How to find yourself: steps to finding your flame

She couldn’t find her fire & asked what sparked my flame.

I responded to a dm from a woman telling me she felt lost in life. This is what I said…

“The sexiest thing in the world is someone who’s sure about you. And it’s not always about other people, it may oftentimes be yourself. Which is the most important relationship. 

For me, I want a love & life & fitness so fiery passionate & fulfilling it gives me a 3rd degree burn. THAT is the feeling I seek in every experience.

I want a love & life & fitness so decadent it tastes like freedom & home.

Connections where you don’t have to say a word but you feel all the feels so deep like you had an entire conversation under the stars where only you & that other person exist.

I want a life that forces me to grow, one that is so far from vanilla & ordinary that it ruins me in the best way possible.

I owe it to myself to not live in fear.

To love as many things as possible.

And to never settle for anything that makes me feel that I can’t be myself.

Like that love you can feed all your gritty secrets to & they’ll still be there in the morning, staring at you like you’re the finest meal they’ve ever seen after starving 100 deaths.”

Took me a minute to put those emotions into words, but I think she got the hint 😉🔥 

The healing process is all peaks & valleys.

For me, it has been like the tallest mountains & the deepest oceans.

I actually get uncomfortable now in the in-betweens. Straight roads make me nervous.

40 yrs of life have taught me so much. We can grow in great moments but we grow extraordinarily greater in the trenches.

Happy Saturday Fam❤️ Go find your flame ❤️‍🔥

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