Who else here is a recovering obliger? A recovering ‘Good Girl or Guy?’🙋♀️
Like it didn’t matter what context of life I was obliging, I wanted to oblige because I wanted to be ‘The Good Girl.’
‘Good Girls’ were accepted & safe. They did what was expected of them.
‘Nice’ was accepted & safe. If you’re ’Nice’ then everyone has to like you, right?!
‘Vanilla’ was accepted & safe. It’s like the default choice because you can’t make up your mind what ice cream you want.
The problem I later found as I aged, was ‘Good’ & ‘Nice’ & ‘Vanilla’ really didn’t get me anywhere.
In fact, I loathe the words ‘Good,’ ‘Nice,’ & ‘Vanilla.’
I don’t care if you’re talkin about food, sex, or money, Honey, if you’re describing them as good, nice, or vanilla — I ain’t interested anymore.
I feel they’re the default, you choosing to settle. It’s like being someone’s side chick or guy. You want someone to see you as ‘The One’ — the one that walks in a room & sparkles. Everyone stares. But instead, you were chosen as the default, not ‘The One.’
I feel everyone has had the same experience at some point in their lives, whether it was a friendship, a romantic relationship, or professionally.
My definition of ‘Good Girlitis’ is the unproductive thoughts, feelings, & behaviors that inhibit one’s potential, growth, perception, & enjoyment of the experience & entirety of life.
So think about this if you feel you’re livin life like a watered down cocktail. Are you living as a watered down version of yourself?
I want exquisite, extraordinary, luscious.
Rolls off the tongue a lil sweeter don’t it? 😉
I’d rather be the human that doesn’t do rules, I do what feels right✨
Photo: @matteuccij13 @lensandlightphoto Can’t wait to do another one of these!