Month: January 2025

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What Do Dying People Regret The Most?

I used to buy those “fancy bras” because that’s what all popular girls wore.

Hated them. They’re not comfortable. Bralettes or no bra at all are the way to go, Sisters.

Confession: I actually had a guy ask me if I even owned a “regular” bra. In typical “Hello, signed by a Scorpio ♏️ fashion” I replied, “Let’s just be real here, it all ends up on the floor anyways, does it really matter?” 😄🤷🏻‍♀️

This all ties into living life for YOU & not for other people.

For decades I lived an unfulfilled, lackluster life because I felt I had to:

  • Stay in relationships I knew weren’t right
  • Be a certain size & weight, lift a certain number on the barbell to be worthy
  • Stay in the same job you hate your entire life because, well, that’s what was expected
  • Just follow suit because that’s what good little girls & good little employees do
  • Water down my personality & sexuality & not take chances asking men out because I feel rejection & judgment
  • Keep toxic people around because I was just being nice. 🤢 I cringe at the words good, nice, & vanilla.

In one of the most popular posts I’ve ever written👉NO.1 REGRET OF THE DYING: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Of all the elderly patients I’ve had the honor to take care of their joys & regrets have nothing to do with over working or what they looked like but their relationships, fulfillment, time & health, not their resumes.

Most who spent huge chunks of their lives working toward a vision of societally defined “success,” i.e. titles & money, regret. But those who poured themselves into deeply meaningful relationships, joy, & experiences, don’t.

Most boil down to one overarching regret: not doing & saying what really matters to you. Living out of obligation instead of purpose.

The dying people I cared & care for help me understand how irrelevant stupid rules, “proper” timelines, & the opinions of others are in the end, & my courage has set me free of such cares.

Live free❤️

Oxox Coach K

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Katie Kelly is a nutritionist, writer, & travel registered radiologic technologist. Indiana farmer’s daughter who likes to describe herself as a storyteller, experience collector, & athlete of life. Former hot mess down 60lbs, in Crohn’s remission, & financially free with nothin’ but an airfryer & a prayer. Location: 𖡡 Aging gracefully somewhere between scrubs & steak.

On social, she’s better known as Coach K, but most of all wants you to know she’s struggled just like you. More importantly, she wants you to believe in yourself, your health, your voice, & your ability to live your best life!

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Life Is Too Short For Bad Sex, Bad Food, And Watered-Down Cocktails

The one about life is too short for… bad sex, bad food, watered down cocktails & the one that “gets around.”

I experience life as “moments of loving & learning.” And myyy have I had some exquisite moments of loving🥰😉

I had a woman message me yesterday stating she wanted to embrace her sexuality, but was afraid of exploring & being judged as the woman who “gets around” vs “perfect.”

She recently transformed her body, lost weight, feelin good about herself, & finally in a position to date. I can empathize. I too have lost 60 lbs in my lifetime.

weight loss before and after carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly

Lemme tell ya…real women aren’t perfect. And perfect women aren’t real. We all out here with stretch marks, cellulite, hair in weird places, & skeletons in our closets.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks it only matters what you think. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Take the one that “gets around.” Here’s my 42 year old perspective. My observation & experience is the only thing that matters on my opinion of a person. People view people & life thru their own lenses of experience & trauma.

If someone tells me, “Oh he gets around, you don’t want that,” my 22 yo self would immediately dismiss that person with a negative label.

At 42, I’m now like “Thank God! I ain’t got time to f*ckin teach!” 🤣 For real. I want someone with experience. You add more to the table of life with more experience. With anything in life — not just sex.

You learn confidence. Likes/dislikes. How to be better & work with what you have. You put the puzzle pieces together to create your masterpiece.

It’s like getting really excited about a guy then having sex & finding out he has a really small penis. But he’s the guy with a really small penis that isn’t good at anything else so the whole experience is f*cking sh*t & you’re like, “Yep, never hittin that again.”😹

Whatever. Y’all are laughing, nodding, &/or ready to unfollow me right now. 🤭 It’s OK.

Live life for YOU. Not the opinions of others.

Ain’t nobody got time for bad sex, bad food, & watered-down cocktails.

Oxox Coach K

Katie Kelly is a nutritionist, writer, & travel registered radiologic technologist. A sweary Indiana farmer’s daughter who likes to describe herself as a storyteller, experience collector, & athlete of life. Former hot mess down 60lbs, in Crohn’s remission, & financially free with nothin’ but an airfryer & a prayer. Location: 𖡡 Aging gracefully somewhere between scrubs & steak.

On social, she’s better known as Coach K, but most of all wants you to know she’s struggled just like you. More importantly, she wants you to believe in yourself, your health, your voice, & your ability to live your best life!

Looking for more from Katie? Join her newsletter here❤️

You can find free resources, guides, coaching, & all the links you’ll love here🔗