Personal Development – Page 10

June 28, 2022June 28, 2022

Confessions and Life Lessons of a “Middle Aged” Cougar

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WTF is considered middle-aged anyways nowadays? I remember when I thought 30 was old?!

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I have a big birthday coming up, the BIG 4-0! For many, this is a death sentence. It’s all downhill from here…

…like you magically turn the page, become less attractive, less desirable, boring – kind of like an old penny you find on the ground.

But for me, I feel a sense of pride & appreciation for my body & my life at this point. Every wrinkle, scar, sun spot, stretch mark & dimple of cellulite, baby. Let’s throw a couple divorces in there, too. LOL.

(I did LOL)

They all tell my story.

Did you know my friends used to call me “Momma Cougar” after my FIRST divorce?

–those are stories for another day (& another drink).

What can I say?! I’ve historically been attracted to younger men. My last husband, yes, SECOND divorce, was 10 years younger than me.

Amazing man, really, I did pick a good one. No need to end things on bad terms. Remember that thing I preach? Learn to let people go with a loving heart. Your life will be more peaceful that way, I promise.

Other things that will make your life more peaceful: treat your body & mind like a temple, ladies.

Eat well, lift weights, be happy, do sh*t you love, don’t wait on anyone or anything, always remember your worth, & remind yourself you ain’t got time to teach, try to change someone, shrink to their level, or be someone’s mom.

Change takes time y’all. I’m 3 years “Carnivore” with my lifestyle & healthier than ever!

I call myself “Vintage.”

Vin·tage /ˈvin(t)ij/

of old, recognized, and enduring interest, importance, or quality : CLASSIC

There are 10 years between these 2 photos. Like a fine wine, bitches,

Does my life look different than I thought it would at 20? Hell to the mf, YES!

I thought I’d be happily married, 2 kids, a dog, white picket fence, workin a 9-5 M-F, still doin Jazzercise at church. When in reality, I happily live alone in an apartment with my cat, Pete. I’m divorced, kidless, have more hats on my coat rack when it comes to jobs than you can shake a stick at.

Unapologetically living life in hair extensions & lashes somewhere between scrubs & leggins. I’m clothed in purpose, smashing #meatbars with my 2 boyfriends, Al & Abe (my airfryers) on the daily.

I love every minute of it & I laugh.

I laugh because life is funny. You think you can control every outcome with precision as long as you do everything PERFECT. As long as you make all the “right” choices, it’ll go as planned. Doesn’t matter if it’s with love, money, or your body. It applies across the board. Just roll with it.

Thing is, I’ve aged, but I’m not aged. I think and feel and breathe like I always have. I’ve grown wiser, but not stupid. There’s still a ton of dreams that will be realized, adventures to be had, and a life to be lived.

I hope you feel that way, too.

My advice?

Keep going. Be your best YOU. Take every day as a blessing. Tomorrow is not promised. The best is yet to be, even if today is in shambles.

Yesterday is a bridge to nowhere, but tomorrow is a bridge to everywhere.

Carpe Diem!

I’ll leave you with some life lessons because, well, that’s how I roll.

No aesthetic #glowup & extensions can overshadow the lessons you’ll learn with life. I hope these spark a thought-provoking flame for your own reflection.

Unapologetically Be Yourself

I too feel the word “authentic” gets thrown around & over used nowadays, but it still doesn’t discredit its truth & power. I’ve learned no one can be me & it takes way too damn much energy to try & be someone else. What happens is you lose yourself & attract the wrong kinds of people in your life.

Success is Not Defined by Numbers, Titles, Productivity, & Achievement

I am worthy simply because I exist. Not because of my weight, the titles before or after my name, how many hours I’ve worked, my relationship status, or numbers of likes or followers. Success is defined by me, happiness is defined by me, relationships are defined by me, Joy is defined by me & I create my reality.

Love Shows Up For You Every Day
Love shows up every single day if you let it y’all. Let go. It may not be in the exact form, person, or way that you think but it’s always there. Let the Universe take care of the how, why, & when. You just gotta roll with it & have fun on the journey to whatever it is that you want. Pay attention to the signs & pings that you’re drawn to, like places you’re drawn to, food you love, jobs, workouts & gyms that call to you, people that always show up in your life or your mind. Those are signs.

Take Time for You & Realize There’s A Big Difference Between Alone & Being Lonely

Remember when being alone was boring & scary af & you thought that made you a loser? My alone time now is like Church & something I’ve come to cherish. I have to have it to refresh. Taking time for myself is vital to all my relationships. You can’t serve anyone with an empty cup.

Just Do It

I’ve most definitely learned that magical things come from working outside of one’s comfort zone. I admit I LOATHE being a beginner. I wanna be a master of everything like right now. Starting new jobs are extremely hard but I know as soon as I find my groove I rock whatever is thrown my way. Fear of failing, fear of embarrassing myself, fear of exposing myself stifled me for decades. Now, it might take me some time to pursue something, I may have to figure some sh*t out first, but I will never have a dream I don’t follow because I don’t believe in myself.

Be Present, Speak Up, Gratitude, Always

Being present – really fckin hard for me too. I miss out on the beauty of the now when I don’t slow down tho. Take time to pause. Literally tell myself this numerous times a day. Speaking up & standing strong in my beliefs also plagued this recovered people pleasing crowd follower back in the day. You just end up a watered down version of yourself. Gratitude is always the answer, like walk. If in doubt, walk, you’ll hear me say. Every single day is a blessing & I don’t dare take that for granted. In the last 10 years, I’ve witnessed how precious life & health are. I look for little ways to celebrate everything, I wake up & say thank you to the Universe & God every morning. I tell my plants, appliances, & my cat Pete I love them. I know, I know…I’m a special kind of weird. I make a point of reflecting on the people & things I’m grateful for…and THIS my friends, all of THIS in its collective has made all the difference.

Cheers to defining your own life . Here’s to many more years of awesomesauceness! (Yup made that up)

“Glow Up” on your own terms!

oxox Coach K

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bio carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana fishers — Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

June 26, 2022June 26, 2022

Have you ever met a woman who takes her time?

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Had a DM today from a frustrated woman who stated she felt she was always “Behind with everything.” Relationships, love, her body, financial situation, for examples.

I’ve felt this way more times in my life than I’d like to admit. How bout y’all?

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I’m 40, childless, divorced (twice), & for humor’s sake, my cat, Pete, is the longest successful relationship with a male I’ve had. LOL!

My life is incredibly rich in love, laughter, joy, & wealth, however. It’s about gratitude & perspective. My wealth is found in experiences, honoring myself, & being a human that makes somebody feel like somebody.

She cried, “I should be further along.”

Seriously, what does that even mean anymore? Like wth is even “normal” anymore?

And who cares?!

I replied, Honey, take your time. I paused, smiled, & sent her these beautiful words from a post that changed my life years ago.

I hope they resonate with you in the beautiful way that you need, too.

A woman who takes her time quote katie kelly lilbitoffit fishers indiana — Feel free to share with someone who needs to hear this too!

Have You Ever Met A Woman Who Takes Her Time?⁣

A woman who takes her time moves slow. She knows what she is worth. She values herself enough that she doesn’t need to hook you quickly with her shiny carnal lures.⁣

⁣She takes the time to see you. She waits patiently as you take off your armor. She knows the sadness hidden beneath your smile. She knows the hurt you hold inside. She isn’t in a hurry to pull it out of you. She knows that her purpose is not to heal you, but to teach you how to heal yourself.⁣

⁣A woman who takes her time does not believe in Love at first sight. Not the Love she is interested in. Because she remembers how long it took to love herself. She knows that is how her Love will grow with you. Slowly. Gradually. With forgiveness. Patience. Compassion for all your greed, all your lusts, all your competitiveness. Even your possessiveness.⁣

⁣But a woman who takes her time will not let you keep her as your pet. She has taken the time to know who she is in truth. She knows she cannot be owned. She is a wild wolf. Made of shark teeth, hummingbird feathers, and the first drop of dew on the morning rose.⁣

⁣If you have the courage to be with a woman who takes her time, there is nothing that you can keep hidden. No secrets will be kept safe. You will be naked, vulnerable, exposed. You will see yourself for who you truly are. All your shadow, all your glory. You will be forced to see Her for who she truly is. When there is nothing left to hide, then and only then will you be able to decide…If you are meant to slow dance with the woman who takes her time.⁣ @aubreymarcus ❤️

#SundayChurch #selfloveisthebestlove

Oxox Coach K

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June 25, 2022June 25, 2022

“I’ll be happier when” and why this is bullshit.

She told me, “Once I lose the weight I know I’ll find the right guy & the right job because I’ll be happier & more confident.”

I felt her emotion in my soul, that was me at one time, too.

I thought as long as I shrunk myself to the smallest version possible I would, then & only then, finally be happy in the depths of my disordered eating & abusive relationship with myself.

Somehow I convinced myself by controlling my body, I held the power.

Guess what?

Life kicked me in the face repeatedly.

However, despite the painful experiences of sickness, mental/physical heaviness of being obese, pain of living with Crohn’s, failed relationships, men cheating on me, ME cheating on myself – I gained awareness of my strengths & weaknesses.

I learned about communication, humility, compassion, empathy, self love, pride, proper nourishment, fitness, mindset, purpose, & the true meaning of wealth & happines.

I had one job I hated so much I wanted to cry every morning. I resigned after 2 months because I was stressed & miserable. I felt like the biggest failure & fell into a depression.

I didn’t know my purpose or what the f*ck I was supposed to be doing with my life. I didn’t know how to become the best version of myself.

I dove head first into researching & learning from resources & mentors such as The Secret, Abraham Hicks, Lacy Phillips @tobemagnetic , Bob Proctor, Wayne Dyer, Napoleon Hill, Dr. Joe Dispenza.

I learned about how I was wired, to embrace & accept myself thru researching my enneagram, astrology signs, human design, & Myers Briggs.

I learned that the statement, “I’ll be happier when”…

– was total bullsh*t.

You’ll find the right guy/girl, the right job, the body, the health, insert whatever you desire here __________ — when you learn you attract & manifest everything you want by choosing to be happy & confident right now, despite the circumstances.

Some of life experiences you might relate to…

I know people who some would be categorized as “larger, less attractive, &/or less successful” by society’s standards than other “slimmer, more attractive, &/or more successful” & they are the happiest, most fulfilled, rich, & have the most nurturing wonderful relationships I have ever seen.

This has zero fux to do about their size & everything to do about their beliefs about themselves, their abundance mindset, & commitment to making decisions to constantly create a better human.

They f*cking rock life because they love themselves & the Universe rewards them so.

You have the power to create the life & attract whatever you want simply by learning to love yourself, focus on what makes YOU happy, what brings YOU joy, & choosing to keep commitments to yourself from a loving heart.

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Learn the lessons or they will repeat themselves until you do.

You matter simply because you exist not for what you look like.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever, & that’s OK, enjoy the season & experiences.

Not every job is meant to last forever, just the same as relationships.

Love is the most nourishing & essential nutrient of life. Without it life has a little meaning. And this could be love for yourself, love for a greater purpose, or love for another. It is the most important thing we have to give freely & the most valuable thing we can receive.

Our job is to reject love or a life that is lackluster, abusive, emotionally damaging, or vanilla. Step up to plate of your desires & knock that ball out of the park.

Oxox Coach K

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June 23, 2022June 23, 2022

50 Shades of Addictions and What I Did About It

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50 shades of addictions…like this coffee

here. Confessions of another dirty bathroom photo.

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I made some big decisions lately.

I’m going down part time in radiology. This is my last full-time week & I booked a legacy photo shoot for my 40th in August.

I read a past journalist entry this morning dated October of 2020.

It read, “My coworkers & I were going thru our schedules & I had a gut check moment. I’ve had 3, THREE whole days off in 2 months.”

My reaction, “WTF, Katie! You have a problem.”

I’ve confided in y’all about how I have an addictive personality.

I was never addicted to 1 thing. I discovered thru therapy I was addicted to filling voids.

It’s a hard shot to swallow. Most truth bombs are.

I reflected on my journey this mornin & gave gratitude for how far I’ve come. And I hope y’all can do the same. Be proud of yourselves!

My addictions were similar shades.

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I’ve been all 50 shades & shapes & sizes of fugged up, mentally & physically. They affected all my relationships.

Like the memes…

𝗠𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲: what do we say when we feel like this?
𝗠𝗲: you coulda had a bad bitch?
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁: NO.

Quoting @lizzobeeating seems like a positive life decision for me at this point

You?

My biggest fear used to be gaining weight.

Now, I’ve quickly discovered my biggest fear is missing out on life & working my life away.

I enjoy coaching y’all, writing, speaking, networking with my community, nurturing relationships, & helping others more at this season in my life than trading my time for money.

I want to spend as much time with my mom & dad, my friends & family as I can, making as many memories as I can.
Loving the sh*t out of this life, squeezing every drop.

That’s my true wealth.

I hope I gave y’all a laugh, & let you know that it’s OK. We are always 1 decision away from a completely different life.

Choose your happy.

Xoxo
Coach K

BONUS: words of wisdom from Dr. Nicole LePera about addiction.

“Addiction is an attempt to regulate a nervous system chronically stuck in fight or flight.

Addiction is an attempt to escape from feeling a pain and emptiness that runs to the core of a persons being.

Addiction is a form of self abuse. When we are abused or emotionally neglected as children, we can become our own abuser. It’s all we know. Our brains seek to repeat the familiar.

Addiction is the result of not having childhood co-regulation. An inability to self sooth. A lack of healthy ways to cope.

Addiction is the result of witnessing things that were scary, overwhelming, or downright terrifying without having a safe adult to help you understand them.

Addiction is the childhood LACK OF EMOTIONAL CONNECTION, manifested.

Addiction is an attempt to silence the “dark” thoughts that re-play (like a broken record) the voice of the critical parent.

Addiction is the result of a society’s greatest lie: that says some people aren’t lovable, worthy, or valuable.

Addiction is SHAME. And it’s usually a shame that was never that persons to carry.

Addiction causes a person to engage in survival based behaviors they wouldn’t otherwise engage in like: deception, abuse, theft, or betrayal.

Addiction is a slow spiritual death that no human being consciously chooses.”

Wishing you all so much healing. Love & hugs

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carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana — Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

June 21, 2022June 21, 2022

The one ability the most successful people must have

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Cringe: can’t you just give me a meal plan & tell me what to do?

I can but is that truly gonna change what you’re telling yourself?

Take fans of opposite teams, you’re going to get 2 different stories during a game depending on their perspective, right?!

Huge correlation between happiness & health. Happier people naturally make better food/lifestyle choices. Happier people also tell themselves a different story.

So how do we find your happy?

That’s what I’m here to help you discover. It’s not just about macros, workouts, & diets. There’s more to nutrition & helping someone gain their health back than prescribing a meal plan.

The one ability the most successful people & clients possess is the ability to forgive themselves, learn, & pivot.

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I feel the root of most people’s unhappiness comes from unmet perceived expectations of society.

Social media for example: wonderful connection & education tool but can also be a dagger in someone’s heart & perception of themselves.

We confuse success & happiness. Really they’re 2 different things. The richest people in the world can be the most miserable.

The poorest can be the most content & happy. It’s all about your thoughts, perception, & the reality you create for yourself.

Happiness is knowing how to navigate through challenging times. That’s what we’re here for, to teach you

Flipping the script as I say.

I talked about gratitude showers a couple days ago, I don’t care what you have to do to get yourself in a more positive mindset, fucking do it.

I personally go on an abundance rampage.

Its where I tell myself out loud how beautiful I am, how abundant my life is, how grateful I am for every single thing no matter how minuscule.
Instantly I’m in a better mood.

Get rid of the what if‘s & I should‘s. Quit shoulding on yourself.
Get to a place of forgiveness & acceptance. That’s contentment.

Just like in business, done is better than perfect.
What you think you want, or what you think will happen may not be the thing that you need right now. You still need to take action, however, to move the needle forward.

The Universe is in control & it gives you what you need. It also gives you what you attract, so the energy you put out is very important.

Who and what do you want to attract?

You always end up where you’re supposed to be & it always turns out better than what you thought in the end.

No one can take away what you put in your mind. Create your own reality. The greatest prison is the one you create in your own mind.

To me, I’m living in a castle. I have the healthiest happiest body ever. I am the most beautiful girl in the world. I am surrounded by the most magnificent people. My life is joyous and fulfilling. I’m rich in so many ways more than just monetary in nature.

That’s the story I tell myself.
Am I all of these things? Who knows. Does it matter? Fuck no.

All that matters is what I think.

If you see your life as a list of achievements, titles, & what you look like — you’re missing the meaning of life.

You’re not being present & you’re not enjoying the journey of the story writing & connecting with others.

You don’t live, goals, you live the journey.
Katie Kelly, @lil_bit_of_fit

Stop being a victim in your story. Be the hero.

Exercise:

I want you to write down 3 things that if you did them each week would bring you a deep sense of happiness.

It could be working out.
It could be spending time with loved ones. It could be creating things.
It could be teaching your kids something or taking care of the household.
It could be spending time outside in nature, in the sunshine.
Reading a book by the pool.
It could be writing Blogs.
It can be anything.

That’s where you start and you build from there. One brick at a time.

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June 19, 2022

The one thing you must do to succeed and it’s probably not what you think

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Do you wanna be a fairytale or do you wanna be a legend?

Fxck the fairytale, be a legend.

Sunday Morning chat you need to hear.

Wanna know where I got that?

#Sundayconfessions: real housewives of New York 🙂

Who else shamelessly loves bad TV?

The character, Tinsley, was trying out boxing. She started crying & said she wasn’t happy.

The Coach flat out asked her what kind of life she wanted to live & who she wanted to be.

Gut check moment, right?!

So I pose the question to you, what do you believe you’re worthy of & who do you wanna be?

Let that answer be the propeller that drives you throughout the week, don’t let it be the anchor that holds you back.

Everything is about perspective.

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That anchor could be a solid foundation that grounds you or it can be the very thing that holds you back & sinks the boat.

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lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana — Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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June 17, 2022June 17, 2022

3 Stories That Will Change Your Life

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Good morning & happy @spotify new music Friday, Loves. Couple of my favorite things about Fridays👉new music 🎶 & 💁🏼‍♀️ payday 💰🤑🙃💚)

I call them #brightspotsFriday

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Gratitude, HUGE part of my success routine.

Just like getting up early ☀️⏰
Just like writing for myself & y’all ✍🏼👩🏼‍💻
Just like expanding my mind, via podcasts, books, YouTube 🧠
Just like doin chores 🐈‍⬛🧹👚🧼
Just like eating well, all the meats🥩
Just like getting workouts in🏋🏼‍♀️🏃🏼‍♀️
Just like spending time with friends & family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦
Just like taking time for ME 💝

Still woke up at 6 AM despite getting home at 1 from the @MorganWallen concert #earlybirdproblems

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I take pictures, snap stories, & write to connect emotions & memories of my everyday’s — to remember, reflect, learn, & connect.
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My IG is my digital journal.
⁣Stories.
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Stories are important. They create your identity.

I’ve read ‘Atomic Habits’ twice, a section talks about stories.
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What stories are you telling yourself? ⁣
Who do you want to embody? ⁣
What systems do you have in place to help you achieve goals?⁣
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3 areas of life affected by the stories we tell ourselves ⏬

⁣- Money stories⁣
⁃ Relationship stories
⁃ Food & Body stories
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I fxcked up over the years, too.🤷‍♀️ Like my IG bio says, “𝙁𝙤𝙧𝙢𝙚𝙧 𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘬 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦 𝘣*𝘵𝘤𝘩” 😆

In some form I told myself I wasn’t worthy in all 3 of these areas, setting blocks instead of boundaries — there’s a difference.
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Example, with Relationships: if I was asked to do something & really liked a person, I’d lose myself & completely change my plans to suit them.
Or shxt like settling for a booty call🫣

I know, I know…shxt happens, y’all. Dust yourself off.

Learn your lesson.

(Steps off soapbox 📦😂)

This was me not valuing my worth.
A block.
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Now, instead of denying myself of my plans/needs I simply say, “Let me get my workout in (insert whatever task or commitment I had) & I will connect with you & confirm plans because I would like to spend time with you.”⁣
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This is setting a boundary not a block.
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Example, Food & Body: instead of saying, “I’m not a morning person, I don’t have time to meal prep.” Set a system & a worth affirmation. “I don’t like to get up early but I will commit to 3 mornings this week & meal prep lunches because I want to be healthy.”

Now repeat & build from here. ⁣
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These are all pivotal changes we work on via coaching. They will get you to your goals, I promise.

✍🏼 📖 Journal exercise for the day: write down the identity you want to embody around money, relationships, food & body. ⁣
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Mine👇🏻⁣
💰MONEY: I am safe, able, successful, abundant, & provided for. ⁣

🥰RELATIONSHIP: I am special, loved, seen, heard, safe, understood, & chosen. I allow mental real estate for the people in my life giving me the same respect.

🥩FOOD & BODY: I am healthy, safe, strong, & beautiful in every season.
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Inner calm, outer order😉⁣
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Xoxo
Coach K

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June 13, 2022

Advice and affirmations successful people remind themselves

All right squad it’s time to get our mind right for the week!!! #mindsetmonday

A few pages of advice & affirmations some people take a lifetime to learn. These are things successful people remind themselves on the daily.

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Take time to count your blessings, we always have something to be grateful for.

I’m extremely grateful for all the wonderful opportunities & people coming into my life. It’s scary & I have no idea where I’m going or exactly what Im meant to do but I’m rollin with it. 🤘🏻

So here’s your permission to do the same if you need it.

I don’t know about y’all but I have been feeling hopeful, happy, excited, confused, & everything in between & some days I feel like I’m just trying not to lose my sh*t.

Uplevels & transformation are uncomfortable AF.🤷‍♀️

During these times this is what I remind myself, + affirmations⬇️

I’m here for it.

I’m ready.

I’m safe & supported.

I’m surrendered.

I’m whole.

I am Love.

I am wealthy, healthy, joyful, able, abundant & prosperous.

I am worthy simply because I exist.

I am me & nobody can be me.

I’m blaming the full moon 🌕😆

Know you’re not alone.

Sending all the love & hugs!

I wanna know at least one thing you’re grateful for below⬇️

Oxox Coach K

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June 12, 2022June 12, 2022

How to be more attractive

Confessions of another bathroom selfie….

girl hc tavern sparkle jacket bathroom selfie

( @thehctavern one of my favorite places for food & drink @theyardfishers btw)

I clearly remember the moment I told myself, “You are the main mf*ing character in your story. You are not a cameo in someone else’s movie, they are not more important than you. Get yours.”

That was a pivotal day & new chapter in my storybook.

“If you want to live on your own terms you have to be willing to crash & burn “ – Nikki Sixx⁣

Even going thru therapy, there were instances I realized I was still people pleasing & love bombing in different shades, placing other people on a pedestal above myself.

They may have been in different forms & people, but they were still showing up as cycles & outcomes I didn’t fancy in my reality anymore.

Writing is a part of my therapy. I appreciate y’all allowing me to add value to your lives in anyway that you need.

If you’re stuck in that phase called “f*ck everything!”

It’s ok. Been there too.

To anyone who struggles with FOMO, regret, feeling disappointed in their place in life, maybe unattractive…somethin my therapist taught me…⁣
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In order to shed old skin & open yourself up to to a better life, better health, & abundance, we must interrupt our anxious thoughts with:

“What if this works out for the better?”⁣

“What if all my hard work pays off?”

“I am open to receive what I need & trust things happen for me exactly when they’re meant to.”
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So I’m passing that on to you today – wherever you are, whatever you’re shedding, whatever you’re leaving, whomever you’re becoming.⁣
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Select your thoughts the same way you select your clothes every day. ⁣
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If you want to control things in your life SO bad — control your mind, your inner narrative, & your response.
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Live & learn. That’s why we’re here 🙂

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What do you do to make yourself feel more beautiful?

For me, a lil lipstick & lashes go a long way !

Oxox
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February 13, 2022

Love lessons and things to learn about yourself to be successful in love

Love is a classroom not a candy shop.
— Life lessons I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks
📸 : simply showin love for this lil meat sack in the mirror.

lilbitoffit — Self love is the best love.

Love is the most powerful force in the world. In my opinion, the only thing that matters. For nothing would exist in this world, including you, without love.

I used to think there was only one soulmate out there made specifically just for you. After 39 years I’ve learned you’ll meet many people & things throughout your life that will be your “soulmate.” Some for seasons & others maybe for life.

I define “soulmate” now as a mate that helps you find your soul. This includes yourself, memories, places, things, friends, family, lovers, & enemies.

A book that changed my life 15 years ago, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I discovered it in a desk drawer at work & no one knew how it got there. I was miserable at this time struggling in my marriage & with mental & physical health. It taught me the power of my thoughts, love, & perspective.

Lessons I’ve learned about love that may help spark thought & introspection for you today…

-When you seek pleasure & lust it always runs away from you but when you seek purpose, understanding & connection, pleasure comes towards you because it’s a byproduct of you putting in the work.

Learn about yourself & your person. Understand what you both love, how you’re both wired, love languages, etc.

Things that helped me understand myself & other people…
FUN STUFF ABOUT ME👇
▪️Manifesting Generator (Human Design) basically get sh*t done & move at the speed of thought. Busy bodies, worker bees, get more done before 9am than most do in a week.

▪️ENFJ (Myers Briggs) among the rarest of the 16 types, only 2-3% of the population. The ENFJ is warm, extroverted, engaging, charismatic, persuasive, & talkative.⁣ Oprah, Barack Obama, Maya Angelou.

▪️2w3 (Enneagram) The helper/achiever, desire to fulfill the needs of others & can sense emotions with clarity & precision. Helping & achieving brings us Joy.

▪️Love languages: 1.words of affirmation 2. physical touch 3. quality time⁣

⁣▪️Astrology: I’m a Rising Scorpio ♏️ , Cancer ♋️ Sun, Sagittarius ♐️ moon. Basically a contradictory Unicorn because I love deep thinking, caretaking, & solitude, but the Sag loves freedom, extroversion & adventure. I’m freedom & home❤😘

All of these things craft a completely unique & wonderful individual. You can always know someone deeper.

This is why there is so much infidelity because we are addicted to newness. So why don’t you learn something new about your other half? It’s just like walking down the same path every day, why don’t you try to notice a new flower, rock, or tree? Then you’ll discover the same old paths can always be new & exciting. Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.

Be playful but don’t play mind games. If you’re interested, make the move & observe. If they don’t respond, move on. We build strength when we make the move because we build confidence. This is you being in charge of your destiny. Mind games destroy the authenticity of a relationship.

Making someone feel bad doesn’t make them good. You change because of love, clarity, & communication. We don’t change because of judgment, guilt, & expectation

Any recurring issues you need to solve for the long run.

Prepare your partner for your mood swings & schedule. Communicate what makes you feel safe. For example, ask, “Do you need support or a solution.?” “Does saving make you feel safe or your earning power?” Check in with your other half. Pick one day a week & have a date check in. Ask them, “What was the highlight of your week & how can I help you?

Focus on how you can complement, not compete or complete. When you compete you’re trying to be everything. When you compliment, you are just being you. Take a moment & recognize what your other half brings to the relationship.

Happy Super Bowl Sunday & Valentine’s Eve, squad!
Go out there & love someone today!

oxox Coach K