I’m single, broke, and miserable

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As one who has made all the wrong decisions before making the right ones, one thing in life I am most grateful are all the things I’ve done wrong that didn’t turn out the way I’d hoped because they taught me how to do things right & how to roll with life.

I made all the wrong decisions with my health, relationships, & finances.

Had a message from a gal this mornin, she stated she was single, broke, & miserable. I felt her anguish, & I’m here to tell you you define your reality. It is what YOU make it.

Sometimes it takes a heart break &/or us f*cking up in business/health/relationships to shake us awake & help us see we are so much more than what we’re settling for.

I refuse to live a life of mediocracy. I decided this yrs ago, 2018 to be exact, when I was living out of my office, showering at gyms, going thru a heartbreak, barely had enough money to purchase groceries, & no idea what the f*ck I was doing or where I was going.
I just knew I was meant for more.

Things still aren’t perfect but I am so grateful for what I have, hopeful & excited for what’s ahead. I am ruthlessly resilient & diligent. Mental fortitude, getcha some.
Ain’t nobody gonna save you or cut you a check but YOU.

I responded to this gal, “There’s always something to be grateful for & if you’re not living life happy, you’re doing it all wrong. But that’s OK because along the way you’ll figure out what to do right.”

She said she couldn’t find anyone she was compatible, no one checked the boxes.🤔

Y’all, everyone will tell you to find someone with the same interests as yours, same values, yada yada…like it’s a parameter instead of a goal that can develop. And none of us are easy to be with, let’s be honest. You shouldn’t be trying to change anyone else in the process either. Let people be. And don’t accept any less yourself.

Don’t settle for ambiguous texts. Stop idolizing men or women that don’t also put you on a pedestal & do for you. If you’re wanting to up level & be a high value person, stop dating beneath your standards because you’re lonely.

Don’t settle for scraps when you deserve that whole piece of prime rib, baby🥩

Yes, you have to have some common ground. But come on, how many failed relationships have you had that started out with this criteria of checking boxes & looking for compatibility?

I’m embarrassed to say how many I’ve had 👀

They fail overtime because you don’t leave room to learn from each other, you don’t go into a relationship open minded & realize you’re both going to change as people & you have to learn how to evolve & grow together or you’re better off growing apart.

That doesn’t mean you have to hate each other. That means you have to love the other person enough AND yourself enough to know the difference.
Lovingly let people go. That’s you loving yourself. And if you can’t do that you have a lot of inner work & baggage to unpack.

My perspective has changed, I view compatibility as loves achievement – not criteria that has to be met prior to trying to get to know someone.

Imagine creating & transforming a life with the right person. The one you chose to be your favorite.

“Your favorite” should not only be the one who makes you happy but they should be the one who pisses you off, who challenges you, who loves you for all your weirdness, who tells you what you don’t want to hear but need to hear, & continues to choose you every day.

Live life happy.
Compatibility is loves achievement.

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Wayne Dyer

As for me, I have no interest in settling. I read a quote that said, “Settling is what sediment does when it falls to the bottom of a sea or lake, right before it compresses for several million years & turns in to a fossil.”

I’d rather be a fine wine🍷, expensive glass of bourbon 🥃, & some Waygu beef 🥩 than a fossil.

Drop the mic 🎤

Oxox Coach K

Love lessons and things to learn about yourself to be successful in love

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Love is a classroom not a candy shop.
— Life lessons I’ve learned from the school of hard knocks
📸 : simply showin love for this lil meat sack in the mirror.

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Self love is the best love.

Love is the most powerful force in the world. In my opinion, the only thing that matters. For nothing would exist in this world, including you, without love.

I used to think there was only one soulmate out there made specifically just for you. After 39 years I’ve learned you’ll meet many people & things throughout your life that will be your “soulmate.” Some for seasons & others maybe for life.

I define “soulmate” now as a mate that helps you find your soul. This includes yourself, memories, places, things, friends, family, lovers, & enemies.

A book that changed my life 15 years ago, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I discovered it in a desk drawer at work & no one knew how it got there. I was miserable at this time struggling in my marriage & with mental & physical health. It taught me the power of my thoughts, love, & perspective.

Lessons I’ve learned about love that may help spark thought & introspection for you today…

-When you seek pleasure & lust it always runs away from you but when you seek purpose, understanding & connection, pleasure comes towards you because it’s a byproduct of you putting in the work.

  • Learn about yourself & your person. Understand what you both love, how you’re both wired, love languages, etc.
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Things that helped me understand myself & other people…
FUN STUFF ABOUT ME
👇
▪️Manifesting Generator (Human Design) basically get sh*t done & move at the speed of thought. Busy bodies, worker bees, get more done before 9am than most do in a week.

▪️ENFJ (Myers Briggs) among the rarest of the 16 types, only 2-3% of the population. The ENFJ is warm, extroverted, engaging, charismatic, persuasive, & talkative.⁣ Oprah, Barack Obama, Maya Angelou.

▪️2w3 (Enneagram) The helper/achiever, desire to fulfill the needs of others & can sense emotions with clarity & precision. Helping & achieving brings us Joy.

▪️Love languages: 1.words of affirmation 2. physical touch 3. quality time⁣

⁣▪️Astrology: I’m a Rising Scorpio ♏️ , Cancer ♋️ Sun, Sagittarius ♐️ moon. Basically a contradictory Unicorn because I love deep thinking, caretaking, & solitude, but the Sag loves freedom, extroversion & adventure. I’m freedom & home❤😘

  • All of these things craft a completely unique & wonderful individual. You can always know someone deeper.

This is why there is so much infidelity because we are addicted to newness. So why don’t you learn something new about your other half? It’s just like walking down the same path every day, why don’t you try to notice a new flower, rock, or tree? Then you’ll discover the same old paths can always be new & exciting. Look for the extraordinary in the ordinary.

  • Be playful but don’t play mind games. If you’re interested, make the move & observe. If they don’t respond, move on. We build strength when we make the move because we build confidence. This is you being in charge of your destiny. Mind games destroy the authenticity of a relationship.
  • Making someone feel bad doesn’t make them good. You change because of love, clarity, & communication. We don’t change because of judgment, guilt, & expectation
  • Any recurring issues you need to solve for the long run.
  • Prepare your partner for your mood swings & schedule. Communicate what makes you feel safe. For example, ask, “Do you need support or a solution.?” “Does saving make you feel safe or your earning power?” Check in with your other half. Pick one day a week & have a date check in. Ask them, “What was the highlight of your week & how can I help you?
  • Focus on how you can complement, not compete or complete. When you compete you’re trying to be everything. When you compliment, you are just being you. Take a moment & recognize what your other half brings to the relationship.

Happy Super Bowl Sunday & Valentine’s Eve, squad!
Go out there & love someone today!

oxox Coach K

Why Life rarely turns out as planned and how some people just feel different

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2 things I thought about this morning: 1. Life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned, it’s usually frustrating af first, yet somehow always turns out better. 2. Some people just feel different & are your once in a lifetime kind of people.⁣

As a younger version, I thought I’d be happily married for years, have that white picket fence, 2  kids, a dog, & happily ever after by 21. Let’s all laugh together, now.⁣

In reality, I’ll be 40 in July, I’ve been married & divorced twice. I’m single, have a cat named Pete, & struggled more years & cried more tears than you can shake a stick at. ⁣

However, I’ve learned so much about myself, how to communicate with others, who I am & wanna continue to be. I learned how to nourish myself, climb my way out of $43,000 of debt, build a business & myself as a brand. I am proud of the successful life & woman molded out of the imperfection.⁣

Life doesn’t always resemble what you thought it might look like. Milestones move, perspectives change, the things we yearn for evolve. Some things break never to be fixed again & some things break to be rebuilt better than you ever could have imagined.⁣

Life doesn’t gift us with a peek around the corner to see how things will turn out. Life does, however, litter the journey with love, laughter, moments of joy that take your breath away, learning, & it always lands us right where we’re supposed to be in divine timing.⁣

You’ll meet people who can read your silence & make your thoughts feel heard. You’ll meet people for the first time that you feel like you’ve known forever & don’t need to hide from.⁣

These people are your most cherished safe place & your most exciting adventure. They feel like the sweet burn of a good bourbon that tastes like freedom & home.⁣

They may come in & flip your life on it’s head in the most unexpected, joyful, savory, luxurious ways possible.⁣

Let life flow like water.⁣
Roll with it like a boss. ⁣

oxox ⁣
Coach K⁣

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70% of leadership is this

70% of leadership is how you lead yourself. There is a difference between leadership & management just like there’s a difference between preaching & practicing what you preach.

I strive to be the best woman I can be for others & myself. Has nothing to do with perfection, everything about effort & intention. 

Just like fitness, sharing a snippet of mine this morning with the 7am squad! Brutal.

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I want to be a human that when someone talks about me I would hope that they would say she makes me want to be a better person. 

Had plenty of wake up calls where I asked myself a few things:

  • How do you maintain positivity in the face of negativity? 
  • How do you set goals & a plan to accomplish those goals?
  • When do you stay committed to yourself despite lack of motivation or shade from others?

People will follow you if you give them a purposeful reason to. That is the foundation that 70% of leadership for yourself is built on.

I feel there are 3 kinds of leadership:

1️⃣Physical leadership: Are you healthy & happy & nourished body, mind, & spirit to be strong & serve as a role model to others?

2️⃣Mental leadership: social media brainwashes you & continuously puts what you want to see in front of you. What are you clicking on, subjecting yourself to, & what are you consuming?

Find the people you want to be like, that you want to embody so you can learn from them & be better. Release the individuals who don’t take you where you want to go.

3️⃣Emotional leadership: The ability to stay balanced & even keeled. Choosing positivity in the face of negativity.

Watch your thoughts. Watch your words. Know your mission & values.

Your mission should be built on the foundation of your values. 

So what are your values? 

Mine: Service. Health. Wealth & Freedom. Self Nourishment. Extraordinary Relationships.

So with that, I’ll step off my soapbox🤗 

“Be who you are and say how you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss 

I love you all!

Oxox 

Coach K

Things I had to do to lose body fat and achieve a healthier lean physique

The majority of your questions today revolved around: macros, daily routine, changes that made the biggest impact on fat loss & my transformation, & workouts. 

Y’all I simply consistently eat meat & lift things. I’ve shifted my focus however completely from fitness & aesthetic goals to my career & longevity the past couple years.⁣

Some things that haven’t changed are the facts I still have Crohn’s (although in remission & med free), & life still takes consistency & intention.

I know many of you are struggling right now…with all kinds of stuff like life, health & fitness, maybe relationships too.

One of the best question asked today was, “How do YOU stay committed & consistent?⁣

I replied, “Commitment is defined as a willingness to give your time & energy into something you believe in, a promise or firm decision to do something.⁣”⁣

What more worthy thing to believe in, commit to, & invest in than yourself & your health?

The process…⁣

1. Truly look at yourself & current state. What are your goals/desires? What do you need to improve to move the needle forward?⁣

If you’re clearly not where you want to be, you need to own that. It is not anyone else’s fault but yours. You control your reality.

Picture your future self & condition. What thoughts & reality do you want to grow? How would you feel? Really visualize this as luscious & vibrant as possible. This is massively impactful, because it’s going to create possibility & self belief.⁣

A practice that helps me visualize & shift my energy to a positive place: I pull up Pinterest & consume positive quotes, images, videos, anything that shifts my state to a happy empowered place.

Swipe save & share! Hope these help!

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I’m rooting for you! 

Oxox

Coach K

I asked an elderly patient what the most important thing she learned in life and this is what she said

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I asked an elderly patient years ago, “What is the most important thing you’ve learned in 85 years?”⁣

And she said somethin to me I’ll never forget that I also heard on a podcast the other day that brought back this memory, “One of the most important things I’ve learned is health is the crown on the well person’s head that only the sick person can see & wealth comes in many other more important forms than money.”⁣

Ooooof. Who else felt that? 👋⁣

She went on to say, “I wished I had changed my perspective sooner. Mostly around the perception of being ‘wealthy’ & the perception that in order to be beautiful I had to be skinny. I realize I was always chasing a goal like being rich & losing as much weight as possible instead of embracing the experiences of the journey & being grateful for what I already had.”⁣

I don’t know about y’all but I love spending time with the elderly. They’re full of magical wisdom.⁣

3 things I’ve learned in my 39 yrs on this earth I’ll share with you in hopes of you learning this sooner than I did:⁣

➡️Joy, purpose, fulfillment (JPF) vs fame, fortune, applause (FFA). Which would you choose? I choose JPF because if you choose JPF the FFA will follow.⁣

➡️Forms of wealth: self mastery, self awareness, family, health, your craft, personal development, money, time, freedom, charity, adventure, your circle of genius & environment⁣

➡️Don’t lower your standards or standard of living to meet your income, raise your income & standards of living to meet your standards.⁣

➡️If you’re gonna chase something, chase service. Because “To live in the hearts we leave behind, is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell.⁣

We’re all gonna die what are you gonna leave behind? Abs, money in the bank, or the memories of a life well lived?⁣

Oxox⁣
Coach K⁣
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I’m an XXS top, XXS petite bottom for reference (5’1, 105lbs)

Your Guide to Meal Timing and Does It Really Matter?

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MEAL TIMING

When should I eat? Is there a “right” time? Does it matter? Optimization Tips? Tips for special digestive needs?

The way all the “sporty & exercisey people” talk about it, you’d think meal timing, which is also called nutrient timing, was a make it or break it variable when it comes to body goals.

Is it really important when it comes to health, fat loss, muscle building, or performance? Yes & no in the grand scheme of things in my opinion.

Ima lay this out as simple as possible y’all. This a question received on the reg from people of all diet camps! Meal timing or nutrient timing simply means eating specific food & thus nutrients (ex: protein, fat, carbs, etc) at specific times (ex: pre or post workout, OMAD vs 2 or 3 meals/d, etc).

**Reminder: All of this info along with basically everything I’ve learned along my weight loss, health, & carnivore journey is available in the 354 page Meat & Macros Guide HERE

You can always message me on IG or email at katieokelly2@gmail.com for more info & questions! Coaching FAQ’S HERE

It really comes down to the individual & their specific goal (or lack of). I’m not gonna get into all the complex science stuff & research around this topic, we’d be here forever, but I do want you to have a basic understanding on how specific meal timing can help you, when you really need to consider it, & when you don’t need to stress about it. I share my experiences & tips especially for those of you who have struggled with special digestive needs like autoimmune, IBS, IBD, & Crohn’s like myself.

As always, you do you, boo. This is a non-dogmatic safe space, these are generalities, & personal experience.

In general, by eating a healthy, well-considered meal 1-2 hours before exercise, & another healthy, well-considered meal within 1-2 hours after exercise, most people can meet their workout nutrition needs without anything fancy stuff.

In other words: if you’re a healthy person who exercises regularly, you probably don’t need special workout nutrition strategies. Most of us fall into this category.

SIDE NOTE…special timing considerations: You work out early af in the morning. You can do these fasted if you prefer & eat a well sized meal with plenty of protein after. If you’re hungry in the am, liquids (shakes) & easy to digest, low volume carbs (like cereal or rice cakes) if you eat carbs are more appropriate. I find people who follow a meat-based diet & workout early in the mornings prefer to fast & then eat their largest meal post workout.

Lets talk macros (your Carbs, Protein, & Fat)…

CARBOHYDRATES
There are few things in the fitness world more controversial than carbs. Will they make you fat? Do you need them? Timing? The questions are endless. Quality fuel is critical, which we get from carbs & fats. They are our energy sources, not protein. You pick which one you prefer.
Carbs in general are your body’s preferred fuel source when it comes to highly glycolytic (means it burns a sh*t ton of carbs) activities like HIIT, the “crossfits,” & Orange Theory-esque type workouts.

Optimal timing & portions are more important. You want every gram of carb you consume to be utilized as an immediate fuel source or to restore glycogen levels – you don’t want it to be stored as fat. I find them consumed around your workouts most optimal. Just remember the more active one is, the more carbs they can typically warrant consuming.

PROTEIN
Protein is essential for tissue growth & repair. Since the body is continuously breaking down proteins, our diet must provide sufficient quantities. Although recommended intakes vary & depend on so many different things like dieting/health history, activity, training modality, goals, digestion, allergies, etc, a post-workout protein is almost always universally helpful to kickstart muscle repair, recovery, & growth.

Shakes are convenient around workouts for high digestibility & absorption, but not necessary if you time your meals accordingly to your needs & preferences. I prefer real, whole foods for my nutrition vs supplements. To cover your bases most people do well consuming meals around 30-50g of protein per meal to meet optimal amino acid needs. Timing will differ based upon diet preference, workout timing, workout modality, & specific goals.

FAT
The body uses fat as a fuel source, & fat is the major storage form of energy in the body. Fat also has many other important functions in the body, & is needed in the diet for optimal health. Fats (cholesterol) are also the precursors to our hormones.

Fats in food come in several forms, including saturated, monounsaturated, & polyunsaturated. Quantity & quality are important. Fats do help to slow digestion, which maintains stable blood glucose & insulin levels. Fats also provide vitamins & minerals, aid in absorption & are important in everyone’s diet.

Some examples of foods that contain fats are butter, oils, nuts & seeds, meat, fish, & dairy products. Again, people will have different preferences as to whether they get their energy from carbs or fats. Most meat-based people prefer fats as fuel or they only consume a strategic amount of carbs around workouts only.

SPECIAL CONSIDERATION TIPS
Athletes may have special needs, for example…

An endurance athlete: You train for high level competition. You log a lot of high intensity miles each week. For you, carbohydrate & calorie needs are likely higher unless you do not digest them well & prefer fat as fuel. You could add a protein + carbohydrate drink or shake during your long training.

A bodybuilder: You lift weights with muscle growth as your goal. Your protein & calorie needs are likely higher especially in a building phase.

Getting ready for a fitness competition: You likely accumulate more exercise hours. Goal is to drop to a low body fat %. For you, carb intake (if you eat carbs) will likely be lower & protein higher especially as calories drop to maintain as much lean muscle mass as possible. Keto athletes will manipulate protein & fat macros to their preferences & needs.

Tips for those with special digestive needs like allergies, autoimmune, IBS, IBD, & meat based: This is simply to help you optimize from my experience as an athlete & someone who lives with Crohn’s & special needs

If you’re going to eat carbs, keep them around your workouts for more optimal utilization aesthetically & metabolically. Largest meals I prefer post workout & earlier in the day. Digestion is better in the mornings.

I did best with minimal digestive issues with easy to digest, gluten free, low volume carbs like rice cakes, gf oats, white rice, rice chex cereal if I was going to eat carbs. I don’t need them much anymore since going meat-based. Ground meat & seafood is easier to digest vs steak, ribs, & chewy cuts of meat.

If you workout early af in the am & you’re not training for a performance sport, I find fasted workouts more optimal as far as aesthetics & digestion. Protein shakes are great if you’re hungry early, training long periods, or don’t have time to eat a meal within an hour or so after your workout. Stop fasting until like noon before you eat after an early workout. “Tone” aka MUSCLE takes FOOD. You gotta build the body first!

People reverse dieting do better with 3 meals/day vs 1-2, especially if meat-based. It’s harder on your digestive system to cram more calories in larger, less frequent meals.

You MUST set yourself up for a successful cut by eating at maintenance or surplus for an extended period of time (like 6 months to a year realistically) BEFORE dieting for optimal, quicker results.

A HEALTHY body loses body fat. You shouldn’t be dieting more than 1-2x/yr for no longer than 12-16wks. Most maintenance levels for active females are around 1800-2100+ calories/d. (I eat 2000/d & am 5’1, 105lbs for example)

When dieting, I find larger, less frequent meals more satiating utilizing intermittent fasting. Fat cycling leaner, lower fat days with higher fat days is extremely effective & easier to sustain on a diet. Try 4 lean days/wk & adjust as you go for your needs. Higher fat days you should be consuming around maintenance calories. Leaner individuals don’t need as many lean days or need to do the Protein Sparing Modified Fasting (PSMF)

Don’t eat a high fat, heavy meal too close to working out. Digestion takes a lot of energy & you will be tired & sluggish. Eat 2+ hrs prior.

Stay hydrated! 1/2 your body weight in oz, more if you sweat a lot & workout frequently. I use Ultima Replenisher electrolytes. If you’re low carb, you require more electrolytes. If you’re having muscle cramps & sh*tty recovery, up your electrolytes. All my product/supp info/discount codes in LINK IN IG BIO!

If you’re having trouble sleeping, peeing a lot, hungry all the time, & tired, check your macros. You may need to decrease protein & up your fat. This is why I suggest at least loosely tracking your food! I find 170-200g of protein on the top end for females. 140g protein is an avg for most active females lifting weights. Most people who are hungry all the time need more fat & calories.

Carnivore Maintenance Macros: start with a 1:1 ratio of protein:fat as a baseline then tweak as needed. Use the TDEEcalculator.net to find your calorie needs 1st. I can help you with these & is something we discuss in your tailored plan on consult calls.

If you’re losing hair, tired all the time, gut messed up, hormones wonky, craving carbs/salt, waking up at night starving, sh*tty sleep & recovery, plateaus in the gym or fat loss – you’re most likely NOT EATING ENOUGH, not sleeping enough, fasting too much, over caffeinating, & stressed to the titties…y’all just chillllll & STOP.

I categorize my meals into PRE WORKOUT, POST WORKOUT, & ANYTIME MEALS.

PRE WORKOUT
I find I don’t need a pre workout meal or snack the majority of the time, especially if you’re working out:
1.) Super early in the morning like 5 or 6am
or
2.) Afternoon or evening when you’re in the fed state (you’ve eaten)

Most of my fellow early birds & I prefer to workout fasted if we’re hitting up the 5 or 6am gym time. If you struggle working out fasted & don’t feel you have the energy to do this, this is when a small easily digestible snack or a protein shake are helpful. You can also choose to consume a snack or smaller meal prior to bedtime if you’re hungry. Carbs at bedtime will help decrease your cortisol level & help you sleep. So if they don’t cause issues for you mentally or physically, there’s no need to feel like you have to cut them out of your diet.

My more gut friendly, easy to digest options as far as carbs & pre workout or pre bedtime fuel (everyone will be different so go your own way, these are just suggestions not an exhaustive list):
Gluten Free Rice Cakes
Nuethix Formulations MediPure or Iso-perfect Protein Powder
Gluten Free Rice Chex
Honey
White Rice
Gluten Free Quick Oats (If you’re not grain, lectin or fiber sensitive)
Sweet Potato (If you’re not lectin or fiber sensitive)

Here’s a blog on adding carbs back in your diet and what you should know

My carnivore & meat based folk, our meals are typically heavy & make our digestive systems work really hard to digest, which zaps our energy for digestion processes, so I don’t recommend eating a larger, heavier meat based &/or high fat based meal too close to workout time. I personally need at least 3-4 hrs after a heavier meal to feel like I even want to workout.

POST WORKOUT
This is one I feel people stress way too much about. If you’re eating a sufficient sized meal sometime close to after you workout, you’re gonna be fine! Make sure you’re getting adequate protein for muscle building & recovery. This is also when I prefer to time my carbs if I choose to consume some or I feel I need carbs for optimal recovery.

Times I choose to consume my carbs (My choice is typically 2-5 plain rice cakes, just depends on hunger level & workout volume & intensity):
In the evening after a harder, more intense, or higher volume workout like Crossfit or HIIT
Post workout at anytime of the day my workout is a harder, more intense, or a higher volume workout like Crossfit or HIIT & I feel I need them. This is totally intuitive for me.

I find I personally don’t need or crave carbs the majority of the time, & if I’m hitting up my typical 5am or earlier morning workout I never eat carbs, I stick to meat & eggs.

ANYTIME MEALS, GENERAL MEAL TIMING, BLOOD SUGAR, & FASTING
If you’re one that is not a gym or exercise goer &/or you stick to a low carb, keto, carnivore, or meat based way of eating (WOE), meal timing becomes less important, but I didn’t day not important.

Blood sugar regulation, optimal health, having a good relationship with food (mentally, physically, & emotionally), & eating to have stable energy should always be priorities.

Things I’ve used to check my blood glucose:
Keto Mojo: checks both ketones & blood glucose. Has app, blue tooth, syncs with phone, got mine off Amazon. On Amazon favorites list, link in bio & highlights.

Nutrisense Continuous Glucose Monitor (CGM): my top pick. Painless application, has app, syncs with phone, no pricking your finger, continuous monitoring, access to their nutritionists. Link In IG bio, Discount Code: lilbitoffitCGM10

Helpful Times to Check Blood Sugar
Fasted 1st thing when you wake before any food or drink: to gain data & a biomarker of metabolic & hormonal health. This is when I weigh myself too.

2 hours after eating combo meals: to see how they interact with one another & affect your digestion & blood glucose. Quality & quantity matter. Ex: combos like carbs + protein +fat, high protein + low fat, high fat + lower protein, carbs + protein, carbs +fat, etc.

After eating singular foods: to see what spikes your blood sugar more than the other. Ex: like testing after eating carbs, diet pop, chewing gum, using sweetener, eating dairy, after a larger high protein meal, after a bolus of fat, etc.

After periods of stress: to see how your body handles stress. Ex: after a hard workout, a poor nights sleep, after a stressful life experience, etc.

BLOOD SUGAR FAQ’s
What can I use to track?
I’ve used a keto mojo & my top pick is a NutriSense CGM. You can get a simple glucometer from your local drugstore too. Link in IG bio to CGM info, code: lilbitoffitCGM10

What range should my blood sugar be for optimal body fat loss? I like MINE in that 70-90/dL range fasting. Normal fasting ranges will vary but for most are in the 70-100 range. Mine tends to run higher, around 85-100 while others may be lower around 65-80. Lifestyle, genetics, & environmental factors all matter & can affect ranges.

How long should I wait after meals to check my glucose? I recommend checking prior to your meal then 1-2 hours after eating for your “peak” levels.

What diet works best for food/sugar addiction? Low carb & meat-based hands down in my opinion.

What are normal blood sugar levels?
They’re less than 100 mg/dL after not eating (fasting) for at least 8 hours. And they’re less than 140 mg/dL 2 hours after eating. During the day, levels tend to be at their lowest just before meals. For most people without diabetes, blood sugar levels before meals hover around 70 to 80 mg/dL. For some people, 60 is normal; for others, 90. Again, we’re all different.

Why does it matter if my blood sugar is high, like around 120-200ish sometimes?
It is very important to keep your blood sugar level under control. It affects everything really, mood, fat loss, weight gain, hunger, satiety, energy, performance, sleep, etc. When your blood sugar level is high, it can cause damage in your veins & arteries. This damage could lead to complications later such as heart attacks, strokes, kidney disease, neuropathies, vision problems, etc.

What foods spike my sugar most? What food has carbohydrates? Carbs typically spike blood sugar the most, then protein, then fat. Fruits, starchy veggies, milk, dairy, yogurt, rice, cereals, bread, grains, basically think anything sweet all have carbs. High glycemic foods affect glucose the most, ex: bread, cereal, candy, baked goods, fruit, honey, rice, crackers, cookies, rice cakes, sugar, pancakes, waffles, potatoes, corn, most processed foods.

If it is sugar free, I can eat as much as I want, right? SF foods can be part of your diet in moderation. Abstainers typically do better abstaining from any carbs, sugar, or SF substitutes. Many cause gut issues like bloating, constipation, & pain due to added fibers, fillers, gums, sugar alcohols & artificial sweeteners. Some of these foods still have carbs (in the form of other sweeteners such as sorbitol, isomalt, & mannitol) & may affect your glucose levels.

Things that may be increasing your blood sugar you’re overlooking:
Coffee: Increases adrenaline, cortisol (stress hormones) & blood sugar which can cause a release from our liver glycogen even when fasting. This was one thing I tested, luckily black coffee only affected my blood sugar like 2-5 points.

Fasting too long: Again, increases body stress which increases your cortisol level which will cause liver glycogen to be released & your blood sugar to rise. Are you waking up in the middle of the night? Is your fasting AM blood sugar high (>95)? Try eating more, shorten fasting windows

Dehydration: Less blood volume=higher concentrations of glucose in the blood. Shoot for 1/2 your body weight in Oz of water daily.

Over exercising, under eating, &/or eating trigger foods: All huge stressors on the body which increase cortisol & thus blood glucose. That gut brain connection is so impactful on our body function as a whole.

Carbs: No they’re not the devil. Typically it’s our relationships with them & our habits that are. Carbs do keep us calm by serotonin & cortisol. Our tolerances vary bioindividually. Typically in a healthy individual the more active the more carbs we require & tolerate. Carbs do spike your insulin higher than protein or fats. Carbs obviously spiked my blood sugar higher than any other food even experimenting consuming 2lbs of a high-protein meal. 3 rice cakes spiked my insulin to 160. The 2lbs of beef #meatbars spiked my insulin to 130.

Artificial sweeteners & sweet beverages: If it tastes sweet typically it will cause a reaction in your body & spike your blood sugar to some degree. I’m all about moderation but don’t have the majority of your diet full of diet foods & Splenda just to save a few calories & carbs. They lack in micronutrients which your body needs to function properly. In my experience with the CGM, they did elevate my blood glucose slightly but not very much, maybe 5 to 10 points max.

Alcohol: I’m just leaving this one there, y’all this is common sense. The higher the calorie, the higher the sugar, the higher the carbs the more it is going to spike your blood glucose. The “worst” options are beer, wine, sugary cocktails like White Russians, margaritas, Mojito‘s, Long Island iced teas, etc. I know it’s heartbreaking right ?! Vodka actually dropped my blood glucose when mixed in Diet Coke. Weird but it happens every time & I notice I get cold when this happens. This was not consuming any food with my drink.

Sleep: Not only does this disrupt your satiety & hunger hormones like a leptin & Ghrelin which can cause you to crave carbs & feel like a bottomless pit, it also spikes your blood sugar, & your performance, fitness goals & recovery suffer. I found lack of sleep, & high intensity workouts especially fasting were the biggest culprits that spiked my blood sugar & made me feel like trash.

Tips that helped me with more stable blood sugar & energy:
– Stick to meat & eggs & routine meal times. No snacking.
– If you’re gonna eat carbs &/or a large meal, eat them post workout.
– Pairing carbs with a fat &/or protein source will blunt the blood sugar & insulin spike.
– Reduce stressors like over exercising, chronic under eating & dieting, eating too many carbs &/or trigger foods, over caffeinating, not getting sleep, life stress, take more rest days.
– Have coffee or your caffeinated beverage AFTER you’ve eaten if you’re caffeine sensitive. The food will buffer it’s effects.

Personal preference always comes into play with meal timing in general. You can choose any number of meals you want. I find most people IN GENERAL considering all diet camps find it easiest to stick to 3 meals per day, minimal or no snacking.

My meat based people & low carbers, most of us choose anywhere from 1-3 meals per day, average being 2 meals per day & around 2lbs of meat for most. Some more sedentary people or people who prefer large meals may like one meal a day (OMAD). Pick what suits your preferences & needs. **A reminder it should align with optimal health, your goals, your schedule, & be easy for you to stick to.

Meal timing tips from my experience to help you decide what is “right” for you:
– I find digestion is better & it’s easier to maintain a “leaner” physique keeping your largest meal post workout & larger meals earlier in the day
– If you’re gonna eat carbs or feel like you have to have a “cheat” meal or “treat” (which I LOATHE saying btw because food should not be something earned or burned) I find digestion & nutrient utilization more efficient post workout

– If you’re reverse dieting, eating for performance, or muscle building, it’s easier to eat 3 meals per day vs trying to cram all your calories in 1 or 2 meals per day

-OMAD & fasting on occasion are totally fine & beneficial, just make sure you’re using them out of a place of love, using them with respect & not abusing them in excess.

-Fasting & OMAD work great on days you’re not as active, not as hungry, in a fat loss phase, in a “reset” whatever that means to you, or working on improving your gut healing & digestion.

-I feel everyone should be fasting at least 12 hrs overnight. No need to feel like you need to do extended fasting. If you’re fasting 12-16 hrs overnight, that’s FINE. You don’t need to fast at all if you don’t want to.

Typical Fasting Protocols

16/8, 14/10, 12/12 Protocols – Ex: Fast 16hrs/8hr eating window
OMAD – One meal a day, fast the rest
PSMF – Protein Sparing Modified Fasts: highly restrictive diet that involves severely limiting the intake of calories, carbs, & fat & consuming only lean (zero-low fat) protein
5:2 – Eat normal 5 days, restrict calories to 500-600 for 2 days
Eat Stop Eat – Eat normal for 5 days then fast for 24hrs for 2 days
4:3 or Alternate Day Fasting – Fast every other day, eat normal on non-fasting days
Skip Meals Spontaneously – skip meals when you’re not hungry

People who shouldn’t really be fasting:

Pregnant Women
Women who are nursing
People who are reverse dieting
People training for performance
People who have abused or overly fasted
People who have chronically under eaten for an extended period of time (aka you’ve made chasing a smaller body your hobby)
People who are trying to gain muscle
Women a week before their cycle
People healing &/or struggling with adrenal insufficiency & fatigue
People with eating disorders &/or disordered eating habits, poor relationships with food, exercise, &/or body image where restriction is a huge trigger

In conclusion, no matter what diet you follow, you should know that nutrition has a significant impact in every facet of your life, it is literally what you are made of. It can especially have a significant impact on your results in the gym. What you eat before, during, & after your workouts may be the difference between achieving your goals & falling short.
Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to the “right” way to eat, workout, or live. You choose what works best for you. 🙂

I hope you found this information helpful! Don’t hesitate to reach out via Instagram or email ( katieokelly2@gmail.com )

PDF Version of this Post Here for my fam that loves to print things out <3

Love y’all!

Oxox Coach K

Things adulthood taught me that never age 

Things adulthood taught me that never age…

#transformationtuesday 

👉🏻Choose your friends, food, & alcohol wisely. Ps. Taking 3 shots instead of 5 is still not taking better care of your body🥃 ⁣

👉🏻Credit cards are dangerous

👉🏻You can bless & block anyone or anything from your life if it disturbs your peace & energy. You don’t owe anyone anything

👉🏻Rescuing a cat 🐈‍⬛ & a bottle of @crownroyal are totally acceptable valentine gifts to yourself

👉🏻There is no such thing as too many plants (or coffee)🪴☕️ ⁣

👉🏻 I don’t remember life before @instacart & @amazon prime or #meatbars ⁣🤷‍♀️

👉🏻 Life actually starts when you get an airfryer. Get 1 sooner♨️❤️⁣

👉🏻The answer is always walk & meat 🥩🦶

👉🏻Stop ignorin all the red flags they be showin, they’re not check engine lights 😆 & when you think a mf won’t do you like that, they absolutely will do you like that 👀 ⁣

👉🏻You cannot send 2 questions to a man in the same message or next message before getting a reply to the 1st one. You’ll only get a reply to 1. Slow down😜⁣

⁣👉🏻You spend the majority of your day rubbin a piece of glass 📱🤳🏻 Love life fiercely that’s all that matters. Not just the highlight reels.⁣

⁣👉🏻Grocery Stores should put carts in the middle where my pride realizes I have too much sh*t to carry⁣⁣

⁣👉🏻Rugs are expensive save your money, spend it buying your own flowers💐 ⁣

👉🏻When I was young I wanted 2 kids, a picket fence, & married by 21…lets all laugh together. 😂 Live your own timeline.⁣

⁣👉🏻 Live simple. Things weigh you down. ⁣(Except meat. Buy the meat 🍖🙃)⁣

👉🏻Part of me wants to be a powerful independent woman who makes a 💩 ton of money & the other part wants to be a trophy wife with new boobs sitting at the pool & the most difficult decision of my day being what cocktail I wanna drink. Your wants & needs will change. Let them. Always aim to evolve higher. You can do it all!

👉🏻Beware of cocktails that taste like juice, ice cream, or a slushy…before ya know it you can’t walk & have to pick up your dignity down the street the next day. Treat your body like a trash can & you become the trash can.⁣

⁣👉🏻It’s ok to go thru this phase called “fxck everything.” Do your squats & know your worth. Take it one “WTF” at a time. ⁣

Oxox 

Coach K

Why you need to chase what lights you up

The question I want you to ask yourself today is what lights you up? 

Why you ask?

Because what’s embedded in your responses lies your answers.

I’ll share some of mine & stories you might relate to as well…

➡️I love money.

I didn’t always have a good relationship with money nor believed I was worthy of it. In fact I had a scarcity mindset the majority of my life. In the past few years I’ve learned I need to nurture my relationship with money just like any other.

Money gives me time, freedom, the ability to give back & invest in others. It gives me the ability to give myself things that light me up which in turn give me the energy & happiness to serve at my best.

I changed my story from the thoughts of “I’m greedy & money is bad.” to “I am worthy, smart, & compassionate because I know without money I’m not able to serve others or myself at my fullest capacity.”

➡️I love my health.

I know without my health I also cannot function at my highest capacity physically, mentally emotionally, intellectually, or financially. 

This is why I work out 5d/week & eat food that nourishes my body to help me perform at my best. This also means taking time to rest. If you want to be a top-notch athlete you need to live & think like one.

➡️I love my relationships.

Without community connection in some way shape or form we lose our sense of purpose. Be mindful of the company you keep, make sure to surround yourself & consume an upleveling environment.

We were put here to learn, connect, live with Joy, & follow what lights us up.

The truth is we often forget by doing what light us up that is the fastest way to bring the abundance flow back to you.

It’s never too late to rewrite your story & I’ll remind you that there’s nothing enlightening about resisting pleasure, money, your health, etc & turning down the beauty in your heart.

“Don’t ask what the world needs, ask what makes you come alive & go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman

#mindsetmonday

Oxox Coach K 

☕️: @trustwealthstrategies

How to live life like Dolly Parton

Big @dollyparton energy today y’all✨ 

I enjoyed these quotes this mornin & I hope they set the stage for your week (& the rest of your life).

I watched a Netflix documentary about Dolly – she’s a magical human y’all.

I’m in love with her bling, flare, essence of unapologetically being herself, her femininity & her get shit done attitude! #girlcrush #rolemodel 

Minus the boobs, I dunno how she functions in those things. Props ✊ Proud card toting member of the #ittybittytittyCommittee here 👋 🎟 

It made me want to continue to live life BIG.

To attract my dreams. 

I no longer say “chase” because a high value human doesn’t chase anything, you become what you want & you ATTRACT what is meant for you. – write that down 😉✍🏼 

And these…

Living a BIG life requires:

not being afraid to shine

being YOU

giving less fux

not playing small

& not chronically trying to shrink yourself in every facet of that statement

Put your crown on 👑

Get your beauty sleep🥰

Pose in your underwear, whatever tf you wanna do. 

I’m sure I’ll get hate messages for it & you know what?! Thank you. 

Because if they ain’t talkin about you you ain’t doin something right. – words of wisdom from my momma

I crushed almost 9 hrs last night, no ragrets. Pampered myself instead of going out, & I realized as I’ve gotten older it feels so much better to wake up refreshed🤘🏻

Gonna get in a good workout

Gonna spend the day with friends & family gloriously watching sports & enjoying life!

Rooting for my Purdue Boilers!

I dunno who to choose in the playoffs, great teams! Going with the Bengals & 49ers, how bout you?

Enough rambling, swipe away, words of wisdom from the Queen!

I hope you have the most magical, refreshing Sunday ever!

Oxox Coach K

#boilerup 

On Faith

“If I can hold God’s attention, I can hold the world’s.”

On Believing In Yourself

“The magic is inside you, there ain’t no crystal ball.”

On Work

In her book Dream More, Parton wrote, “I never have considered myself a perfectionist, but I do think of myself as a ‘professionalist’…I always strive simply to be my very best.”

On Ambition

“Tumble outta bed and I stumble to the kitchen. Pour myself a cup of ambition.”

On Life

In July 2019, Parton tweeted: “If you see someone without a smile today, give ’em yours.”

On Diamonds

“I look totally artificial, but I am totally real, as a writer, as a professional, as a human being. A rhinestone shines just as good as a diamond.”

On Love

I’ve had to go against all kinds of people through the years just to be myself. I think everybody should be allowed to be who they are, and to love who they love.”

On Life

“Everybody has their own journey, they have their own way of doing things. And who am I to judge?”

On Marriage

“He’s always loved who I was, and I loved who he was, and we never tried to change each other,” Parton said about her

husband Carl Thomas Dean, in the June 2016 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine.

On Real Beauty

“You don’t have to look like everybody else. You don’t have to be a raving beauty to be special and to be beautiful.”

On Life

“I make a point to appreciate all the little things in my life. I go out and smell the air after a good, hard rain. These small actions help remind me that there are so many great, glorious pieces of good in the world.”

On Work

“I always count my blessings more than I count my money. I don’t work for money, never did.”

On Life

“Everybody’s life is a soap opera. Everybody’s life is a country western song, depends on who’s writing it.”

On Diets

In her book Dolly: My Life and Other Unfinished Business, Parton joked, “I tried every diet in the book. I tried some that weren’t in the book. I tried eating the book. It tasted better than most of the diets.”

On Life

“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”

On Stardom

“I’m just a working girl. I never think of myself as a star because, as somebody once said, ‘A star is nothing but a big ball of gas’–and I don’t want to be that.”

On Work

“I’m not going to limit myself just because people won’t accept the fact that I can do something else.”