3 Stories That Will Change Your Life

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Good morning & happy @spotify new music Friday, Loves. Couple of my favorite things about Fridays👉new music 🎶 & 💁🏼‍♀️ payday 💰🤑🙃💚)

I call them #brightspotsFriday

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Gratitude, HUGE part of my success routine.

Just like getting up early ☀️⏰
Just like writing for myself & y’all ✍🏼👩🏼‍💻
Just like expanding my mind, via podcasts, books, YouTube 🧠
Just like doin chores 🐈‍⬛🧹👚🧼
Just like eating well, all the meats🥩
Just like getting workouts in🏋🏼‍♀️🏃🏼‍♀️
Just like spending time with friends & family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
Just like taking time for ME 💝

Still woke up at 6 AM despite getting home at 1 from the @MorganWallen concert #earlybirdproblems

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I take pictures, snap stories, & write to connect emotions & memories of my everyday’s — to remember, reflect, learn, & connect.
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My IG is my digital journal.
⁣Stories.
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Stories are important. They create your identity.

I’ve read ‘Atomic Habits’ twice, a section talks about stories.
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What stories are you telling yourself? ⁣
Who do you want to embody? ⁣
What systems do you have in place to help you achieve goals?⁣
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3 areas of life affected by the stories we tell ourselves ⏬

⁣- Money stories⁣
⁃ Relationship stories
⁃ Food & Body stories
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I fxcked up over the years, too.🤷‍♀️ Like my IG bio says, “𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙚𝙧 𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘣*𝘵𝘤𝘩” 😆

In some form I told myself I wasn’t worthy in all 3 of these areas, setting blocks instead of boundaries — there’s a difference.
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Example, with Relationships: if I was asked to do something & really liked a person, I’d lose myself & completely change my plans to suit them.
Or shxt like settling for a booty call🫣

I know, I know…shxt happens, y’all. Dust yourself off.

Learn your lesson.

(Steps off soapbox 📦😂)

This was me not valuing my worth.
A block.
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Now, instead of denying myself of my plans/needs I simply say, “Let me get my workout in (insert whatever task or commitment I had) & I will connect with you & confirm plans because I would like to spend time with you.”⁣
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This is setting a boundary not a block.
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Example, Food & Body: instead of saying, “I’m not a morning person, I don’t have time to meal prep.” Set a system & a worth affirmation. “I don’t like to get up early but I will commit to 3 mornings this week & meal prep lunches because I want to be healthy.”

Now repeat & build from here. ⁣
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These are all pivotal changes we work on via coaching. They will get you to your goals, I promise.

✍🏼 📖 Journal exercise for the day: write down the identity you want to embody around money, relationships, food & body. ⁣
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Mine👇🏻⁣
💰MONEY: I am safe, able, successful, abundant, & provided for. ⁣

🥰RELATIONSHIP: I am special, loved, seen, heard, safe, understood, & chosen. I allow mental real estate for the people in my life giving me the same respect.

🥩FOOD & BODY: I am healthy, safe, strong, & beautiful in every season.
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Inner calm, outer order😉⁣
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Xoxo
Coach K

lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana — Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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June 15, 2022

Why you need to flip the script and be an athlete of life

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I lived over 3 decades of my life scared shxtless. Embarrassed of my messy, scarcity driven life.

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Scared to rip off labels I told myself dictated my worth. Like being: an athlete, overweight & skinny, x-ray tech, nutrition & sales consultant, pharmaceutical sales rep, dudes, the list goes on & on.

We hold onto emotions when going thru traumatic experiences. The trauma I encountered as a child & younger adult held me back from incredible experiences & opportunities – stifled my potential.

I see that now & I want y’all to learn from my mistakes.

The trauma of running from debt & the fear of poverty. Embarrassed to ask for help or tell anyone I was living out of my office & eating at the hotel across the road for food.

The trauma of failed relationships which prevented me from dating, asking for what I wanted, & settling.

The trauma of kids making fun of me as a child. Being told I was too big to be a cheerleader, too fat to run track, & not pretty enough to stand out.

The trauma of being told I would “never make it without him” & I wasn’t “smart enough to support myself on my own.”

A scarcity mentality caused me to believe: making money was hard
I always had to trade my time for money
I couldn’t eat out or make memories with friends because I was afraid I would get fat or I wouldn’t have anything to eat & people would judge me because of my Crohn’s
I was overworked & made no space in my schedule for fun, adventure, love, dating – all the things that make life worth living.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, so if you feel like you’ve are a failure, I’m here to tell you it’s OK.

You’re doing more than OK. The question is, are you able to flip the script, change your priorities & learn your lesson?

When we use what has happened to us & it creates a lightbulb moment for another person – that is you living your purpose.
It’s one of the best feelings in the world.

Nothing is wrong with you & your story matters. So what are you telling yourself?

Character is judged when things are going wrong. It’s easy to be your best self when things are going right but the person who is able to flip the script & extract the sunshine from the rain is the one who wins.

Be an athlete of life.
Tomorrow is never promised.

Oxox
Coach K

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June 12, 2022June 12, 2022

How to be more attractive

Confessions of another bathroom selfie….

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( @thehctavern one of my favorite places for food & drink @theyardfishers btw)

I clearly remember the moment I told myself, “You are the main mf*ing character in your story. You are not a cameo in someone else’s movie, they are not more important than you. Get yours.”

That was a pivotal day & new chapter in my storybook.

“If you want to live on your own terms you have to be willing to crash & burn “ – Nikki Sixx⁣

Even going thru therapy, there were instances I realized I was still people pleasing & love bombing in different shades, placing other people on a pedestal above myself.

They may have been in different forms & people, but they were still showing up as cycles & outcomes I didn’t fancy in my reality anymore.

Writing is a part of my therapy. I appreciate y’all allowing me to add value to your lives in anyway that you need.

If you’re stuck in that phase called “f*ck everything!”

It’s ok. Been there too.

To anyone who struggles with FOMO, regret, feeling disappointed in their place in life, maybe unattractive…somethin my therapist taught me…⁣
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In order to shed old skin & open yourself up to to a better life, better health, & abundance, we must interrupt our anxious thoughts with:

“What if this works out for the better?”⁣

“What if all my hard work pays off?”

“I am open to receive what I need & trust things happen for me exactly when they’re meant to.”
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So I’m passing that on to you today – wherever you are, whatever you’re shedding, whatever you’re leaving, whomever you’re becoming.⁣
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Select your thoughts the same way you select your clothes every day. ⁣
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If you want to control things in your life SO bad — control your mind, your inner narrative, & your response.
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Live & learn. That’s why we’re here 🙂

Swipe, Save & Share on IG with your fellow humans, just tryna to be better!

What do you do to make yourself feel more beautiful?

For me, a lil lipstick & lashes go a long way !

Oxox
Coach K

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June 11, 2022

How to manifest anything you want, the power of choice

Every morning, peace & love arrive at your door in the form of choices.

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“Upon waking, let your first thought be ‘thank you.’ A belief is only a thought you continue to think; and when your beliefs match your desires, then your desires must become your reality.”~ Abraham Hicks

What amazing choices can you make right now?!

I strategically use feng shui (google it, do your own life admin ) in my home to create a space full of abundance, love & good juju. It’s OK if you don’t believe in this stuff, I’m simply sharing my life

In my bedroom this is the first thing I wake up & see.

It truly changes your life when you savor the little things. I fully live by the beliefs that the “little things” (that are truly the BIG things) matter most & LOVE is in the details

At home, the smallest choices…

opening a window
fresh flowers
savoring a cup of coffee
smelling the fresh air
gratitude & positive affirmations
pictures that make you smile
listening to the birds chirp
taking out the trash (The word #trashpanda is one of my absolute favorites btw)
cleaning your space
watching squirrels (favorite animal)
lighting a candle
having a dance party in your kitchen (which I did yesterday while cleaning )

…can be the spark of more flow, more ease, more joy.

Every day, all day long, we can choose what to focus on, what to consume in all ways, from food & drinks to social media & conversations.

Everything is shaping our energy, health, mood, creativity, & thus our LIFE.

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Here’s to a day, every day, of choosing more love, joy & all things that feel amazing!

…AND sparkly AF because life is too short & beautiful to be anything but EXTRA!

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Oxox Coach K

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June 7, 2022

Ok reasons to not have a kid or get married

I didn’t expect to be asked this question

No better time to discuss this than #pride

I respect & love everyone regardless of their status & beliefs on relationships, food, fitness, parenthood — whatever you wanna fill in the blank here…

I started my social media over 10 yrs ago with the hopes of sharing my life, words, & emotions to become something greater than myself to help others out there just tryna to be a better human.

I refer to myself as “self partnered”. Ive openly been divorced twice.

No ragrets.

I’m grateful for every multi dimensional & faceted relationship in my life.

Use this post as a reminder you are already love.

I’m surrounded by infinite love, abundance, wealth & riches. Prosperity that isn’t simply monetary in nature.

Forms of wealth: self mastery, self awareness, family, health, craft, personal development, money, time, freedom, charity, adventure, circle of genius & environment.

The contrast lies in people cultivating actions & beliefs out of obligation rather than authenticity.

Thru the years, having a specific status like being married or a parent became like a status symbol or achievement.
Like somehow you’re better, more successful — more LOVED than your single or childless self.

I want to remind y’all today — your whole life is Love.

“People say that what we’re all seeking is a meaning for life. I think that what we’re seeking is an experience of being alive. The meaning of life is whatever you ascribe it to be. Being alive is the meaning.” – Joseph Campbell

I’ll leave you with this…
Don’t be afraid to love. Yourself, other people, experiences — fall in love with as many things as possible!

I carry a piece of every relationship in my heart. I carry them because they made me a better woman — the confident, compassionate, hopeful, self-partnered human that is ready to openly welcome her next one

oxox Coach K

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May 18, 2022

Love people for the humans they are

I cringed. Conversation starter…saw a T-shirt this mornin that said, “The best man for the job is a woman.”🫣

Why do we feel the need to have to hate on the opposite sex? I’m so grateful my parents taught me it’s OK to be a “girl” & it’s OK to be strong like a “man” too. They just wanted my brothers & I to be ourselves.

Listen Linda, I’ve been divorced twice, but I still LOVE & appreciate men. I’m grateful for y’all. I acknowledge there are some things you men do way better than me, & I’m totally OK letting you do it.

I love everything about women, too, we’re both simply unique. (get yer minds out of the gutter, because I know they went there😂)

My mom taught me I can do anything a man can do, & if I can’t, I can hire it done.

💁🏼‍♀️Girl boss shi*t level 100

— THIS is more about being a self-sufficient human, not hating on the other sex.

It’s like when I get questions when you could’ve simply Googled & YouTubed that shiz

Ima straight shooter, we real talk on this channel. Y’all can do your own life admin.

I know I don’t need someone to take care of me nor do I feel like I have to have a man to be happy, but I do love the feeling of having someone to protect & take care of me because they want to.

Successful relationships thrive because you see each other as equals & want the best for one another. Your happiness is my happiness.

Not because either one feels they can’t take care of themselves or are incomplete without the other.

A negative pattern I used to fall into, I would attract partners where I quickly fell into the role of mom, teacher, &/or enabler.

Karen, we ain’t got time for that.

And neither do you guys. Choose a woman that makes you want to be a better man, that lets you be yourself, lets you be the provider, lets you be the more masculine, enjoys taking care of you & most importantly, is your best friend.

Ladies, vice versa.

A healed, confident person is honest, blunt af, & tells you exactly who they are & what they want. If you’re confused, there’s your answer.

How bout we all simply love people for the humans we are & what we bring to the table?!

Oxox Coach K

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May 13, 2022December 20, 2022

Things you may need to do if you have special diet needs that may come across as rude, but are not

“You know it’s actually rude for you not to eat their food.” or “Oh come on, one won’t hurt you.” 👉🏻Things I used to hear when I was going through my own food battles. Holidays & social functions were the worst.

On the outside we may look fine but on the inside we’re suffering.

I spent decades with food triggers, sensitivities, gut issues, constipation, bloating, G.I. bleeding, unexplained weight gain & disordered eating on top of it all.

I spent way too many years of life with social anxiety, especially challenging when dating or trying to be social.

I’m also a highly sensitive person when it comes to environments, emotions & other peoples’ energies. I like to eat alone.

Maybe you can relate too.

I don’t shame myself for all of these things that make me different anymore.

These are things I do & had to learn to do throughout my journey to be my healthiest. They often times are perceived as being rude for those who don’t understand special digestive needs.

The hard truth is, it’s hard to learn to love yourself for being different. And it sucks being called or thought of as rude. So let’s raise awareness on this!

Tag, save, & share freely via IG! Show this post or use the tips to help others out there who don’t understand or are struggling too💟🌈☀️🥩🥰🙏

Happy Friday y’all!!

Oxox

March 30, 2022

I’m single, broke, and miserable

As one who has made all the wrong decisions before making the right ones, one thing in life I am most grateful are all the things I’ve done wrong that didn’t turn out the way I’d hoped because they taught me how to do things right & how to roll with life.

I made all the wrong decisions with my health, relationships, & finances.

Had a message from a gal this mornin, she stated she was single, broke, & miserable. I felt her anguish, & I’m here to tell you you define your reality. It is what YOU make it.

Sometimes it takes a heart break &/or us f*cking up in business/health/relationships to shake us awake & help us see we are so much more than what we’re settling for.

I refuse to live a life of mediocracy. I decided this yrs ago, 2018 to be exact, when I was living out of my office, showering at gyms, going thru a heartbreak, barely had enough money to purchase groceries, & no idea what the f*ck I was doing or where I was going.
I just knew I was meant for more.

Things still aren’t perfect but I am so grateful for what I have, hopeful & excited for what’s ahead. I am ruthlessly resilient & diligent. Mental fortitude, getcha some.
Ain’t nobody gonna save you or cut you a check but YOU.

I responded to this gal, “There’s always something to be grateful for & if you’re not living life happy, you’re doing it all wrong. But that’s OK because along the way you’ll figure out what to do right.”

She said she couldn’t find anyone she was compatible, no one checked the boxes.🤔

Y’all, everyone will tell you to find someone with the same interests as yours, same values, yada yada…like it’s a parameter instead of a goal that can develop. And none of us are easy to be with, let’s be honest. You shouldn’t be trying to change anyone else in the process either. Let people be. And don’t accept any less yourself.

Don’t settle for ambiguous texts. Stop idolizing men or women that don’t also put you on a pedestal & do for you. If you’re wanting to up level & be a high value person, stop dating beneath your standards because you’re lonely.

Don’t settle for scraps when you deserve that whole piece of prime rib, baby🥩

Yes, you have to have some common ground. But come on, how many failed relationships have you had that started out with this criteria of checking boxes & looking for compatibility?

I’m embarrassed to say how many I’ve had 👀

They fail overtime because you don’t leave room to learn from each other, you don’t go into a relationship open minded & realize you’re both going to change as people & you have to learn how to evolve & grow together or you’re better off growing apart.

That doesn’t mean you have to hate each other. That means you have to love the other person enough AND yourself enough to know the difference.
Lovingly let people go. That’s you loving yourself. And if you can’t do that you have a lot of inner work & baggage to unpack.

My perspective has changed, I view compatibility as loves achievement – not criteria that has to be met prior to trying to get to know someone.

Imagine creating & transforming a life with the right person. The one you chose to be your favorite.

“Your favorite” should not only be the one who makes you happy but they should be the one who pisses you off, who challenges you, who loves you for all your weirdness, who tells you what you don’t want to hear but need to hear, & continues to choose you every day.

Live life happy.
Compatibility is loves achievement.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer

As for me, I have no interest in settling. I read a quote that said, “Settling is what sediment does when it falls to the bottom of a sea or lake, right before it compresses for several million years & turns in to a fossil.”

I’d rather be a fine wine🍷, expensive glass of bourbon 🥃, & some Waygu beef 🥩 than a fossil.

Drop the mic 🎤

Oxox Coach K

February 13, 2022

Love lessons and things to learn about yourself to be successful in love

Love is a classroom not a candy shop.
— Life lessons I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks
📸 : simply showin love for this lil meat sack in the mirror.

lilbitoffit — Self love is the best love.

Love is the most powerful force in the world. In my opinion, the only thing that matters. For nothing would exist in this world, including you, without love.

I used to think there was only one soulmate out there made specifically just for you. After 39 years I’ve learned you’ll meet many people & things throughout your life that will be your “soulmate.” Some for seasons & others maybe for life.

I define “soulmate” now as a mate that helps you find your soul. This includes yourself, memories, places, things, friends, family, lovers, & enemies.

A book that changed my life 15 years ago, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I discovered it in a desk drawer at work & no one knew how it got there. I was miserable at this time struggling in my marriage & with mental & physical health. It taught me the power of my thoughts, love, & perspective.

Lessons I’ve learned about love that may help spark thought & introspection for you today…

-When you seek pleasure & lust it always runs away from you but when you seek purpose, understanding & connection, pleasure comes towards you because it’s a byproduct of you putting in the work.

Learn about yourself & your person. Understand what you both love, how you’re both wired, love languages, etc.

Things that helped me understand myself & other people…
FUN STUFF ABOUT ME👇
▪️Manifesting Generator (Human Design) basically get sh*t done & move at the speed of thought. Busy bodies, worker bees, get more done before 9am than most do in a week.

▪️ENFJ (Myers Briggs) among the rarest of the 16 types, only 2-3% of the population. The ENFJ is warm, extroverted, engaging, charismatic, persuasive, & talkative.⁣ Oprah, Barack Obama, Maya Angelou.

▪️2w3 (Enneagram) The helper/achiever, desire to fulfill the needs of others & can sense emotions with clarity & precision. Helping & achieving brings us Joy.

▪️Love languages: 1.words of affirmation 2. physical touch 3. quality time⁣

⁣▪️Astrology: I’m a Rising Scorpio ♏️ , Cancer ♋️ Sun, Sagittarius ♐️ moon. Basically a contradictory Unicorn because I love deep thinking, caretaking, & solitude, but the Sag loves freedom, extroversion & adventure. I’m freedom & home❤😘

All of these things craft a completely unique & wonderful individual. You can always know someone deeper.

This is why there is so much infidelity because we are addicted to newness. So why don’t you learn something new about your other half? It’s just like walking down the same path every day, why don’t you try to notice a new flower, rock, or tree? Then you’ll discover the same old paths can always be new & exciting. Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.

Be playful but don’t play mind games. If you’re interested, make the move & observe. If they don’t respond, move on. We build strength when we make the move because we build confidence. This is you being in charge of your destiny. Mind games destroy the authenticity of a relationship.

Making someone feel bad doesn’t make them good. You change because of love, clarity, & communication. We don’t change because of judgment, guilt, & expectation

Any recurring issues you need to solve for the long run.

Prepare your partner for your mood swings & schedule. Communicate what makes you feel safe. For example, ask, “Do you need support or a solution.?” “Does saving make you feel safe or your earning power?” Check in with your other half. Pick one day a week & have a date check in. Ask them, “What was the highlight of your week & how can I help you?

Focus on how you can complement, not compete or complete. When you compete you’re trying to be everything. When you compliment, you are just being you. Take a moment & recognize what your other half brings to the relationship.

Happy Super Bowl Sunday & Valentine’s Eve, squad!
Go out there & love someone today!

oxox Coach K

February 12, 2022

Why Life rarely turns out as planned and how some people just feel different

2 things I thought about this morning: 1. Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned, it’s usually frustrating af first, yet somehow always turns out better. 2. Some people just feel different & are your once in a lifetime kind of people.⁣
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As a younger version, I thought I’d be happily married for years, have that white picket fence, 2 kids, a dog, & happily ever after by 21. Let’s all laugh together, now.⁣
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In reality, I’ll be 40 in July, I’ve been married & divorced twice. I’m single, have a cat named Pete, & struggled more years & cried more tears than you can shake a stick at. ⁣
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However, I’ve learned so much about myself, how to communicate with others, who I am & wanna continue to be. I learned how to nourish myself, climb my way out of $43,000 of debt, build a business & myself as a brand. I am proud of the successful life & woman molded out of the imperfection.⁣
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Life doesn’t always resemble what you thought it might look like. Milestones move, perspectives change, the things we yearn for evolve. Some things break never to be fixed again & some things break to be rebuilt better than you ever could have imagined.⁣
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Life doesn’t gift us with a peek around the corner to see how things will turn out. Life does, however, litter the journey with love, laughter, moments of joy that take your breath away, learning, & it always lands us right where we’re supposed to be in divine timing.⁣
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You’ll meet people who can read your silence & make your thoughts feel heard. You’ll meet people for the first time that you feel like you’ve known forever & don’t need to hide from.⁣
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These people are your most cherished safe place & your most exciting adventure. They feel like the sweet burn of a good bourbon that tastes like freedom & home.⁣
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They may come in & flip your life on it’s head in the most unexpected, joyful, savory, luxurious ways possible.⁣
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Let life flow like water.⁣
Roll with it like a boss. ⁣
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oxox ⁣
Coach K⁣

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