One day I woke up and I was sick of being the fat girl. I was sick of the FEELING of hating my body, feeling slow, out of shape, weak, struggling with gut issues, & frankly, mediocre. DONE.
I’ve lost 55lbs throughout my lifetime. I’ve been all shapes and sizes. I’ve made all the same mistakes as you from trying every diet known to man, bingeing and purging, restricting, abusing exercise, taking diet pills – you name it.
Only until you learn to love the skin you’re in & make the changes you need to make from a place of self love vs self loathing does true transformation take place.
You asked me for my best fat loss advice and here are 10 things I would say…
1. You don’t have to diet often once you heal your body & make peace with the right foods & workouts for you. Your routine and success habits will transform your body into whatever you want it to be. That starts with an abundance mindset.
2. You should focus on strength training and feeling amazing. Sprinkle in just enough cardio to do your body and mind well. The secret is progression and consistency. Just get to the f*cking gym.
3. You don’t need as much fiber or as many carbs as you think you do, especially if they’re causing gut issues. We’re all different. Experiment. Do what works for you, not the crowd. Eat animal based nutrition (meat & eggs) & cut processed foods.
4. Sleep & recovery are just as important as food & workouts. No, you can’t function optimally on 5 hrs of sleep. Stress management is also a must.
5. Sometimes success looks like contentment, not chaos. Drop the FOMO & slow down a little bit. I realized running myself into the ground, trying to keep up with everyone was serving no one. It’s ok to be considered boring. It’s ok to like to go to bed early & get up early. You are the star of your show, not a cameo. One person’s “living life to its fullest” may be another person’s demise if it’s not true to their alignment.
6. How bout we normalize not “liking” certain things about ourselves but being ok with it, like cellulite. Use it as empowerment & proof of a life well lived.
7. Wisdom is remembering a past experience & feeling without an emotional attachment. Learn your lessons & move on.
8. Just like life, the scale will have ebbs & flows. You can’t grow & change staying the same weight & staying at the same point in life. The secret is not allowing the ebbs & flows to affect your emotional well being.
9. Stop letting your clothes wear you. YOU wear your clothes. Be your own fashionista. Wear whatever the f*ck you want. BE EXTRA. Dress to compliment your body. Stop trying to fit into clothes that are outdated & don’t fit you anymore.
10. Stay in YOUR lane & do what’s best for you. You don’t need to follow rules or follow the crowd. Like I always say, “I don’t do rules, I do what feels right.”
oxox Coach K
