I was staring at a terribly unflattering close-up of my face on my iPhone screen. Kinda like the terribly unflattering videos in the Target checkout line.
Staring at my iPhone, I was waiting for a client to accept our FaceTime call.
“Why the hell do reflections trigger us?” I thought.
I should have used those 10 seconds of wait time to express gratitude for this technology that allows us to connect from all over the world!
And yet all I could focus on was this red sun spot I have in the middle of my forehead & the fact my eyes looked tired af.
I moved the phone to a different angle to see if I could get a “better view.” I pulled at my eyes for an instant eye lift. I immediately started brainstorming solutions to these “imperfections.”
Was this something Botox could solve?
Would I need to invest in some kind of fancy cream or treatment?
I’m disappointed to say that all of this flashed through my mind in those 10 seconds, but I keep things on the real reel here & I’m just like you.
“Only from a place of self love do you have permission to change yourself,” I kept telling myself.
And that is what I remind myself every time the criticism Gremlin creeps in.
I understand it’s hard to break this cycle of self-critique. Especially when you’ve experienced trauma like being made fun of as a kid or raised in an environment where achieving & people pleasing were the only ways you felt you could receive love.
I realized years ago I needed to break these bad habits & started practicing daily gratitude & being present in my body as it was.
If you ask me today what my top beauty advice would be, I would say this…
Look in the mirror less, obsess less about things that don’t add true value to your life & look at the rest of the world to see what you could be using your time for instead.
I now use my extra time for growth & nourishment in the forms of education, service, money, personal development, health, self care, & making memories with loved ones.
I decided 2023 would be the year I give up. The year I nourish.
I owe it to myself, to you, to my dreams, & to the legacy I want to leave here that doesn’t have a damn thing to do with a red sunspot on my forehead.
Cheers to 2023 – the year I. Give. Up.
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oxox Coach K
