Confessions of an Empath & a Simple Guide to Grounding

Confessions of an Empath…

Any one else find themselves periodically somewhere between IDK, IDC, & IDGAF? šŸ˜†

ā€œWho do you think you are?ā€ she asked me.

I had a performance review when I was around 27 years old. My manager told me I had a ā€œstrong silenceā€ which others took as me being arrogant & I needed to be more understanding of other peopleā€˜s weaknesses.

To put it bluntly: ā€œYouā€™re resting bxtch face & the fact you can do other peopleā€™s jobs better, make them uncomfortable.ā€ šŸ˜‚ 

It was eye-opening & ego shattering at the same time. I had no idea that is how I was being perceived & it forced me to sit down & observe my past behaviors. 

Why did I develop this ā€œstrong silence?ā€

I was going through divorce at the time, in radiology school full-time & working part time on top of it.

šŸ’šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļøI was like come on sister, my life feels like getting stuck halfway putting on a sports bra when youā€™re either sweaty or not dried off from the shower yet & I need Jesus to come down & cut me out of it. 

Part of this strong silence was because I am an empath. Iā€™m sure many of you are asking wtf is an empath, Katie?

Empath: noun, a person with the ability to apprehend, experience, & understand the mental &/or emotional state of another.

I didnā€™t understand what was ā€œwrongā€ with me when I was younger, just thought I was weird. šŸ’šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļøWell…I know Iā€™m weird but I embrace my weirdness now.

Crowds give me anxiety. Jam packed email & DM inboxes give me anxiety.

I literally can feel & read the energy of a room ā€” even a simple text message, too.

Watching a sad movie brings me to tears sometimes & hurts my soul.

I can observe a person & understand a sense of what theyā€™re feeling, down to what kind of day they had.

This happens all the time ā€” at the grocery store when I pass by people & at the gym.

Sometimes itā€™s suffocating. 

Which is why Iā€™m quiet & wear my headphones a lotā€” not that Iā€™m stuck up or in a bad mood.

Energy can feel heavy or light. Iā€™ll put it this way, itā€™s like when youā€™re trying to follow directions & you turn the radio down because you can think clearer, you feel lighter, right?

I know Iā€™m not the only one out here that feels the same things to a varying degree, so I wanted to tell you itā€™s OK to be quiet & take time to do what you need to do to ground & find peace.

Itā€™s also OK to get frustrated to the point where youā€™re like fxck everything! 

Take a time out.

WAYS I GROUND:

Walk in nature

Walk breaks at work

Listen to music

Journal & write 

Color

Talk to a friend 

Spend time alone

Have a spa day

Infrared sauna

Workout

Get a massage 

Clean my home 

Netflix & cuddles with Pete šŸˆā€ā¬› 

Set boundaries & communicate them with others unapologetically

2 of my favorite quotes for inspiration today:

ā€œI get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.ā€ ā€• E.B. White.

ā€œWhen I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, & could say, ‘I used everything you gave me.ā€ ā€” Erma Bombeck

We live in a society where we can literally be, have, & order anything & go anywhere we want at the press of a button.

We can communicate with people across the country with an app. We devour other peopleā€™s lives reel by reel simply by swiping, scrolling, & rubbing a piece of glass we hold in our hands.

We compare & criticize diets, religion, weights, bodies, workouts, politics, sex, race, relationship preferences, status, & bank accounts.

We doubt our sexiness, our abilities, our worth.

Just wanted to remind you itā€™s ok to be human. We need the contrast to appreciate the light.

Remember kindness, unity, & empathy never go out of style.

So pull up a seat at my table ā€” your table, any table ā€” & letā€™s get up every morning determined to both change the world & have one hell of a good time embracing our weirdnessā¤ļø

One Reply to “Confessions of an Empath & a Simple Guide to Grounding”

  1. Every word is so true! I needed all of this today. Thank you for being you! You make a difference!

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