that I needed to acknowledge. Helplessness & self hate.

From my struggles came my strengths & my passion for helping others. My awesomeness comes from being myself — from writing, speaking my truth, & kindling the potential energy within me.

We are all artists; we’re sculptors & painters, creators of our dreams, poets of our memories. Let our hands mold our ambitions, not our appearances. Because it is there where we find our true power!

oxox Coach K

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June 1, 2023

23 Simple Rules to Transform Your Fitness & Health In Order To Live Your Best Life!

You lie to yourself a lot. You know you do. At some point, you have to rip the band-aid, learn from mistakes & do what works.

Hi. I’m Katie.
I’ve coached hundreds of nutrition & fitness clients.
I’ve taken care of hundreds of patients in the 18 years I’ve been in this space.

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I ain’t here to preach or convince you I know everything or am the best coach in the world.
I’m here to speak to my younger self, to remind my current self, & anyone else out there needing hope.

My rules for a good life are based on years of struggle, both personally, & seeing others fall deeper & deeper into the dark abyss of 50 shades of fucked up.

Now is always the time to get into the best shape & live your best life.

When you want to help people, you tell them the truth. When you want to help yourself, you tell them what they want to hear. I’m not here to tell you what you want to hear.

I don’t provide cures. If I know anything about self-improvement it’s because I battle & struggle with it every day, too. Most self-improvement writers & coaches are writing & coaching to themselves, with the hopes that it helps you.

So use the concept of radical honesty, with yourself & with others, to fight the uphill battle needed to change your life. Be honest with yourself about who you are, what you want, & what you need to do to stay true to both.

Let’s go!

Rules To Live Your Best Life

If you’re anxious, slow down. If you’re depressed, speed up.

Anxiety means we’re doing too much & overthinking. Slowing down consciously helps with this. Being depressed is often remedied by leaning into action & getting busy.

Never make big decisions when you’re emotional.

Take your time & give the decision as much time as possible. It’s ok if you’re scared, but if you know it’s right in your gut, then act. We feel our thoughts. If our thinking makes us doubtful & fearful, those thoughts are not serving us. We don’t need to be at the mercy of a thought.

If you’re self-conscious, focus on serving others.

Self-consciousness has brought me little but misery. When I feel anxious, it’s time to focus on making someone else smile & serving. This takes the pressure off me & instantly makes me feel better because I’m helping someone else.

Drink coffee.

Coffee (caffeine) is a fat loss cheat code when used optimally. It’ll help you burn fat through a few different mechanisms: Fat mobilization (moving fat out of storage), Fat oxidation (burning fat), Increased adrenaline (the release of adrenaline leads to more fat burning)

Eat 1g of protein/lb of body weight or goal weight if you have more to lose.

Protein is crucial for optimizing body composition & controlling hunger/satiety. Aim for 30–40g/meal through things like: meat, seafood, eggs, & dairy (if you’re not sensitive)

Time-restricted eating (Intermittent Fasting).

Eat all of your meals within a 12 hour or less window each day. Choose a fasting window that works for you like: 12/12, 14/10, 16/8, 18/6, etc. Don’t snack or eat outside of this. TRE will accelerate your fat loss by letting your body tap into its fat stores, autophagy, & giving your digestive system a break.

Avoid seed, veggie, & low quality oils (fats).

Things like: canola (rapeseed) oil, corn oil, cottonseed oil, grapeseed oil, rice bran oil, soybean oil, safflower oil, & sunflower oil. They’re highly inflammatory & are destroying your health, metabolism, & weight loss efforts. If you want to get in the best shape of your life, avoid these at all costs.

Morning fasted walk/movement.

During a fasted walk, your body has minimal stores of available energy (glycogen) from the foods you eat. Your body needs to tap into energy stores in the body (stored fat) plus its good for the mind.

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Get 7+ hours of high-quality sleep & walk 10k steps/day.

If you’re not getting 7 hours of sleep, you’re sabotaging your efforts. Your hormones will be out of whack — leading to increased hunger/ cravings. Your body is also more likely to hold onto fat & is going to struggle to build muscle. If you want to transform your body, you need to walk more. Walking 10k steps/day might be the highest ROI habit in this list. This one habit can dramatically improve your ability to lose fat & will improve your energy, mood, & productivity too.

Make the first move & be a role model.

Stop waiting to be a follower. Stop waiting for permission to create something cool. Start a conversation with a stranger. Experiment first. Lean in first & make it a habit. Now you’re the leader, & you set the precedent for creating success that others will admire & follow.

Walk tall, always look & do your best.

Posture has been known to directly affect our chemical composition, among other benefits. Walk a fraction taller with a skip in your step. Your self-image will improve by doing this alone. The little things regarding your appearance make a huge difference in how you perceive yourself & how others perceive you. Be extra. Clean your dirty-ass shoes. Iron your shirt. It will infect your confidence (the good way).

Do what most others refuse to do.

What interests you? How bad do you want something? Your drive, commitment, & work ethic set you apart by doing what others do NOT have the patience or fortitude to do. That’s how you separate yourself from the pack.

Eat nourishing, single-ingredient foods.

You need to eat high-quality foods if you want to be healthy & lose weight. By prioritizing single-ingredient foods (i.e., foods as they come in nature), you’ll make massive progress. Eat these foods 80-90% of the time & be flexible with the other 10-20%. (Shit like Beyond Meat & packaged diet foods are NOT one of them. Read your labels!)

Lift weights at least 3x a week.

Lifting weights is key if you want to transform your body. Lifting weights: burns a lot of fat, increases your metabolism, improves your body comp (what you look like aka looking good nekkid), builds muscle (which will also lead to you burning more calories at rest).

Minimize alcohol consumption.

It wrecks your sleep, sabotages your weight loss efforts, & leads to many other unhealthy habits. Stick to an allocated 1–2 drinks/wk. Plan ahead & find alternatives so that you don’t give in in the moment.

Get your heart rate up & do HIIT 1–2x a week.

High-intensity interval training, or HIIT, is another great tool for fat loss. It involves exercising at a higher intensity for a short period of time, followed by a period of rest. I personally love CrossFit because it combines strength training sprinkled with a little HIIT.

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Eat healthy fats.

Fat doesn’t make us fat, despite what we’ve been told. We need fats — our cells are made up of this vital macronutrient & they are the precursors to our hormones. Prioritize things like: eggs, fatty fish/seafood, avocados (if you’re not sensitive), & fatty cuts of meat.

Measure & track progress (especially if things aren’t working).

You need objective data to ensure you’re making progress & proper adjustments. You can measure: food (calories/macros), body weight, body fat %, lean muscle mass, blood glucose, ketones, performance (cardio/endurance/strength) in the gym, body measurements, etc.

Manage stress.

Stress is an overlooked aspect of body transformation. Cortisol (our stress hormone) disrupts insulin activity & leads to weight gain. It also makes it hard to build muscle. Include de-stressing practices like walking, coloring, yoga, working out, & meditation.

Make a habit of asking.

Many people fall short of their dreams & potential because they don’t want to rock the boat, ask for help, seek coaching or mentorship, & let their ego get the best of them. You can be, do, or have anything you want if you’re willing to do what you need to do & learn to achieve it.

Create something & smile every day.

Journal your thoughts. Brainstorm ideas. Design. Share your stories. Build a following with your advice. There’s little downside & massive upside to daily creating. Also, smiles are free & contagious. It can change your &/or someone else’s entire day!

Don’t be a whiner, moaner, complainer, or fun-hater.

No one likes a Debbie Downer. Whining reaffirms a negative reality. Focusing on what’s good brings more good in.

Mind what you consume.

What you consume, consumes you & what consumes you, controls your life. It’s not only what we eat & drink but also what we watch, listen to, media, & environment. If you want to change, become a better version of yourself, you have to change your habits. Listen to a podcast, motivational speakers, surround yourself with successful, positive minded people – create yourself a new environment.

Final Thoughts

If you want better health, a better body, & a better life, it’s gonna take work. For some of us, maybe you’re simply not disciplined enough. It is what it is – you either do or you don’t.

There’s nothing worse than rolling through life in the passenger’s seat.

I don’t know about you, but I would rather be a DOer. Goals don’t mean anything unless you act. Just like knowledge isn’t power unless there’s application. We were made to be ACTIVE participants in life. The word ATTRACTION includes the word ACTION.

Do these sound familiar?

“I want this, but not bad enough to do what is required to achieve it”
“I can’t cut back on workouts.” (even though they’re stressing my body out even more which is actually hindering progress)
“I can’t give up sugar/bangs/etc.” (even though my glucose/cortisol are jacked up thru the roof & I can’t sleep at night)
“I can’t give up sweets & snacking at night.” (even though they’re causing inflammation, gut problems, high glucose, fat gain, & more cravings)
“I can’t reverse diet because I’ll gain weight.” (even though you’ve been eating less than a toddler for 20+ yrs & still don’t have the health or body you want)

Thank you for reading & allowing me to add value to your lives! Link here to resources, guides, coaching & more!

Life is the dash between the dates on your tombstone. What you do with it is your choice.
Katie Kelly @lil_bit_of_fit

While the inevitable is bound to happen, my goal is to carpe diem my way thru life & make my dash everything I want it to be. People will remember how you made them feel. Treat each other with respect & smile more. Remember this special dash might only last a little while. So, when your eulogy is being read, would you be proud of the things they say about how you spent YOUR dash?