She said, “Everyone would be happier if they would settle down & get married.”
Had a lady tell me this yesterday.
Well I have some shxt to say about that…
Why does marriage always have to be the end goal?
I’ve asked myself this on several occasions. Like can’t I just have a life partner I love to build an empire with? Have conversations, travel, ENJOY LIFE with?
I vow to be honest with y’all, as one who has gone thru divorce (twice), & also lived as a girl who always had to be in a relationship in my younger years — this statement could not be more false.
We vilify singledom. Why?
The years I spent single have been the most transformative — & painful. But absolutely necessary.
You have to take time to be the person you wanna be with. That means nurturing yourself, loving yourself, being ok with making mistakes & relationships not working out.
People are our teachers, some relationships are only meant to last a season. Some are meant to last a lifetime. Surrender & let them happen.
You also can’t be afraid to take risks & choose love. Building walls around yourself & not allowing yourself to experience love in whatever context or relationship you need, is also paralyzing. That’s not living life.
Am I proud to say I’ve been thru 2 divorces, no. But I am super proud of myself for trying. I am not afraid to choose love & neither should you but make sure you’re doing it on your own terms & for the right reasons.
You’re going to fxck up in life & others will too. I’m just gonna leave it like this, find the right person or people to fxck up with.
Life is so much sweeter when you live it on your own terms, don’t be influenced by other people’s or society’s expectations of you.
I don’t know who may need to hear these but I’m gonna say it anyways, many of you need a therapist & to date yourself for a while, not another relationship or government sponsored life binding contract.
— Because I care.
Wishing you guys so much love & confidence today, no matter what kind of relationship you’re in❤️