MENTAL HEALTH: THE MOST COMMON THOUGHTS & FEELINGS OF SUICIDAL MEN.

MENTAL HEALTH: THE MOST COMMON THOUGHTS & FEELINGS OF SUICIDAL MEN.

A conversation starter & something to think about: Mental Health & the Challenges Men Face.

Disclaimer: The following contains discussions of suicide & tough subjects that may be triggering

MENTAL HEALTH: THE MOST COMMON THOUGHTS & FEELINGS OF SUICIDAL MEN.

Balancing all of life’s demands–school, work, relationships, finances–can be stressful for anyone. And on top of our everyday challenges, going through certain transitions – losing a job, being a negative relationship, experiencing a break-up, questioning one’s identity, grieving a loved one, etc – could challenge any of us.

Had a DM from a gentleman expressing his mental struggles & the feeling he didn’t know who to turn to or how to express or cope without being seen as “less than a man.”

This conversation sparked the yearning for me to better understand the truth around this matter & why he was feeling this way.

As a woman, societal’s pressures & expectations are different. It’s a fact, it is what it is, this has been since the beginning of time🤷‍♀️

Here are some thoughts around research & content I discovered that helped open my eyes & I hope it opens your mind & heart as well.

As a reminder, you are in a unique position to notice warning signs that someone might be feeling more overwhelmed by stress, sadness & LIFE in general they feel is more than is manageable.

Be a kind human. Seek first to understand. Listen. Make someone feel understood & heard.

We need empathy, compassion, & kindness more than ever right now ! ❤️🫶

Thank you for listening! 👂 🎙️

Oxox Coach K

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, body transformation, & adapting to a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, Brand Growth & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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My Top Transformation Success Secrets on the Carnivore Diet

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The biggest question I get, “What is your secret to body transformation change and being consistent on the Carnivore Diet, especially at work?

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I’ve worked in radiology for 17 years! I’ve been Carnivore for 3 years and counting! It helped me heal my disordered eating & put my Crohn’s in remission.

A: 👉🏻self awareness. A woman who knows herself & what she brings to the table is not afraid to eat alone. Remember that. Go your own way.

They’re not really secrets, it comes down to self-awareness & success habits. 

I’ve lost 55lbs in my 40 years. My body has been all different shapes and sizes! I’ve learned so much throughout my journey!

One BIG success habit that changed the game for me, I bring an airfryer to work. I like my meat cooked fresh. I’m more satisfied with my meals & I have control over what I put in my body.

I also make sure I have a variety of meat for my 12hr shifts in radiology. If I need groceries & to optimize my time, I use @Instacart & have them delivered to work.

**PS. here are the meat bar cheat sheets on Instagram**

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If you’re new around here, I talk about my story, gut issues, triggers, transitions & experiences on my first year on Carnivore here in this blog interview. It’ll answer the majority of your questions!

**I’m speaking from my experience here, remember, we are all beautifully unique & different human beings. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to anything in life. You have to find your special blend. That’s what I help my clients do!

DAILY SUCCESS HABITS, TIPS, ROUTINES

🥩For ME, I prefer 2 meals/d on avg. The largest after my workout for recovery, the 2nd late afternoon around 2-3pm. My digestion is slow & not as efficient in the evening, therefore I keep my largest meals early in the day & fast anywhere from 16-20 hrs naturally overnight depending on my work & workout schedule. I DO NOT do extended fasting & do not force my fasts. I eat when I’m hungry, fast when I’m not. Fasting is not a dirty word. It is simply a tool & strategy to optimize fueling your body. Just like macros.

🥩I set realistic expectations as far as aesthetic goals & know I don’t always have to have an aesthetic goal. Right now I’m just chillin in maintenance. Some days I eat leaner low fat days, other days I cycle in high fat days because I’m craving fat. After about 2-3 lean days I need a high fat day. Favorite lean meats are shrimp, 90% ground beef & chicken. Higher fat meats I enjoy ground waygu beef, 80-85% ground beef, eggs, ribeye, & salmon.

🥩I realize a certain level of leanness is going to require sacrifices. You will be hungry. If you’re eating leaner meat, you’re cutting calories, so yes, it will suck. If you want shredded abs, stop complaining & put in the work. That work requires mindset shifts as well. If you’re not willing to do what it takes to look that way, set another realistic, attainable & SUSTAINABLE goal. As a coach, my job is to tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Sometimes that means setting a new goal, eating more food, committing to a healing process, resting, & learning to love yourself first. 

🥩Balancing blood sugar is the key to fat loss, feeling satisfied, & minimizing cravings. Keep meals protein & fat focused. You should not be snacking in between meals. If you feel the need to snack, your meal either didn’t contain enough protein &/or fat or was not large enough.

🥩Protein is the most satiating. General range: 1g/lb of body weight or goal weight for most. Avid exercisers, athletes, people lifting weights, & older people require more. Most do well spreading out around 30-50g/meal, 2-3 meals/d without digestive distress. Take a digestive enzyme prior to eating, it will help increase stomach acid. I use Utilyze by Nuethix Formulations. Discount Code: lilbitoffit

🥩For carbs, most people do well controlling blood sugar regulation with meals under 40g of carbohydrates. The less active you are the less carbohydrates you typically require. The body optimizes carbohydrates most efficiently post workout & in the evening before bed because it reduces your cortisol (stress) level & can help you sleep better. Nail your protein first & then determine what fuel source is most appropriate for your health needs, digestion, training & fitness goals. Your fuel sources are carbohydrates & fats. So if you’re lacking energy, & you’re “carnivore,” try upping your fats.

🥩I work out fasted at 5 AM most mornings. I feel best working out 5 days/week. A mix of cardio & strength training like CrossFit, walking, & bodybuilding. Do sh*t you LOVE that keeps you active & in the gym. TAKE REST days. I prefer 1 active recovery day & 1 full rest day. You do not need to be working out 7d/wk.

🥩Manage stress. Schedule self care & rest days. Sleep 7-8 hrs/night. If you’re sleeping less than 6 you did not earn your workout. My favorite selfcare is walking, coloring, saunas, hiking, fishing, nature, writing, & creating graphics for y’all.

🥩I don’t ‘treat myself’ or ‘cheat.’ Food is not a reward/something to earn. I also dislike saying cheat because it implies it’s going to benefit you in some way. Cheaters cheat to win. You’re not winning by cheating yourself. I also stay away from sugar and carbohydrates that are physical & mental triggers for me. I am an abstainer, not a moderator.

🥩I eat 2 meals/d on avg as I said before. My days off or if I can sleep in, I can eat 1 larger meal post workout as OMAD. (One meal a day). You must experiment. Your experience/needs will be different than mine.⁣ It takes TIME. It took me an entire year to fully adapt to a meat- based lifestyle, & yes, I gained 15lbs initially. I’ve now lost around 20. Have patience.

🥩The majority of meals are my Airfryer Crispy meat bars. 85% ground beef & ground chicken. I avg 2-2.5lbs of meat/d. If you have a problem with feeling if you’re full, cook 1lb of meat & eat it. Wait 20 minutes. And if you’re still hungry cook a little more. That will keep you from over eating &/or eating too fast. I removed most pork & dairy, I don’t digest them well. I don’t add extra fat. Choose meats that are higher in fat. No, I don’t like organ meat & I don’t worry if my meat is grain fed vs grass fed. It doesn’t affect me.

⁣🥩I stick to beef bc it’s satisfying & delicious but not SO delicious I want to binge. Food addicts tend to have issues controlling carbs, sugar, sugar free substitutes, keto treats, dairy, butter, cheese, bacon, pork rinds, hyperpalatable & processed meats.

🥩There are 50 freaking shades of the carnivore diet. We all have different tolerations & needs. I have MANY sensitivities so I typically only season with salt. The majority of my food is meat & eggs. Rice cakes on occasion pre/post workout if I have an evening workout & feel I need them. I’m rarely above 50g of Carbs/d. I do fine on white rice, rice cakes, & rice Chex cereal as far as carbs. I do not digest fruits, vegetables, lectins, oxalates, high fodmap foods, nuts & seed well at all due to my Crohn’s. I feel better not eating them.

🥩Yes, I drink coffee. Preworkout & morning drink I enjoy @strongcoffeecompany in my coffee. It’s kind of like a creamer for me. It does have caffeine. I blend about 4oz coffee, 5-6oz hot water, & 1/4 scoop of the strong coffee company latte. Use a packet of stevia if you want yours sweeter. Link in bio on Instagram. Discount code: KatieKelly 

🥩As far as macros **these numbers are for ME** 

I hesitate to give any specific numbers but I want to show you guys how much food you can actually eat & enjoy when you commit to healing & eating foods that work for you!

I’m 5’1, around 105-107lbs, crossFit & bodybuild 5d/wk, average 15,000 steps/d, active job in radiology. Macros vary, I leave room for flexibility. These are my avg ratios: 0-10% Carb, around 30-40% Protein, & 50-70% Fat. I do cycle lean, lower fat days with higher fat days because that’s what my body likes. I avg ~1800-2100+ cal/d. The lowest my calories get on a lean day may be around 1550. Protein I avg 160-200g. Yes, I realize that’s a 💩ton but I thrive on higher protein & moderate fat. I don’t have a gallbladder so my threshold is lower than most keto, low carb, & carnivore enthusiasts.

🥩I hit 15k steps/day⁣, even on rest days. When I’m at work I walk around my CT machine or I take laps around the building when we are not busy. I drink a ton of water (around 100-120oz/d) + electrolytes. I like Ultima Replenisher Electrolytes in grape, raspberry, watermelon, & cherry pomegranate flavor. Link in my IG bio too!

🥩I do drink coffee daily. Have Zevia & cocktails socially. Stick to vodka, bourbon, & seltzer’s mainly. I don’t typically eat & have cocktails, I choose 1 or the other. Set a 2-3 drink max limit & I order a shot & typically a Diet Coke & mix my drinks myself when I go out so I can moderate how much alcohol is in it. Some months I won’t drink at all, others, I’ll pick 1 or 2 days & go out on the weekend. I’m an adult it’s my choice. I don’t deny or beat myself up if I choose to be a human & drink & make memories with friends & family. You shouldn’t either. I do feel better not drinking, duh, as most of us will. Alcohol also increases estrogen & messes with your sleep. So if you’re one who drinks that glass (or 2 or bottle) of wine a night, you may want to change some habits, especially if you’re having trouble sleeping, with gut issues, hormonal imbalances, etc. Lack of sleep, stress, & consuming food triggers cause more issues with any gut or Crohn’s flare‘s for me. Alcohol on occasion, I’m OK with.

Love y’all so much!

Oxox Coach K

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

My experience with red light therapy and the benefits

Q: What is red light therapy? Is it worth it & something I can do at home?

A: Red Light Therapy or Photobiomodulation is what it’s called. 

I had been wanting a red light therapy device for months. Finally ordered a portable one for my home from @emrtekinc – IN LOVE! I’ve been using it for about 7 months. 

They were also kind enough to give y’all a discount code for 20% off: Lilbitoffit20 

Link here: http://emr-tek.com/discount/lilbitoffit20

I’ve been using it once or twice a day for 15-20 minutes typically when I eat breakfast. Pete 🐈‍⬛ loves it too! It’s soothing. 

I simply sit in front of it. I don’t use goggles. 

I noticed changes in my skin, digestion, & energy 2 weeks after I started using. Less skin discoloration, more youthful appearance, digestion & gut health are seamless. I feel happier too!

I also found I seem to maintain my weight much easier on the same food routine with less longer, higher intensity activity workouts.

These are just a few of the many benefits photobiomodulation can provide. 

Benefits:

* Reduces oxidative stress

* Reduces inflammation & joint pain

* Increases muscle recovery

* Increases collagen production & tightens skin

* Reduces fine lines & wrinkles

* Increases hair growth

* Increases overall energy & vitality

* Increases wound healing, great for skin conditions

* Improves memory & vision quality

* Increases testosterone production

* Improves sleep & can aid fat loss

Take it or leave it, here’s the info, don’t be afraid to try it out! You never know if things can work or not for you if you don’t give them a chance!

#redlighttherapy 

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where’s agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. Katie also has over 16 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

Mindset Monday, photodump, & thoughts on New Year, New me

Made slutty eggs yesterday. Worked 26+ hrs over the weekend 💀🏥  Crushed over 8 hrs of sleep last night. 

Photo dump of meals I enjoyed & glimpses into my day if y’all give a 💩. Hope they help you in whatever way you need.

Thank you to all that is holy for blessing me with a day off. I have the crud just like everyone else. 

Feeling much better. I thought to myself…I don’t get sick much…even being in the trenches every single day. If I do it’s like 2-3 days & I’m all better.

 I’ll admit I’m not a softy when it comes to pain or getting sick, this Farmer’s daughter can take a f*ckin beatin. Right mom & dad?! 😂 

Rub some dirt in it you’ll be fine. 

I feel society has changed & as a whole has become soft & uber sensitive to everything. Whatever, you can hate me for that comment but I feel a lot of us need to toughen up a lil bit.

I know a huge part of my quick recoveries are via:

➡️A relentless, diligent work ethic & abundance mindset 🧠

➡️A nourishing diet🥩

➡️Daily success habits: gratitude, walking, CrossFit, lifting, red light therapy, infrared sauna, self care🏋🏼‍♀️

Infrared Sauna from Amazon, Red light from Emrtek

Feeling much better today thanks to Beyoncé, my home infrared sauna. Named her that because she hawt🔥🙃

My red light from @emr_tek is named Reba. Because she’s red & Reba McEntire has red hair…that is my dad‘s favorite country music singer btw.

Making changes don’t have to be hard. It takes cultivating a routine every day to build a new lifestyle for yourself.

We have to stop with the quick fixes. The whole January new year new me bullsh*t drives me crazy.

Go into it with the intention of building a better life for yourself because you deserve to be a human thriving not just surviving.

I’m proud of all of you who are warriors & stepping foot into the gym maybe for the 1st time 

or doing a home workout for the 1st time 

or trying Carnivore for the 1st time 

or whatever positive change you want, but remember to stick with it for longer than 2 wks or a month.

I’m rooting for you!!

Food: slutty eggs, airfryer scallops, #meatbars 90 ground beef

Fit tracker: @fitbit sense on amazon favorites list

Red light: @emrtekinc Code: lilbitoffit30 for 30% off 

Sauna: @amazon  on Amazon favorites

Airfryer: Instant Vortex 6qt on amazon favorites

Amazon portable infrared sauna review!

Review of my new portable infrared sauna from @amazon!!!

I never realized how much better I felt simply getting in a good sweat & relaxation until I started using infrared saunas.

Benefits👇

Decreased inflammation & water retention

Better/quicker recovery from my workouts

Mental clarity

Better skin (it’s better now at 39 than it ever was in my 20s)

Less joint pain 

Just a feeling of lightness, detox, & happiness

I’ve made them a part of my success routine!

Y’all success habits are the true secrets which really aren’t secrets, that help maintain health & a certain physique.

For me, I just wanna take care, love, & rock this meat sack the best I can & share my story book & life along the way.

Love y’all!

It’s 167 degrees up in hereya!! 

Keep it hot 🔥 😉 💧 

Link to sauna on Amazon favorites list, link in IG bio. Also in highlights under “ThingsI❤️”

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Learning how to love your imperfections

I’ve always hated my back. Rarely ever take back progress pictures. I feel partly because I don’t want to give a reason for negative thoughts to creep in & pick myself apart when I know I have to love myself for the sum of who I am in my entirety.

There’s 5 months & 11lbs between these pictures. I love this woman & her season in both pictures. The left is now, the right was on family vacation in October.

Things I used to loathe:

  • My scoliosis – it throws my hips off. My body is not symmetrical, I squat lopsided.
  • My left boob is bigger than my right & neither boob is as big as I would like. Hey there’s at least a handful, I’ve been told that’s all you need right?! 😂
  • My elbows don’t straighten. I can’t fully lock out in any lift which limits my abilities. My CrossFit coaches used to yell at me, not knowing it was a defect.
  • I have stretch marks & cellulite from gaining & losing 50 lbs over my lifetime. I always wanted slender legs, it’s just not the way I’m built. But my ham hocks are strong.
  • I have a red sun spot on my nose I have to cover from getting burned as a child on vacation & bailing hay on our farm.
  • I chew on the inside of my lip, still don’t know why.

From being the girl who refused to take the T-shirt off at the beach or pool to the woman now brave enough to show the canvas God gave her — hats off to you sis.

Wanted to remind y’all you can’t hate yourself happy, skinny, strong, successful, worthy, or LOVED.

 Stop putting new energy in old containers.

@jamesclear said, “The events of your past are fixed. The meaning of your past is not. The influence of every experience is determined by the meaning you assign to it. Assign a more useful meaning to your past & it becomes easier to take a more useful action in the present.”

I put a Post-it on this mirror of a reminder I saw yesterday: “This Chapter of my life is called: now that I know better, I must do better.”

Have a beautiful bootylicious weekend y’all! ❤️🍑🦾 I’d love to chat with y’all on the gram, never hesitate to reach out!

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The Secret to Avoiding Regret

You are born rich — rich in potential. 

I feel one of the worst things you can carry in this life is a big ‘what if.’

For me, living without knowing or taking a risk is like a cold that won’t go away. It sits there on your heart feeding on your fear you missed out.

I’ve found the ache of regret & inaction hurts far worse than the small scratch of shame that you ‘failed’ or made a mistake.

The only thing worse than failure & dying is choking on a mediocre life of ‘what if’s.”

The cure?

— just fxckin do it.

Oxox Coach K

#sundayponderings 

How to make achieving goals quick & easy — my secrets

Here’s some raw truth & some of my “secrets”

(Also on IG)👇🏻

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When I get home, I’m tired AF. I have to make things as easy as possible for me to get my steps in if I haven’t hit my goal. 

Today was 13k. Got’em in while watching Roadhouse. Classic! 

Patrick Swayzee… no one will ever dance dirtier❤️ 👼🏻 (Dirty Dancing — probly one of my favorite movies too btw)

Anyways…got off track…🤔

It’s EASY to give an excuse not to get my goal.

So I don’t even make it out of my scrubs, I put my shoes on & GO.

I have slept in my workout clothes &/or layed them out for the morning. I have set my clothes out since elementary school.

This year I’ve made a bunch of new commitments & promises to myself. 

Chasing more self care, financial freedom,

& minimalism.

I also had a corrective deep tissue massage today @massageheightsindy Fishers District by Armando — much needed & the best therapeutic massage I think I’ve ever had. 

You know that saying, “hurt so good?” My dudes 👀 He had to tell me to breathe a few times 😆 …but this is a commitment & something I need to do to stay healthy & mobile.

Remember often what you need to do are the things you don’t want to do, so try & make them as easy as possible.

I learned to fall in love with the discipline & commitment to MYSELF, not just a goal or diet.

Like a fine wine 🍷 #fitterby40

Cheers 🥂 

Ps @snkoontz is my fairy godmother, got my hair did today too. She keeps me from being impulsive & doing dumb shxt to my hair. Surround yourself with people who make you better❤️❤️