Life Is Too Short For Bad Sex, Bad Food, And Watered-Down Cocktails

The one about life is too short forโ€ฆ bad sex, bad food, watered down cocktails & the one that โ€œgets around.โ€

I experience life as โ€œmoments of loving & learning.โ€ And myyy have I had some exquisite moments of loving๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿ˜‰

I had a woman message me yesterday stating she wanted to embrace her sexuality, but was afraid of exploring & being judged as the woman who โ€œgets aroundโ€ vs โ€œperfect.โ€

She recently transformed her body, lost weight, feelin good about herself, & finally in a position to date. I can empathize. I too have lost 60 lbs in my lifetime.

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Lemme tell yaโ€ฆreal women arenโ€™t perfect. And perfect women arenโ€™t real. We all out here with stretch marks, cellulite, hair in weird places, & skeletons in our closets.

It doesnโ€™t matter what anyone else thinks it only matters what you think. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Take the one that โ€œgets around.โ€ Hereโ€™s my 42 year old perspective. My observation & experience is the only thing that matters on my opinion of a person. People view people & life thru their own lenses of experience & trauma.

If someone tells me, โ€œOh he gets around, you donโ€™t want that,โ€ my 22 yo self would immediately dismiss that person with a negative label.

At 42, Iโ€™m now like โ€œThank God! I ainโ€™t got time to f*ckin teach!โ€ ๐Ÿคฃ For real. I want someone with experience. You add more to the table of life with more experience. With anything in life โ€” not just sex.

You learn confidence. Likes/dislikes. How to be better & work with what you have. You put the puzzle pieces together to create your masterpiece.

Itโ€™s like getting really excited about a guy then having sex & finding out he has a really small penis. But heโ€™s the guy with a really small penis that isnโ€™t good at anything else so the whole experience is f*cking sh*t & youโ€™re like, โ€œYep, never hittin that again.โ€๐Ÿ˜น

Whatever. Yโ€™all are laughing, nodding, &/or ready to unfollow me right now. ๐Ÿคญ Itโ€™s OK.

Live life for YOU. Not the opinions of others.

Ainโ€™t nobody got time for bad sex, bad food, & watered-down cocktails.

Oxox Coach K

Katie Kelly is a nutritionist, writer, & travel registered radiologic technologist. A sweary Indiana farmerโ€™s daughter who likes to describe herself as a storyteller, experience collector, & athlete of life. Former hot mess down 60lbs, in Crohnโ€™s remission, & financially free with nothinโ€™ but an airfryer & a prayer. Location: ๐–กก Aging gracefully somewhere between scrubs & steak.

On social, sheโ€™s better known as Coach K, but most of all wants you to know sheโ€™s struggled just like you. More importantly, she wants you to believe in yourself, your health, your voice, & your ability to live your best life!

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9 Life Lessons From 2024 That Make Me the Woman Writing This Today

๐Ÿ“ธLife drop lately + 9 life lessons from 2024 that make me the woman writing this todayโ€ฆ

You make the clothes, you define your style, you create enjoyment in your job, your profession, you sexify your weight, your fitness, your energy, your relationship(s), the way you make people feel, etc. YOU wear your โ€œcostumeโ€, not the other way around. Iโ€™ve embraced the lifestyle of minimalism & it has significantly improved my health too. Read more about that story here.

It’s okay to be weird. Different. Misunderstood. Normal people get normal outcomes. Your weirdness is a gift.

You’re not bad at anything. You simply need more reps. Practice. Stop judging yourself & do the work.

At the end of the day we are a tiny spec within a giant galaxy & when we die nothing matters. So stop worrying & do the sh*t you love & build a legacy.

Emotions & motivation are fleeting but your character is forever & forever changing. Reflect, act, & define wisely. Choose better. Do better.

Your life is a story. When you’re faced with a chapter you donโ€™t like, ask yourself: “What following chapter do I want to write about for what happens next?” I shared my weight loss story here.

Material things are only valuable if they truly give you energy. Same with people, things, environments โ€” basically EVERYTHING you consume. Love people, use things, be USEFUL.

There are no rules, do what feels right. Choose your own adventure. Happy people don’t spend their lives TRYING to be happy, they do what they want & happiness is a byproduct.

The person that’s capable of saving the day and fixing all your problems, is you.

In a world where most try to keep you in a box. I hope Iโ€™m the person who shows you there are no limits for yourself.

Oxox Coach Kโค๏ธ

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Katie Kelly is a nutritionist, writer, travel registered radiologic technologist, Indiana farmerโ€™s daughter, Crohnโ€™s warrior, experience collector, and athlete of life. Former hot mess down 60lbs + financially free with nothinโ€™ but an airfryer & a prayer. Location: Aging gracefully somewhere between scrubs & steak.

On social, sheโ€™s better known as Coach K, but most of all wants you to know sheโ€™s struggled just like you. More importantly, she wants you to believe in yourself, your health, your voice, & your ability to live your best life!

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Brutal Truth About Life That Will Make You Rethink Everythingย 

A few painful things I learned while self healing: If youโ€™re angry or regretful youโ€™re hoarding & livinโ€™ in the past. If youโ€™re worrying, youโ€™re livinโ€™ in the future. If you can look back & smile, look forward & smile, & youโ€™re contentโ€ฆwell, thatโ€™s when you know youโ€™re livinโ€™ graciously in the present.

And thatโ€™s when life all started to make sense.

โฃThat truth is what I hold onto every day. It doesnโ€™t mean things are always easy, in fact, Iโ€™ve had really frickin hard times on some of these travel Xray assignments, butโ€ฆ

I always learn new things

I always discover Iโ€™m tougher & more able

I acknowledge & savor growth is never comfortable.โฃ Itโ€™s what has made me perfectly imperfect & wise.

โฃHow you handle discomfort says it all & I choose to handle them with grace like a boss๐Ÿ˜‰โฃ๐Ÿ‘‘

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A trip down memory lane from 1 year ago, Photo dump of a weekend on my travels in #omahanebraska I LOVE it there! Hoping to go back soon! My heart & soul are were happy there. Some places make an imprint on your life & never leave.

I made great friends ๐Ÿ‘ญ๐Ÿ‘ฌ

I joined a new gym @otfpapioโฃ MISS YOU ALL!๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿงก๐Ÿ‘Ÿ

I learned new skills working at a medical practice๐Ÿฅโš•๏ธ๐Ÿฉบ

I road tripped to my 1st horse auctionโฃ๐Ÿด

I discovered cool gyms & cocktail bars & coffee places๐Ÿฆพ๐Ÿฅƒโ˜•๏ธ @proof192_omaha @proof_omaha was my FAV!

Smashed all the meatsโฃ๐Ÿฅฉ

Had fun with my hair!๐Ÿ’‡โ€โ™€๏ธ

Open up to opportunities & people that make life more fun. Itโ€™s that simple. Thereโ€™s no right time or specific version of yourself needed when youโ€™re setting goals, living in alignment, embracing your purpose & loving yourself.

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Ask yourself what youโ€™re livinโ€™ for & who youโ€™re livinโ€™ for, & if neither of those answers are YOU,  even if you think youโ€™re weird as hell, youโ€™re livinโ€™ the wrong life.โฃ

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And if I can offer you anything today, one of the hardest lessons Iโ€™ve learned is that itโ€™s MY JOB to create a joyful reality & I choose to treat others better than theyโ€™ve treated me.โฃ

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So let everyday be YOURS. OWN IT & donโ€™t apologize for who you are๐Ÿซถโฃ Home is wherever you are.

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Oxoxโฃ

Coach K

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I used to hate looking at Facebook memories

I posted this picture of myself sitting in my living room one morning 7 years ago. I used to hate looking at Facebook memories. Now I admire in awe at the beautiful transformation of my life & spirit this go round.

I actually enjoy checking memories. They remind me Iโ€™m alive. They remind me I lived. They remind me I still have a lot more AMAZING life to savor. To learn. To adventure. To experience.

Some of these memories bring pain. Like salt on a wound. Some are sweet like the most decadent treat. Some sting & burn so goodโ€ฆSo. Good. Like a fine bourbon or strong coffee.

Some simple thoughts of awareness. Some things I enjoy, things Iโ€™ve learned & simple raindrops of life sprinkled on the pages of my storybook thus farโ€ฆ

I like cutting my meat with scissors โœ‚๏ธ Easier. More efficient.

I love supporting small business & giving back to others as much as I can. It brings me more fulfillment than any fancy stuff I could buy for myself. I love & welcome in all the money into my life so that I can invest it into others & things that truly matter.

Iโ€™m way prettier in my more natural state without make up & fake stuff on my face. With age comes wisdom, thank goodness. And thank goodness I didnโ€™t have social media back in college๐Ÿ˜‚

I really love embracing this life of more minimalism. It has given me much freedom & energy to focus on things that truly mean the most to me versus worrying about what Iโ€™m going to wear or dreading packing up all this โ€œstuffโ€ when I leave to another travel Xray assignment.

I really, really love my careers & my life at 42. Itโ€™s far from perfect & makes absolutely no sense sometimes ๐Ÿ˜† but I am infinitely happy in the now & for the woman Iโ€™ve become. For the loving family & friends I have, have made, & will make.

And if I was to pass on today or tomorrow, this would be enoughโค๏ธ And Iโ€™m forever grateful.

Oxox Coach K

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โ€œTell us your love story.โ€

Well, the love story would be one of perpetually going through breakups. Breakups with friends, men, partners, jobs, family.  Even those who I โ€œthought was THE one.โ€ 

โ€” I really believed this.

Some partners, I just didn’t feel good when we were together. I would feel anxious when I was around them, even if it was long distance. You know the ones where they may be on their way to see you, & where you should feel elated, would literally feel sick to your stomach. (Maybe that was just me๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿซฃ๐Ÿค”)

And after a while, I decided, okay, this is f*cked up & NOT working. I have to do something else.

And I did.

I did a LOT of work around getting myself into the right place holistically for real relationships, including the most important, the one with myself.

When The โ€œLove Of Your Lifeโ€ Lets You Go.

Ooof ๐Ÿคข

Yup.

Been there, too.

Makes you instantly wanna throw up, cry, scream, maybe down gallons of ice cream or bourbon. Pick your numbing mechanism.

Took me decades to realize there is no โ€œOneโ€ or single โ€œLove of your life.โ€ And rejection doesnโ€™t mean you arenโ€™t good enough, sometimes itโ€™s misalignment. Sometimes it means the other person was blind to notice the amazingness you have to offer. And it always means, thereโ€™s something better.

Life happens FOR you, not TO you.

I got to the depths of why I was having some of these complications in my relationships through a lot of solitude & inner work well into my 40โ€™s. 

One epiphanous day, something I asked myself was, โ€œWhy do you want a relationship?โ€

What is the purpose of being in a relationship? And I had never really thought about that before. It was always like, oh, because it’s just what you do.๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

Like it feels nice, whatever. And what I realized when I really thought about it was that my life is beautiful & I have intentionally designed it & it’s delicious. But I believe that my self discovery & my life cannot be as exceptional when it’s just me. And in order for a life to be exceptional, I believe you need other people in it. Friends, family, partners, strangers, creative collaborators & Lovers.

I think that’s important. And so once I got to that place of being like, โ€œTHIS is why I want this!โ€ I felt like I was in a completely different place to approach love & relationships.

๐Ÿ˜‰ To be continuedโ€ฆ

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8 Mind-Bending Quotes That Changed It All For Meโ€ฆย 

I stumbled upon an Albert Einstein quote one morning that said: โ€œIf you canโ€™t explain it simply, you donโ€™t understand it well enough.โ€

Ooof. Mind blowing ๐Ÿคฏ 

I thought about how that statement applied to many pages in my storybook life โ€” to college at Purdue University, to Radiology School, to relationships, my finances, to most importantly, MYSELF. MY self awareness (or lack of). The understanding of ME.

โ€œYou get treated in life the way you teach people to treat youโ€ โ€” Wayne Dyer

It took me years to learn to respect myself, including giving myself Grace. When people treated me poorly, I was convinced I was to blame or that I somehow deserved it.

Kids made fun of weight, the way I looked, my โ€œpoor farmerโ€™s kid clothes.โ€ Boyfriends cheated on me, lied to me, abused me.

When I finally developed enough robustness & self-esteem to honor my boundaries, I was amazed at how much better others treated me.

โ€œYour relationship with others is a direct reflection of your relationship with yourselfโ€ โ€“ Mark Manson

โ€œA flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it โ€” it just bloomsโ€ โ€” Sensei Ogui

The time you spend comparing yourself to others is much better spent investing in yourself. The only comparison worth making is with the person you were yesterday.

โ€œThe only zen youโ€™ll find on mountaintops is the zen you bring up there with youโ€ โ€” Alan Watts

In other words, youโ€™ll never find peace unless itโ€™s within. The same goes for love. The same goes for fulfillment, health, self expression.

โ€œPeace comes from within. Do not seek it withoutโ€ โ€” Buddha

โ€œDo not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped forโ€ โ€“ Epicurus

In a world thatโ€™s constantly seeking more โ€” more results, more performance, more money, more social proof โ€” this immediately brings me into a state of appreciation and gratitude.

When Iโ€™m longing for something more than what I have right now Iโ€™m living in some imaginary future and Iโ€™m missing everything in the here and now. I feel this way about dating apps (& boredom scrolling on social in general) currently. I deleted dating apps & significantly reduced me social time, using it only with intention in time blocks. I feel apps & boredom scrolling steals my presence & blinds me to the wonderful people & opportunities in front of me.

โ€œIn todayโ€™s rush we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just Beingโ€ โ€” Eckhart Tolle

โ€œThe ability to observe without evaluating is the highest form of intelligenceโ€ โ€” Jiddu Krishnamurti

When we can observe reality without judging or labelling people & things as good or bad, we can think and respond more appropriately. This is a form of wisdom & mastery.

Everything is simply an experience. We attach a label to the meaning of the experience. Only when I learned how to live untethered & to flow like water, did I learn how to truly live a peaceful life.

โ€œBetween stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedomโ€ โ€” Viktor E. Frankl

โ€œIf you canโ€™t get beyond your stresses, your problems, and your pain, you canโ€™t create a new future where those things donโ€™t existโ€ โ€” Dr. Joe Dispenza

He then went on to add:

โ€œIf you were looking at a timeline of your day, starting with waking up in the morning and continuing until you go to bed that night, you could pick up that timeline of yesterday or today (your past) and place it in the space reserved for tomorrow (the future) because essentially the same actions you took today are the ones you are going to take tomorrow โ€” and the day after that, and the day after that.

Letโ€™s face it: If you keep the same routine as yesterday, it makes sense that your tomorrow is going to be a lot like your yesterday. Your future is just a rerun of your past. Thatโ€™s because your yesterday is creating your tomorrow.โ€

โ€œYou are an infinite spiritual being having a temporary human experienceโ€ โ€” Wayne Dyer

I know now when my human body fades and dies, my spirit will live on. Not because itโ€™s โ€œmineโ€ but because โ€œMy soul is not contained within the limits of my body; my body is contained within the limitlessness of my soul.โ€ โ€” Jim Carrey

And thatโ€™s eternal.

โ€œLove is what we are; Fear is what we learnโ€

It doesnโ€™t matter how far we stray down the wrong path then because there will always be an intelligence that brings us back into our hearts. So, rest easy. Because โ€œWeโ€™re all just walking each other home.โ€ โ€” Ram Dass

Love you allโค๏ธ

oxox

Coach K

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Life Edit: How I Stopped Eating and Drinking Too Much in 5 Simple Steps

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When I was in my 20โ€™s & early 30โ€™s, I used to drink A LOT on the weekends.

Every Friday and Saturday night, my friends and I would head to a local bar. Weโ€™d start with a few beers or cocktails, have dinner, and then head out for the second half of the night, often drinking until 3 a.m. Finally, after 12 hours of overindulging, Iโ€™d pass out in my bed until noon the next day. I’d wake up to the bad decisions still lingering from the night before.


Iโ€™m embarrassed to say this behavior went on for years. I was, by some definitions, an alcoholic. And eventually my binge drinking ended me in the hospital, on a vent with a blood alcohol level of .346. I’m lucky I survived.

I had terrible side effects: I hated my unfulfilling life, had anxiety attacks, binge eating, gut symptoms, my Crohn’s disease was out of control, relationships in the shitter, & over 50k in debt.


I share this story as a cautionary tale, but Iโ€™m not here to say that you should never drink alcohol. I still drink occasionally, but I use it now with respect to enhance and savor an experience. I no longer drink to get drunk. I rarely have more than one drink or a few savory sips.


If youโ€™ve recognized that you drink too much &/or binge eat, then itโ€™s time to implement a life edit & the system that worked for me when I was cutting back.

Love this blog! Wonderful tips on how to do a life edit!


This system uses five simple steps that anyone can follow, and over time, builds habits that dramatically reduce your dependency on alcohol and junk food.


Step 1: Spend Time with the Right People (Your environment is everything!)
This lesson comes straight from entrepreneur, author, and speaker Jim Rohn. Hereโ€™s the gist: You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. If you spend your time with people who are getting drunk all the time & eating shit food, then guess what youโ€™re going to do?


Think about itโ€”do you really think youโ€™re going to have superhuman willpower and be able to stop at one drink or eat healthy when all of your friends are grabbing a second, third, and fourth and smashing pizza and nachos all night?


On the other hand, if you spend your time with people that drink less, they eat well & exercise oftenโ€”then youโ€™ll soon have control over your poor habits.
Pick your friends wisely.


Step 2: Slow Down
Itโ€™s easy to say youโ€™re going to stick to just one drink or eat a healthy, protein based meal when meeting a friend after work in the right atmosphere. But when the bar is buzzing and youโ€™re starting to loosen, slowing down just isnโ€™t going to happen. The next thing you know, youโ€™ve downed that first beer or cocktail in record time and youโ€™re ready for a second & a huge plate of loaded fries because you’ve numbed you’re decision thinking.


Hereโ€™s how you get over the โ€œsuck it down vs savorโ€ urge: Order a drink that doesnโ€™t go down so easily. Mine is vodka water. Even better, order a shot and a water then mix your own. That way you are in charge of the alcohol content you consume.


Once upon a time, I used to love drinking margaritas, malibu & coke, & anything sweet! The trouble was, they were sweet and I have a strong sweet-tooth & poor relationship with carbs and sugar. They’re triggers to binge eating (& bulimia), over indulging, gut issues, & me feeling like crap. Itโ€™s no surprise that those drinks went down fast and easy.

These days, I order bourbon, a glass of vodka & water on the rocks or maybe tequila & water on the rocks. If I want flavor, I add electrolytes (Ultima Replenisher or LMNT) to my water. The flavor is powerfulโ€”and remarkably un-sweetโ€”so I sip it instead of down it. As a result, I donโ€™t drink more than I should.


Success requires removing obstacles, leading yourself out of temptation, and getting accountability to stick to your goals. With these in place, youโ€™ll soon kick the booze & junk food to the curb and start enjoying more nourishing, higher performance daysโ€”moving you closer to your big goals and dreams.


Step 3: One Drink of Alcohol + One Glass of Water. Stick to Protein at Meals.
This one seems obvious, but so many people forget to drink water while theyโ€™re enjoying alcohol. Itโ€™s critical to keep yourself hydratedโ€”not only to prevent hangovers the next morning, but also for slowing down your intake. Every time you finish a cocktail, beer, or glass of wine, make sure to take a pause from the booze and down a glass of water.

Keep your meals to a lean protein source like chicken breast, lean beef, pork, or seafood. You’ll be more satiated & less likely to overindulge. Grilled chicken is my go to.


Step 4: Ask Yourself These 2 Questions Before Eating
2 things changed my relationship with food. They allowed me to beat binge eating & lose 60 pounds while healing my gut๐Ÿ‘‡

1๏ธโƒฃBefore I ate, I asked myself, โ€œHow does this food make me feel?โ€
โƒ Does it help or hinder?
โƒ Do I feel energized & satisfied? Bloated & tired?
โƒ Am I still enjoying my meal? No? Time to stop eating. Yes? Ok, Iโ€™ll eat a little more.
โƒ Does it make my gut feel happy & healthy? Or inflamed & painful?
โƒ Does it support me physiologically, aesthetically, & mentally?

2๏ธโƒฃI asked myself, โ€œAs fuel, what am I using this food for?โ€
โƒ To fuel a workout? A meeting? Playing with your kids? A walk?
โƒ Am I truly physiologically hungry or am I bored & this just a craving?
โƒ Am I numbing a difficult emotion with this food?

The food, environment, habits, & information you consume each day are the soil from which your future thoughts, body, & reality are grown! Many of the best things in life grow along the way by simply having better awareness, understanding, & then once you know better, you CHOOSE BETTER!

  • Start hanging out with high value people & success & love grows along the way.
  • Start exercising & eating well & motivation + results grow along the way.
  • Start writing, therapy, spending time alone & aligned inspiration grows along the way.

Start now & watch the feelings & results follow!


Step 5: Schedule Something for the Next Morning
Letโ€™s say youโ€™re planning on heading to the bars on Friday night. Set up a workout, an appointment or meeting for Saturday morning. Knowing that you have that appointmentโ€”and that you have to be ready for itโ€”will keep you from going overboard at the bars. (I often recommend setting up a physical activity. Your body will hate you if you try to do it while nursing a hangover, so youโ€™ll quickly learn not to overindulge.)

These five steps can help you cut back on alcohol & binge eating and regain control so that you can focus on the more important things in life.


For example, cutting back on my drinking allowed me to tackle my gut issues, have better sleep, higher energy, more mental clarity, more money, and more freedom to focus on my life’s work – serving ya’ll!


Success requires removing obstacles, leading yourself out of temptation, and getting accountability to stick to your goals. With these in place, youโ€™ll soon kick less optimal habits to the curb and moving you closer to your big goals and dreams.

When youโ€™re ready to move from distractions like alcohol to the tools and routines that build your dream body and life, I urge you to check out resources that helped me + a Blog Guide I created just for you documenting how I lost 60lbs, healed my gut, & beat binge eating:

Atomic Habits by James Clear
Perfect Day Formula by Craig Ballantyne
My Story & Weight Loss Journey Transitioning to a Meat-Based, Carnivore Diet & Losing 60lbs!

Thousands have used the insights from these sourcesโ€”all gathered over decades of experience. Take your life to the next level!

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Now that Iโ€™m over 40 โ€” I would love to have coffee with my 21 year old self

โ™ก๐˜พ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จโ€ฆ Now that Iโ€™m over 40 โ€” I would love to have coffee with my 21 year old self.

Itโ€™s the perfect paradox. I wish I could share the wisdom I have now with my younger self, yet that wisdom came from all the f*ck ups I made๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ So, without the mistakes, Iโ€™m not sure Iโ€™d have anything important to say to that younger version of myself.

Purdue University. #boilerup I remember nights out in college with my Delta Gamma sorority sisters & Block & Bridle Club aggies. (I graduated with a Bachelors in Animal Science from the school of Ag btw. Fun fact ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐ŸŽ“).

Thirsty Thursdayโ€™s with Bruce the Piano Man at the Neon Cactus. Those huge cups, cheap drinks, & priceless memories were epic. (Minus the waking up hungover af the next day after smashing Mad Mushroom ๐Ÿ„ ๐Ÿ• pizza & cheese sticks ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿซฃ๐Ÿซฅ๐Ÿคญ)

Iโ€™d implore her to laugh like that more & worry less. As women, maybe wives, moms, friends, daughters, etc we place a lot of pressure on ourselves to orchestrate & capture magical moments for our loved ones, for others.

I wish I could tell that 21 year old version of myself that the magic will happen without the pressure of a perfect social media shot & Pinterest board. Sure, snap a few pictures, but donโ€™t let the pressure of trying to get the perfect shot interfere with absorbing the moments.

Case in point: I remember going to Disney as a child. Now that Iโ€™m an adult, I donโ€™t remember talking about how much fun we had at Disney. I do, however, LOL when I talk about the road trips to get there. For some reason, a favorite is my dad wearing a fanny pack & the excitement of taking the back seats out of the van so we could โ€œcampโ€ on the way there. And the singing to oldies๐ŸŽถ

We often stayed at an economical hotel. I remember things like bike rides, seeing Jurassic Park on vaca & sea shells on the beach, coming back from the park & enjoying the swimming pool and the tiny arcade off the lobby.

Because life happens in the in-between moments.

I remember the hotel with much more clarity than I remember the magic of Disney or a specific location.

Take care of yourself. I wish I could convince that younger version of myself that the world wouldnโ€™t collapse if I gave myself a day off of work or the gym or whatever stupid diet I was doing.

I wish I could convince that younger version of me to build a true, aligned tribe she could count on sooner. I figured it out, but not until my late 30โ€™s. I found that small inner, high value circle would have my back no matter what, & who got to see all my flaws & love me anyway. 

Iโ€™m grateful I learned the lesson about needing a tribe, but mostly the importance of building a home in myself first. Now, everywhere I go, I make home AND I know with confidence I can be happy anywhere because that power comes from within me.

Dream big, but donโ€™t be afraid to change your target if your season changes.

I had big dreams for family, career, finances, & travel. At some point, it became clear that I had fallen for the lie that I could have it all or even knew what I wanted or what tf I was doing.

Reassessing our goals & adjusting our dreams is part of life. As you learn about yourself & life, you learn more about where you want to invest your energy. Give yourself permission to change your definition of success, & never forget that your definition is the one that matters, not the one painted by social media, society, or your peer group.

Release control, laugh more, worry less.

This is the advice 21 year old *me* needed most of all. Even today, Iโ€™m not sure I would be the most equipped to give that advice, as I still struggle with releasing control.

I work harder at acknowledging useless worry than I did back then, bringing a measure of hard-earned peace. If I could buy that 21 year old version of myself a cup of coffee & tell her all the wisdom we gained over the next few decades, would I be doing her any favors?

After all, weโ€™ve made it this far, & I kind of like who the two of us became.โค๏ธ๐Ÿซถ

Oxox Coach K

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8 True Forms of Wealth

โ™ก๐˜พ๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™›๐™š๐™จ๐™จ๐™ž๐™ค๐™ฃ๐™จ & ๐˜“๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ดโ€ฆ

A while back, I was a podcast guest & panelist for fitness & leadership workshops for companies like Burn Boot Camp, Orange Theory, CrossFit, & privately owned health & wellness entrepreneurs.

One of the ideas that many resonated with as I spoke of my experiences with body image, gut issues, weight loss & evolving perspectives on life & fitness transformation in general was my โ€œ8 Forms of Wealthโ€ ideal I embraced from Robin Sharma.

In my mind, health, wealth, happiness, & fulfillment arenโ€™t just about making money & being skinny. They are world-class levels to embrace whenever youโ€™re ready.

You meet, love, & accept people & the reality of your life only as deep as you meet, love, & accept yourself. You KNOW you.

Itโ€™s like If youโ€™re wondering if someone likes you, you will not have to go to f*cking tarot card readers, investigators, & some shiz to find out. Your inner compass knows.

Inner Wealth: a positive mindset, self-respect, internal peace & strong spiritual connection, clarity around your values & targets youโ€™d like to achieve along your journey.

Physical Wealth: Your health is your wealth. Whatโ€™s the point of getting to a great place in your life or career if you get sick doing it? Donโ€™t be the โ€œbestโ€ coworker or businessperson in the hospital. Why be the richest person in the cemetery? Most GREAT leaders & successful peeps are in great health.


Relationship Wealth: When your social life & circle is joyful & nourishing, you will perform better at life, period. It is imperative to forge deep connections with family, friends, community, colleagues, role models & trusted advisors.


Career Wealth: Getting to greatness in your profession brings a feeling of satisfaction & fulfillment. It helps you shine & is good for your self-respect. Be so good at what you do that you leave everyone in your presence spellbound.


Economic Wealth: Yes, money is important. Itโ€™s not the most important thing in life, but it absolutely makes life easier & better. Money allows you freedom! Like to live in a nice home, take beautiful vacations & provide well for those you love. I like to say: โ€œThe more I make, the more I can give away!โ€


Circle of Genius: You become who/ what you spend time with, & these influences affect your health, mindset, & performance. โ€œLead without needing a titleโ€ & surround yourself with exceptional peopleโ€”their stardust will rub off on you.

Adventure Success: To be fulfilled, each of us needs adventure, awe, & novelty in our lives! Adventure is necessary for growth. The human brain craves novelty. And we are creative beings, so we need to be creating & learning constantly if we hope to feel joy. Perfection is nowhere required here, but effort is. I f*ck up sh*t all the time too, but lots of lessons in experience (ranging from meeting new people to visiting new places) is an essential element of authentic wealth!


Impact Wealth: The deepest longing of my human heart & spirit is to live for something greater than myself. Each of us craves to be significant. To make a difference. To know that the world has somehow been better because we have been here. Leaders leave a legacy.

I invite you to focus on each of these elements. Money & being jacked or skinny alone do not define being happy, healthy, & wealthy. 

Donโ€™t go back to containers & doors with dust & cobwebs on them. Remember why dust settles.

Oxox Coach K

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The game of relationships & choosing wisely

I wanna be with someone that would divorce me if I gained 50lbs.

Now hear me outโ€ฆmorning ponderings & real talkโ€ฆ

Iโ€™ve thought a lot about my journey of becoming my best self: past mistakes, my health, my fitness journey, my relationships, & every facet of 50 shades of f*cked up & beautiful on this ride.

For those of you new here Iโ€™ll be 42 years old this year & still donโ€™t know what the f*ck Iโ€™m doing. Itโ€™s ok. I love every minute of this life! Iโ€™m grateful for all the sh*t Iโ€™ve been through because itโ€™s made me the woman writing this today in this journal entry.

My opening statement isnโ€™t about weight gain & aesthetic changes, itโ€™s about being THE PERSON & with a partner who holds high standards for themselves too & one who makes me want to be a better woman, partner โ€” human.

A reminder for myself & maybe you too ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธto be with people who make you want to be the best version of yourself. Maybe they make you feel a little uncomfortable. Good. Choose people who are different & help you grow.

I set these standards for all relationships โ€” platonic, business, & romantic.

Why? Because it influences who you are.

I understand weโ€™ve all been taught about these โ€œfantasyโ€ relationships & unconditional love โ€ฆ

โ€ฆ I believe love is conditional because people change & thatโ€™s totally OK. Lovingly allow the right people into your lives yet also realize itโ€™s OK to lovingly release those who do not fit your nonnegotiable conditions.

๐Ÿ‘‰ The game of relationships & choosing wisely @hormozi ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿป ๐ŸŽ™๏ธ

Oxox Coach K