Sunday Church: self care, boundaries, the mess is your message

Here’s your Sunday reminder you don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. Don’t build your house to sit back & watch it burn.⁣

A phrase reminding you how important boundaries & self-care are. ⁣

Can you believe it’s mid May already???!!!!⁣

Listen, you don’t have to wait for the new year to start building again or start over.⁣

“There is an Indian proverb that says everyone is a house with 4 rooms, a physical, a mental, an emotional, & a spiritual. Most of us tend to live in 1 room most of the time but unless we go into every room everyday, even if only to keep it aired, we are not a complete person. “⁣⁣
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— Rumor Godden⁣⁣
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Don’t ignore your souls urge for solitude & adventure. ⁣

Listen to who & where it’s drawn to. Don’t question it. We tend to over complicate sht, stop doing that😆 ⁣ ⁣ Sometimes you just have to have a good laugh & fall on your face to start over again.⁣ ⁣ Sometimes it means spending time by yourself or saying fck it & going on that adventure.⁣
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Don’t build your house in other people & don’t hand them the matches. Build your own & tend to your rooms.⁣

I get life.⁣
Rooms get messy.⁣
There’s beauty in the mess.⁣
The mess is your message only you can write.⁣
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What are you doing for yourself today⬇️?⁣

Love y’all!⁣

Oxox

Coach K

#sundayvibes #sundaychurch #lifelessons #catmomlife #plantmomlife #lifeisgood #butfirstcoffee

How to live life like Dolly Parton

Big @dollyparton energy today y’all✨ 

I enjoyed these quotes this mornin & I hope they set the stage for your week (& the rest of your life).

I watched a Netflix documentary about Dolly – she’s a magical human y’all.

I’m in love with her bling, flare, essence of unapologetically being herself, her femininity & her get shit done attitude! #girlcrush #rolemodel 

Minus the boobs, I dunno how she functions in those things. Props ✊ Proud card toting member of the #ittybittytittyCommittee here 👋 🎟 

It made me want to continue to live life BIG.

To attract my dreams. 

I no longer say “chase” because a high value human doesn’t chase anything, you become what you want & you ATTRACT what is meant for you. – write that down 😉✍🏼 

And these…

Living a BIG life requires:

not being afraid to shine

being YOU

giving less fux

not playing small

& not chronically trying to shrink yourself in every facet of that statement

Put your crown on 👑

Get your beauty sleep🥰

Pose in your underwear, whatever tf you wanna do. 

I’m sure I’ll get hate messages for it & you know what?! Thank you. 

Because if they ain’t talkin about you you ain’t doin something right. – words of wisdom from my momma

I crushed almost 9 hrs last night, no ragrets. Pampered myself instead of going out, & I realized as I’ve gotten older it feels so much better to wake up refreshed🤘🏻

Gonna get in a good workout

Gonna spend the day with friends & family gloriously watching sports & enjoying life!

Rooting for my Purdue Boilers!

I dunno who to choose in the playoffs, great teams! Going with the Bengals & 49ers, how bout you?

Enough rambling, swipe away, words of wisdom from the Queen!

I hope you have the most magical, refreshing Sunday ever!

Oxox Coach K

#boilerup 

On Faith

“If I can hold God’s attention, I can hold the world’s.”

On Believing In Yourself

“The magic is inside you, there ain’t no crystal ball.”

On Work

In her book Dream More, Parton wrote, “I never have considered myself a perfectionist, but I do think of myself as a ‘professionalist’…I always strive simply to be my very best.”

On Ambition

“Tumble outta bed and I stumble to the kitchen. Pour myself a cup of ambition.”

On Life

In July 2019, Parton tweeted: “If you see someone without a smile today, give ’em yours.”

On Diamonds

“I look totally artificial, but I am totally real, as a writer, as a professional, as a human being. A rhinestone shines just as good as a diamond.”

On Love

I’ve had to go against all kinds of people through the years just to be myself. I think everybody should be allowed to be who they are, and to love who they love.”

On Life

“Everybody has their own journey, they have their own way of doing things. And who am I to judge?”

On Marriage

“He’s always loved who I was, and I loved who he was, and we never tried to change each other,” Parton said about her

husband Carl Thomas Dean, in the June 2016 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine.

On Real Beauty

“You don’t have to look like everybody else. You don’t have to be a raving beauty to be special and to be beautiful.”

On Life

“I make a point to appreciate all the little things in my life. I go out and smell the air after a good, hard rain. These small actions help remind me that there are so many great, glorious pieces of good in the world.”

On Work

“I always count my blessings more than I count my money. I don’t work for money, never did.”

On Life

“Everybody’s life is a soap opera. Everybody’s life is a country western song, depends on who’s writing it.”

On Diets

In her book Dolly: My Life and Other Unfinished Business, Parton joked, “I tried every diet in the book. I tried some that weren’t in the book. I tried eating the book. It tasted better than most of the diets.”

On Life

“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”

On Stardom

“I’m just a working girl. I never think of myself as a star because, as somebody once said, ‘A star is nothing but a big ball of gas’–and I don’t want to be that.”

On Work

“I’m not going to limit myself just because people won’t accept the fact that I can do something else.”

Sunday ponderings and the intimacy of being alone

The intimacy of being by yourself isn’t intimacy most can grasp or understand. The silence & how your energy isn’t affected by anything else is a sense of peace & freedom like no other. 

Embracing who you are when no one is looking & not worrying about what other people think of you. I realized actually how much I loved myself, how I’m my own best friend via swimming in the intimacy of being by myself. 

And that has allowed me a happiness, sense of joy & openness to receive as well as give on a level I never thought it was possible. #sundaymorningview #sundayponderings

Cheers to the final day of my 4, 12 hour shifts in a row. Dear baby Jesus I see light at the end of the tunnel 🙏 💀 ⚡️ 

I wanna hear your Sunday ponderings below. I know some of these you guys will relate to. I hope you laugh. 

Laughter is the best medicine ❤️ but most of all I hope it gets you thinking & appreciating your journey & the person you are becoming!👇

  • I Love a fun Texter. Like throw some GIFs in there. You can never have too many emojis. Sprinkle a lil video or audio messages every now & then. But don’t blow up my phone all day. Instant anxiety for the responder in me.
  • Life hack. If you use your weekends building the life & the person you want you won’t have to spend your weekends trying to escape reality.
  • Whatever you are not changing you are choosing. Read that again.
  • Are you making the decision because it’s what you truly want or because you fear something else? Maybe even something better? But the fear of the unknown is outweighing what your gut & heart are trying to tell you.
  • Don’t let loneliness make you reconnect with toxic people. You wouldn’t drink poison just because you’re thirsty.
  • Delete, unfollow, block, unfriend, erase, & disconnect from anyone & anything that robs you of your peace, love, & happiness.  On social media & in real life. You don’t need to be around people & things not on your level & don’t appreciate your value.
  • It’s not your job to fix & detox people. It is your job to detox the part of you that relates to the toxicity & what needs fixed. 
  • If you’re going thru hell keep going because why would you want to stop there?

Love y’all & wishing you the happiest of Sundays! Oxoxo Coach K

Goal Setting & Sunday Ponderings…

Stuck between young enough to do it often, old enough to do it right & old enough to know better, young enough not to care.

-mood.

Anyone else? 😆 

2020 was hard work, 2021 has been no different. It’s like we thought with a new year everything would magically be rainbows & sunshine, right?! 

Reflecting back, I feel the years 2018-today have been the most transformative (painful & pleasurable) years of my life, physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, spiritually, & relationally.

Doesn’t matter what level of 50 shades of fxcked up I wade thru, even in a global pandemic, I love having something to work towards. Call it an obsession, whatever, kind of like the obsession I have with my airfryer & crisy meat bars. 

Y’all can thank me, I know I’m not the only one out there 🙃🥩♨️❤️

Where To Begin

One thing I learned the last 2 years was that things can change in a heart beat! Relationally speaking, I went from being single, to a solid relationship, to single again, to married, to divorced. Some would be devastated, however, being the relentless optimist, I am so grateful for every sweet & sour drop of experience I gained thru that chapter of my life. No ragrets , no what if’s, y’all🙏 Not one bit.

I always go back to how I want to FEEL in my life (on all levels), I romanticize about specific things I desire but I leave the specificity to the Universe (God, whatever you choose to believe in. FYI, I am a non-specific manifestor, manifesting generator energy type #humandesign for all my people of WOO✨ out there)

I believe in divine timing, that I deserve everything I desire, & the Universe will bring me that – OR BETTER. (That “or better”part is important. Setting intentions I always add that to the end of my statements.)

So it was important for me to begin with thinking how I want to FEEL in 12 months time. 

I started by writing a long list of all the descriptive words that resonated with me. Words such as authentic, healthy, successful, wealthy, luscious, thriving, vibrant, loving, grateful, loved, significant, creative, satisfied, joyful. 

I kept thinking them through until I decided on the word, NOURISHED. 

Immediately I knew that was how I wanted to feel.

Nourishment is usually associated with food however I want to apply that feeling to all parts of my life.

By focusing on how I want to FEEL, it reminds me what I could influence regardless of what was happening in the world❤️

Have you set yourself any goals? Or are you just seeing how the year pans out?

As always I would love to hear your thoughts & I appreciate y’all reading the ramblings of @lil_bit_of_fit 💕

Peace, love, & 🥩 

Oxox -Coach K