“Tell us your love story.”

Well, the love story would be one of perpetually going through breakups. Breakups with friends, men, partners, jobs, family.  Even those who I “thought was THE one.” 

— I really believed this.

Some partners, I just didn’t feel good when we were together. I would feel anxious when I was around them, even if it was long distance. You know the ones where they may be on their way to see you, & where you should feel elated, would literally feel sick to your stomach. (Maybe that was just me😳🫣🤔)

And after a while, I decided, okay, this is f*cked up & NOT working. I have to do something else.

And I did.

I did a LOT of work around getting myself into the right place holistically for real relationships, including the most important, the one with myself.

When The “Love Of Your Life” Lets You Go.

Ooof 🤢

Yup.

Been there, too.

Makes you instantly wanna throw up, cry, scream, maybe down gallons of ice cream or bourbon. Pick your numbing mechanism.

Took me decades to realize there is no “One” or single “Love of your life.” And rejection doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough, sometimes it’s misalignment. Sometimes it means the other person was blind to notice the amazingness you have to offer. And it always means, there’s something better.

Life happens FOR you, not TO you.

I got to the depths of why I was having some of these complications in my relationships through a lot of solitude & inner work well into my 40’s. 

One epiphanous day, something I asked myself was, “Why do you want a relationship?”

What is the purpose of being in a relationship? And I had never really thought about that before. It was always like, oh, because it’s just what you do.🤷🏼‍♀️

Like it feels nice, whatever. And what I realized when I really thought about it was that my life is beautiful & I have intentionally designed it & it’s delicious. But I believe that my self discovery & my life cannot be as exceptional when it’s just me. And in order for a life to be exceptional, I believe you need other people in it. Friends, family, partners, strangers, creative collaborators & Lovers.

I think that’s important. And so once I got to that place of being like, “THIS is why I want this!” I felt like I was in a completely different place to approach love & relationships.

😉 To be continued…

Oxox Coach K

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50 Shades of Addictions and What I Did About It

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50 shades of addictions…like this coffee 

☕️

 here. Confessions of another dirty bathroom photo.

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Confessions of another bathroom photo…

I made some big decisions lately. 

I’m going down part time in radiology. This is my last full-time week & I booked a legacy photo shoot for my 40th in August.

I read a past journalist entry this morning dated October of 2020.

It read, “My coworkers & I were going thru our schedules & I had a gut check moment. I’ve had 3, THREE whole days off in 2 months.”

My reaction, “WTF, Katie! You have a problem.”

I’ve confided in y’all about how I have an addictive personality.

I was never addicted to 1 thing. I discovered thru therapy I was addicted to filling voids.

It’s a hard shot to swallow. Most truth bombs are.

I reflected on my journey this mornin & gave gratitude for how far I’ve come. And I hope y’all can do the same. Be proud of yourselves!

My addictions were similar shades.

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Mornings writing with Pete (and coffee, of course)

I’ve been all 50 shades & shapes & sizes of fugged up, mentally & physically. They affected all my relationships.

Like the memes…

𝗠𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲: what do we say when we feel like this?
𝗠𝗲: you coulda had a bad bitch?
𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘀𝘁: NO.

🤷‍♀️

Quoting @lizzobeeating seems like a positive life decision for me at this point

😂

You?

My biggest fear used to be gaining weight.

Now, I’ve quickly discovered my biggest fear is missing out on life & working my life away.

I enjoy coaching y’all, writing, speaking, networking with my community, nurturing relationships, & helping others more at this season in my life than trading my time for money.

I want to spend as much time with my mom & dad, my friends & family as I can, making as many memories as I can.
Loving the sh*t out of this life, squeezing every drop.

That’s my true wealth.

I hope I gave y’all a laugh, & let you know that it’s OK. We are always 1 decision away from a completely different life.

Choose your happy.

Xoxo
Coach K

BONUS: words of wisdom from Dr. Nicole LePera about addiction.

“Addiction is an attempt to regulate a nervous system chronically stuck in fight or flight.

Addiction is an attempt to escape from feeling a pain and emptiness that runs to the core of a persons being.

Addiction is a form of self abuse. When we are abused or emotionally neglected as children, we can become our own abuser. It’s all we know. Our brains seek to repeat the familiar.

Addiction is the result of not having childhood co-regulation. An inability to self sooth. A lack of healthy ways to cope.

Addiction is the result of witnessing things that were scary, overwhelming, or downright terrifying without having a safe adult to help you understand them.

Addiction is the childhood LACK OF EMOTIONAL CONNECTION, manifested.

Addiction is an attempt to silence the “dark” thoughts that re-play (like a broken record) the voice of the critical parent.

Addiction is the result of a society’s greatest lie: that says some people aren’t lovable, worthy, or valuable.

Addiction is SHAME. And it’s usually a shame that was never that persons to carry.

Addiction causes a person to engage in survival based behaviors they wouldn’t otherwise engage in like: deception, abuse, theft, or betrayal.

Addiction is a slow spiritual death that no human being consciously chooses.”

Wishing you all so much healing. Love & hugs 

🤗
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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

Money, Love, Abundance, & End of the Year Reflections that Make You Think…

For Christmas last year I gave away alcohol & money as gifts. Merry Christmas 🎁🥃🍗💵 ⁣
Probly do the same this year. Why lie? 🤔

I also bought my family Christmas Eve dinner – which was @doordash of all the delicious wings from @tpindyi69 Twin Peaks because that the only place open & none of us wanted to cook. 😜

💁🏼‍♀️Just thought I’d not bullshxt around & put that out there 😂
We had the best Christmas ever simply because we were together.

End of the year reflections & intentions…⁣

Do you know I had never had a Christmas before that where I hadn’t worried about money?⁣

There was a time I didn’t know if I’d have enough money to buy eggs & I lived out of my office.⁣

Last year was the 1st year I had enough money that I didn’t have to worry about it.

There was a time I could’ve told you how to sneak into every pool & hotel to snag free breakfast to save money.

Brand name clothes were not something I could align funds for. Goodwill, Walmart, second hand & the discount rack, bishes.

In college, I stayed home while my sorority sisters went out shopping.

Self confidence, vibrancy, energy, mindset, frequency & self-awareness were not things in my consciousness at the time.

I viewed money as a bad thing, something I had to work really really hard for & always felt there was never enough. And if I wasn’t saving every penny, that made me a bad person.

I came from a middle class world. We didn’t dare leave lights on, waste food, buy “unnecessary things”, or be caught not working or doing chores because that was viewed as being lazy.

From childhood I thought love was earned thru accomplishments, productivity, & what you looked like.

I felt I was never good enough to attain the life, love & wealth – things that other, luckier more affluent people had.

Totally mind fxcked me for decades. I’m grateful now to have healed to the point of peaceful evolution & gratitude.

The holidays are hard on people. I get you.

The New Year is like some imaginary clean slate that people think on January 1 everything will be different when they truly have the opportunity to clean the slate any day they want.

I paid off more than $43,000 in debt last year — in a damn pandemic.⁣ Dunno how. I had faith that I could & let the Universe take care of the rest.

I paid off all my credit cards, a consolidation loan I was paying $730 a month on for 3 years. I purchased a new vehicle, finally restored my credit & spent money on the things that brought me joy without apology.⁣

This post really isn’t about money but I needed to write this stuff out & just give thanks for this point in my life. Maybe you can relate too.

I realized I’m my own best friend. I love being alone but I’m never lonely. I don’t need anyone else to complete me — I am complete. I am ready to finally let an aligned special someone in if it’s the right time.

The past 2 years have been painful as hell too, probably 2 of the most painful & biggest roller coasters I’ve been on in my 39 years – in every facet of my life.⁣

I’ve had to swallow my ego more times than all the shots on my 21st birthday y’all 👀

Every year I reflect on what I’ve been thru & what I could do better. ⁣

I come up with a motto & a word to symbolize intentions for my next year. ⁣

My motto for 2021 was:
“Wherever I go, there I am.”⁣

⁣Still is.

2022 is:
“The wheel turns.”

Because wherever I go I will choose to make the most of it & cultivate a life & environment that brings me joy. I will honor my changes, emotions, needs & evolve as I need to.⁣

I will have purpose, impact, & I will serve to the best of my abilities.⁣

My word for 2021:
JOY.⁣


I promise to still live with JOY.⁣

My word for 2022:
Abundance.


So I’ll raise my glass 🥃 w/y’all, cheers!

Happy Saturday from the VA btw 🇺🇸💕 and GO COLTS! Headed to the game after my shift 🐴🏈💙

What’s you word for 2022?

oxox Coach K