How to Stop Fitting In to Finally Belong

I know what it’s like to ache for belonging…

I had a teacher tell me in middle school I was “too big to be a cheerleader.”

I was CRUSHED.

➤ That meant I was different.

➤ I was less than.

➤ I didn’t. Fit. In.

(I’m 60lbs lighter than I used to be for people new here. I spent the majority of my life sick, over weight, & broke af. You can find my weight loss/healing story in the link in my IG bio) link here

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In the absence of love & belonging there is suffering. -Brené Brown

I still feel alone (not lonely – big difference).

I truly am a dominant introvert. Being around a lot of people is really hard & energetically draining.

I won’t, however, sacrifice my loves like live music, travel, & exploring because of it tho. I’ve taught myself to be a selective extrovert.

If I wanna go do something – I do it.

Here’s been the game changer for me: I belong to ME.

I spend a lot of time belonging to myself &, frankly, that makes a portion of other people feel uncomfortable🤷‍♀️

Even when I feel alone or “don’t fit in” I know I belong to ME. For the first time in my life at 41, I feel fully embodied in the unique, sparkly, sweet & spicy essence of MY “being.”

You see the opposite of belonging 👉is fitting in. Belonging doesn’t ask for us to change ourselves it asks us to BE ourselves.

The more you love yourself & give yourself what you need, the less you’ll demand & need from others.

♡ I challenge you to ask yourself the question, “Who am I?”

How would you answer that?

To give you examples, today, as the 41 year old model, I’d describe myself as follows…

∞ Storyteller & Experience collector

∞ Life & people lover

∞ Creator & entrepreneur

∞ Messenger & mentor

∞ Psychic Intuitive & Healer

∞ Forever student & athlete of life

∞ Your safe space & biggest adventure

I don’t like to be “defined” by labels, nor do my values reside there. I value freedom/time/health/& energy more than anything.

I used to live for labels like being defined by things like being a CrossFit athlete, a former Marine wife, an X-ray tech, yada yada, etc

I am an athlete of LIFE!

And guess what?
So are for you!

Enjoy flexibility & the ability to shed & create whatever shade/character you want every day.

As a travel RT & clinician, I’ve learned to make HOME in MYSELF. That’s how I’ve found happiness, joy, & peace embracing this lifestyle.

♛ I belong everywhere I go as long as I don’t betray myself.

If I’m worried about:

if other people like or accept me
or the need create for likes or follows instead of what my heart wants
& I feel the need to change for those reasons…

THAT is the moment I’ve betrayed myself.

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” -Brené Brown

Oxox

Coach K

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More importantly, I want you to believe in yourself, your health, your business, your voice, & your ability to live your best life! I believe in vibrational living in life, fitness, health, relationships, & business. Intuition is one of our greatest gifts! I’m here to help you discover & follow yours to a more abundant, joyful life!

I’m known as the sweary, Indiana farmer’s daughter who went from a sick (Crohn’s Disease & bulimia), overweight (lost 60lbs via the carnivore diet, CrossFit & Orange Theory), broke bish (was 50k+ in debt) to a thriving, self loving human here to inspire, educate, & mentor!

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October 7, 2023

Advice from an 81 year old: The most important thing in life

I asked an elderly patient years ago, “What is the most important thing you’ve learned in 81 years?”

And she said somethin I’ll never forget that I also heard on a past podcast,

“One of the most important things I’ve learned is health is the crown on the well person’s head that only the sick person can see & wealth comes in other important forms other than money.”

Ooooof. Who else felt that? 👋

She went on to say, “I wished I had changed my perspectives sooner. Mostly around the perception of being ‘rich’ & that in order to be seen as beautiful I had to be certain size & status.”

She realized she was always chasin a goal like being rich & losing as much weight as possible instead of embracing the experiences of the journey & being grateful for what she already had.

I don’t know about y’all but I love spending time with the elderly. They’re full of magical wisdom. It’s one of the most favorite gems 💎 of my job working in healthcare.

Simply walking & making my bed helped transform my life, lose 55lbs & keep it off.

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[It’s not what you think & this is what people don’t tell you.] My healing story here⬇️

https://lilbitoffit.com/1-year-on-the-carnivore-diet-my-story-journey-transitioning-to-a-meat-based-carnivore-diet/

When thinking about a #millionairemorningroutine & the routines of the fittest people on earth, it comes down to the reason AND intention behind their actions.

Let’s be real, simply making your bed is not going to help you lose the weight but being a person that LEADS & keeps commitments to themselves, WILL.

70% of leadership is how you lead yourself. There is a difference between leadership & management just like there’s a difference between PREACHING & PRACTICING what you preach.

I intend to be a human that when someone talks about me I would hope that they would say, “She makes me want to be a better person.”

Had plenty of wake up calls where I asked myself a few things:

How are you maintaining positivity in the face of negativity?
How are you setting goals & plans to execute?
How are you staying committed to yourself despite lack of motivation or judgement from others?

🔥People will follow you if you give them a purposeful reason to.

3 kinds of leadership:

1️⃣Physical leadership: Are you healthy & happy & nourished body, mind, & spirit to be strong & serve as a role model to others?

2️⃣Mental leadership: social media brainwashes & continuously puts what you want to see in front of you. What are you clicking on, subjecting yourself to, & what are you consuming?

Find the people you want to embody so you can learn from them & be better. Release the individuals who don’t take you where you want to go.

3️⃣Emotional leadership: The ability to stay balanced & even keeled in the face of negativity.

Know your mission & values. Your mission should be built on the foundation of your values.

So what are your values?

Mine: Service. Health. Wealth & Freedom. Self Nourishment. Extraordinary Relationships.

“Be who you are & say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss

5 things I’ve learned in 41 yrs I’ll leave with you in hopes of you learning sooner than I did:

➡️Joy, purpose, fulfillment (JPF) vs fame, fortune, applause (FFA). Which would you choose? I choose JPF because if you choose JPF the FFA will follow.

➡️Forms of wealth: self mastery, self awareness, family, health, your craft, personal development, money, time, freedom, charity, adventure, your circle of genius & environment

➡️Don’t lower your standards or standard of living to meet your income, live strategically within your means to raise your income & standards of living to meet your standards.

➡️You are always replaceable within a company. Don’t live for them &/or make them your identity. YOU make money for them. YOU are the gem & YOU create your own abundance. Take YOUR GIFTS with you & have the confidence to creat the life of YOUR DREAMS.

➡️If you’re gonna chase something, chase service. Because👇

“To live in the hearts we leave behind, is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell.

Our days are numbered, what are you gonna leave behind?

Abs…a pretty picture…a pretty/handsome face…money in the bank…titles…OR…

…👉the memories of your dream life well & wisely lived?

Reminders for today ✨

You don’t owe anyone anything:
Your healing. Your process. Your happiness. Your peace. Those all belong to you.

Affirm this today ✨

I welcome the harvest with wide arms & with an unfastened heart! ❤️🫶🌽🥩🙏🤲🧎‍♀️

Mantra for today:

Abundance is all around me.
Abundance & Attractiveness are energies.
Abundance, Inner peace & Fulfillment are states of being.
Abundance & Reality are an existence I create.
Abundance is a gift from the Universe. I unlock the door & my vibration is the key 🔑 🪄🚪
Abundance shows up as money & in many other ways.
I AM grateful for the continual stream of Abundance flowing into my life.

✨✨ ✨✨✨✨

Oxox

Coach K

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of healthcare, fitness, & personal development. Travel Radiographer, motivational writer, nutritionist, Medium — gifts of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture & healthcare were her first loves.

She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through Crohn’s disease & life as a radiologic technologist with 18 years experience!

After decades of struggling with her own health issues from Crohn’s, obesity, disordered eating, infertility, hormonal imbalances, & being a competitive CrossFit athlete, she is passionate about helping others find self love, embrace their gifts, achieve their goals, & create sustainable success habits for an EXTRAordinary life!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit : http://www.instagram.com/lil_bit_of_fit

Blog: Lilbitoffit.com

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You can simply book a call via email: katieokelly2@gmail.com

June 15, 2022

Why you need to flip the script and be an athlete of life

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I lived over 3 decades of my life scared shxtless. Embarrassed of my messy, scarcity driven life.

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Scared to rip off labels I told myself dictated my worth. Like being: an athlete, overweight & skinny, x-ray tech, nutrition & sales consultant, pharmaceutical sales rep, dudes, the list goes on & on.

We hold onto emotions when going thru traumatic experiences. The trauma I encountered as a child & younger adult held me back from incredible experiences & opportunities – stifled my potential.

I see that now & I want y’all to learn from my mistakes.

The trauma of running from debt & the fear of poverty. Embarrassed to ask for help or tell anyone I was living out of my office & eating at the hotel across the road for food.

The trauma of failed relationships which prevented me from dating, asking for what I wanted, & settling.

The trauma of kids making fun of me as a child. Being told I was too big to be a cheerleader, too fat to run track, & not pretty enough to stand out.

The trauma of being told I would “never make it without him” & I wasn’t “smart enough to support myself on my own.”

A scarcity mentality caused me to believe: making money was hard
I always had to trade my time for money
I couldn’t eat out or make memories with friends because I was afraid I would get fat or I wouldn’t have anything to eat & people would judge me because of my Crohn’s
I was overworked & made no space in my schedule for fun, adventure, love, dating – all the things that make life worth living.

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life, so if you feel like you’ve are a failure, I’m here to tell you it’s OK.

You’re doing more than OK. The question is, are you able to flip the script, change your priorities & learn your lesson?

When we use what has happened to us & it creates a lightbulb moment for another person – that is you living your purpose.
It’s one of the best feelings in the world.

Nothing is wrong with you & your story matters. So what are you telling yourself?

Character is judged when things are going wrong. It’s easy to be your best self when things are going right but the person who is able to flip the script & extract the sunshine from the rain is the one who wins.

Be an athlete of life.
Tomorrow is never promised.

Oxox
Coach K

lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana — Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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February 12, 2022

Why Life rarely turns out as planned and how some people just feel different

2 things I thought about this morning: 1. Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned, it’s usually frustrating af first, yet somehow always turns out better. 2. Some people just feel different & are your once in a lifetime kind of people.⁣
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As a younger version, I thought I’d be happily married for years, have that white picket fence, 2 kids, a dog, & happily ever after by 21. Let’s all laugh together, now.⁣
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In reality, I’ll be 40 in July, I’ve been married & divorced twice. I’m single, have a cat named Pete, & struggled more years & cried more tears than you can shake a stick at. ⁣
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However, I’ve learned so much about myself, how to communicate with others, who I am & wanna continue to be. I learned how to nourish myself, climb my way out of $43,000 of debt, build a business & myself as a brand. I am proud of the successful life & woman molded out of the imperfection.⁣
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Life doesn’t always resemble what you thought it might look like. Milestones move, perspectives change, the things we yearn for evolve. Some things break never to be fixed again & some things break to be rebuilt better than you ever could have imagined.⁣
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Life doesn’t gift us with a peek around the corner to see how things will turn out. Life does, however, litter the journey with love, laughter, moments of joy that take your breath away, learning, & it always lands us right where we’re supposed to be in divine timing.⁣
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You’ll meet people who can read your silence & make your thoughts feel heard. You’ll meet people for the first time that you feel like you’ve known forever & don’t need to hide from.⁣
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These people are your most cherished safe place & your most exciting adventure. They feel like the sweet burn of a good bourbon that tastes like freedom & home.⁣
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They may come in & flip your life on it’s head in the most unexpected, joyful, savory, luxurious ways possible.⁣
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Let life flow like water.⁣
Roll with it like a boss. ⁣
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oxox ⁣
Coach K⁣

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February 7, 2022

70% of leadership is this

70% of leadership is how you lead yourself. There is a difference between leadership & management just like there’s a difference between preaching & practicing what you preach.

I strive to be the best woman I can be for others & myself. Has nothing to do with perfection, everything about effort & intention.

Just like fitness, sharing a snippet of mine this morning with the 7am squad! Brutal.

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I want to be a human that when someone talks about me I would hope that they would say she makes me want to be a better person.

Had plenty of wake up calls where I asked myself a few things:

How do you maintain positivity in the face of negativity?
How do you set goals & a plan to accomplish those goals?
When do you stay committed to yourself despite lack of motivation or shade from others?

People will follow you if you give them a purposeful reason to. That is the foundation that 70% of leadership for yourself is built on.

I feel there are 3 kinds of leadership:

1️⃣Physical leadership: Are you healthy & happy & nourished body, mind, & spirit to be strong & serve as a role model to others?

2️⃣Mental leadership: social media brainwashes you & continuously puts what you want to see in front of you. What are you clicking on, subjecting yourself to, & what are you consuming?

Find the people you want to be like, that you want to embody so you can learn from them & be better. Release the individuals who don’t take you where you want to go.

3️⃣Emotional leadership: The ability to stay balanced & even keeled. Choosing positivity in the face of negativity.

Watch your thoughts. Watch your words. Know your mission & values.

Your mission should be built on the foundation of your values.

So what are your values?

Mine: Service. Health. Wealth & Freedom. Self Nourishment. Extraordinary Relationships.

So with that, I’ll step off my soapbox🤗

“Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss

I love you all!

Oxox

Coach K