Health Coach | Speaker | Writer | Welcome to my digital diary! I'm here to help you blend life & fitness to find your health & happy! Thank you for being part of my family & allowing me to add value to your journey!
The great thing about the fact you’re reading this is that it means you were probably born in the 70s or 80s. So you have a thick skin.
You can be told you’re at fault without taking it personally. It’s like your parents saying, “Quit yer cryin or I’ll give ya somethin to cry about!” I can still hear it.
This is important, because I have to tell you, if you are like me, you were or still are doing all sorts of dumb sh*t that needs to change if you’re feelin bad — overweight, stressed to the titties, tired-looking, demotivated, physically weak & grumpy.
Still reading?
I knew you would be. You’re my people!
I’m 40, born in 1982, & freely admit to having developed all sorts of dumb, counter-productive habits in my teens, 20s & 30s that affected my health, body shape & wellbeing as I approached 40.
The fact I looked puffy & felt like sh*t had less to do with: Genetics Not having time Other people The weight on the scale or jean size Work And really had everything to do with me just not taking care of myself, following what I thought I should be doing as far as diets & workouts, & building healthier lifestyle habits.
I consistently chose to let others & outside factors control my life, which ironically made life harder as I approached 40.
I won’t sugar coat it (literally), if your health & body shape aren’t great, it’s mostly your fault to a larger degree.
If you’d have said that at 40 I’d be fitter, healthier & more attractive than my 25-year-old self, I’d have laughed in your face. (Then secretly hoped you knew something about my destiny than I did.)
Optimistic me likes to hang on to any glimmer of hope, while gullible me will believe anything that you tell me if it’s going to make me feel good. Yet the bizarre thing is, it’s true, along with many of my fellow 40-somethings who are refusing to attach themselves to the notion of what 40 should look like.
Not one to pigeon-hole an age or say what’s right or wrong, but in my 20s I had already decided that once I hit 40 I’d be old af. Lackluster weekends would consist of goin to Lowes & cartin kids around only to complain about my 9-5 every day (thank you Jesus my life is far from that description & perfectly imperfect in it’s own right).
I think back to how I was behaving at 25 & I realize I am one of those late bloomers. I’m totally ok with it, now, but thought there was something wrong with me because I hadn’t lived a traditional “timeline” by old school society’s standards. I felt a failure for decades going thru 2 divorces, living with extensive gut issues & a shitty relationship with food & body image.
There’s always a catalyst to a radical lifestyle change & I suspect that the end of my marriages were mine. Both times I had to rediscover myself & learn to live again. I grew the most in my last relationship & it was full of more good experiences than bad. I understand many people aren’t as fortunate to say they were able to lovingly go thru a conscious uncoupling. I’m extremely grateful to have had the opportunity to spend a season of my life with an incredible man, still evolving & trying to be better just like me. We were simply victims of life & poor timing. Still great friends to this day.
At 40 I have no hesitation in admitting my age or my mistakes. One thing I’ve learned which comes with age, aside from a lil wisdom & a chunk of hindsight, is the confidence to not give a shit what others think of you. It’s freeing, you should try it.
Believing in yourself is your most potent weapon & defense mechanism — guard it well! If you believe & have complete confidence in your body, mind, now, & future, there’s no need to ever think about your age again.
Sharing some shiz I’ve learned along the way, enjoy!
Make the most of every day, & love it! Age is just a number that most pay far too much attention to.
You have 2 ages:
Chronological Age — your actual time alive
Biological Age — how you look & feel The choice is yours: You can go with the clock OR you can choose the body & mind option, keeping yourself fresh af.