I know what it’s like to ache for belonging…
I had a teacher tell me in middle school I was “too big to be a cheerleader.”
I was CRUSHED.
➤ That meant I was different.
➤ I was less than.
➤ I didn’t. Fit. In.
(I’m 60lbs lighter than I used to be for people new here. I spent the majority of my life sick, over weight, & broke af. You can find my weight loss/healing story in the link in my IG bio) link here
In the absence of love & belonging there is suffering. -Brené Brown
I still feel alone (not lonely – big difference).
I truly am a dominant introvert. Being around a lot of people is really hard & energetically draining.
I won’t, however, sacrifice my loves like live music, travel, & exploring because of it tho. I’ve taught myself to be a selective extrovert.
If I wanna go do something – I do it.
Here’s been the game changer for me: I belong to ME.
I spend a lot of time belonging to myself &, frankly, that makes a portion of other people feel uncomfortable🤷♀️
Even when I feel alone or “don’t fit in” I know I belong to ME. For the first time in my life at 41, I feel fully embodied in the unique, sparkly, sweet & spicy essence of MY “being.”
You see the opposite of belonging 👉is fitting in. Belonging doesn’t ask for us to change ourselves it asks us to BE ourselves.
The more you love yourself & give yourself what you need, the less you’ll demand & need from others.
♡ I challenge you to ask yourself the question, “Who am I?”
How would you answer that?
To give you examples, today, as the 41 year old model, I’d describe myself as follows…
∞ Storyteller & Experience collector
∞ Life & people lover
∞ Creator & entrepreneur
∞ Messenger & mentor
∞ Psychic Intuitive & Healer
∞ Forever student & athlete of life
∞ Your safe space & biggest adventure
I don’t like to be “defined” by labels, nor do my values reside there. I value freedom/time/health/& energy more than anything.
I used to live for labels like being defined by things like being a CrossFit athlete, a former Marine wife, an X-ray tech, yada yada, etc
I am an athlete of LIFE!
And guess what?
So are for you!
Enjoy flexibility & the ability to shed & create whatever shade/character you want every day.
As a travel RT & clinician, I’ve learned to make HOME in MYSELF. That’s how I’ve found happiness, joy, & peace embracing this lifestyle.
♛ I belong everywhere I go as long as I don’t betray myself.
If I’m worried about:
- if other people like or accept me
- or the need create for likes or follows instead of what my heart wants
- & I feel the need to change for those reasons…
THAT is the moment I’ve betrayed myself.
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” -Brené Brown
Oxox
Coach K
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My name is Katie Kelly. I’m a multi-modal travel clinician 🩺💀, nutritionist, high performance coach & biz consultant specializing in human connection & process optimization with over 20 years experience. On social I’m better known as Coach K & I’m just like you!
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