Three Life Lessons I Learned From A Terminally Ill Man That Started With A Pick Up Line

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One of the best lines I’ve ever heard was delivered to me by a terminally ill man. He knew I was looking for something more, more specifically something within myself. Guess I looked like I needed a laugh!

I was working in patient access as a phlebotomist & registration right out of college (Which I LOVED!). I didn’t know if I needed to go back to school, I was unhappily married & more so unhappy with myself, physically & mentally.

He said, “I hope you know CPR, because you just took my breath away! So, aside from taking my breath away, what do you like to do?”

I laughed, “Self sabotage, apparently.”

He passed away from lung cancer a few months later. He was one of many people I got to know (& lose) in my time working in healthcare.

The message I want to share with all of you is just a short synopsis of the golden nuggets he shared with me.

He said, “Being close to fear & death, in many ways, taught me to live. Successful & happy people don’t self-sabotage. They quietly quit the past. So what is it you need to let go of? What lights you up & fills you with purpose & fulfillment? That’s your answer to making changes to live your heaven everyday.”

It wasn’t a transformation overnight but decades of making different decisions & shifting my perspective because of that one conversation.

I went to radiology school. I started doing sh*t I loved. I started slowly forgiving & loving myself. I started releasing people & habits that didn’t serve (which meant a divorce years later). It meant changing numerous jobs, failed relationships, & trying on a multitude of hats in every facet of life over my 40 years.
And I continue evolving, trying on new hats, & making mistakes, too.

3 lessons that I took from this gentleman:

  1. Life (& the world) is a malfunctioning machine, the more pissed off we let ourselves become about it, the more likely we are to crash. Try again.
  2. Happiness is not a consumable product or end goal. It is not something you find by searching or achieving. It is an arising byproduct of a fulfilling, well-lived life.
  3. A well-lived life has more to do with perspective than anything else. As long as you can evolve & laugh, there is hope.

oxox Coach K

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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Binge eating almost destroyed me but here’s your message of hope

I didn’t dare talk about it much publicly when I was younger, I used to binge eat — A LOT. It didn’t help my health, gut, performance, or fat loss goals at all either. I was scared to strength train because I have no idea where to start. ⁣

Binging happened mostly when I was lonely, stressed, or bored. Sometimes, it would happen when I was celebrating, too — but always when I was alone. I would go to the store, buy junk food, then go home or sit in my car & eat as much as I could. I was an addict, food was my drug, & binging was a high.⁣

I’d eat until I didn’t think I could eat another bite, & then felt so sick I’d puke to “undo” what I”d done. Sometimes even after I threw up, I’d wait a while, & when the feelings of nausea started to subside, I’d start eating again until either the food was gone, I vomited, or until I went to bed in deep shameful sleep.⁣

Without fail, I’d wake up feeling like absolute shit the next day. I’d beat myself up, forcing an unending spiral of guilt, restriction, & punishment. My gut flares out of control!⁣

To make myself feel even worse, I’d look in the mirror & tell myself how terrible I looked, & that I would never be good enough until I could stop eating & got as thin as I could. That if only I could somehow turn myself into one of those people who just “forgets” to eat, then I’d finally be good enough.⁣

But that was the wrong approach. Obviously.⁣

I took the time to look deeper into my behaviors & habits, I started to be kinder to myself & feel empathy.⁣

Back then, I didn’t treat food as fuel & workouts as a celebration of my body as I do now.⁣

So if you deal with binge eating or know someone who does, or don’t know where to start on your fitness journey 👉know that you’re not alone.⁣

Here’s your reminder you CAN! ⁣

I’m over 3 years meat-based with my diet! It serves my autoimmune, physical & emotional needs! ⁣

Here’s to a lifetime of living vibrationally & giving myself what I deserve. ⁣

I wish the same for you too!⁣
Can you relate to my story?⁣

oxox Coach K #fitnessjourney #crohnsdisease #weightlosstransformation #bingeeatingrecovery

Ridiculously easy ways to burn calories without exercise!

People with great bodies have a dirty little secret…⁣

…OR maybe they’re simply just more aware of their activity & habits.⁣

I’ve found shifting your perspective is EVERYTHING. Especially when it comes to diet & exercise. It’s a myth that “exercise is only effective when you break a sweat.”⁣

People often ask me, “how can I exercise every day, how can I do at least 30 minutes of exercise daily, & how can I make exercise a habit.” My answer remains the same — reinvent the meaning of exercise.⁣

Though exercise does shred calories to disperse extra stored fat, aid in muscle building, & mobility, it doesn’t always imply killing yourself in the gym to attain the body you want. Oftentimes we’re doing too much. extremes are not sustainable.⁣

Exercise shouldn’t be a forced time-based activity. That’s one of the reasons why most of us fail at exercising. It needs to be enjoyable & easy just like the diet or WOE (way of eating) you choose.⁣

You wouldn’t believe how many straightforward ways there are to burn calories, but it’s easy to miss the opportunities if you’re not looking for them.⁣

Research has shown that swapping sedentary habits, such as watching television, for pretty much anything that doesn’t involve sitting down can make a world of difference.⁣

I hope these simple tricks help you on your journey & explain how to take every opportunity to love life, flex your muscles, boost your heart rate, & eat foods that yield maximum nourishment & satiety for a happier, healthier life!⁣

Story continues here, swipe, save & share with your fellow #fitfam !⁣

oxox Coach K⁣

Confessions of a Saturday morning shameless selfie…

Daily confessions of a shameless morning selfie…⁣

In case you needed the reminder, it’s OK to be sorta sweet, sorta Beth Dutton🤚🥃⁣

Yellowstone. Dudes I love this show.⁣

I have not been so obsessed with a show since Grey’s Anatomy, One Tree Hill, & Sex & the City.⁣

To my new followers you’ll find I talk about all kinds of real life sh*t on here. Love, food, relationships, money, fitness – they’re all connected.⁣

If you meet me in person I want you to be able to say, “You’re just like you are on social media!” Because that’s how it should be.⁣

Some personal things about me…⁣

I’m not naturally “feminine” per se. It’s a skill I’ve had to develop.⁣
4 words: Bull in China Shop🐮⁣

As I aged I noticed how trauma affected the balance of my masculine & feminine energy.⁣
👉Trauma from from being made fun of as an overweight kid⁣
👉feeling I had to achieve to be loved⁣
👉or being liked simply for my looks & not the totality of all that I am⁣
The list could go on…⁣

I emotionally disconnected, became avoidant, & flirted more on the line of masculinity rather than embrace my femininity.⁣
✅Thank you therapy.⁣

My therapist asked me about my sex life. “Do you like to be the more dominant one?” (felt like I needed a shot of tequila at this point😂)⁣

I guess I never noticed how rough around the edges I was until a boyfriend criticized me for slammin cabinet doors. He’d yell at me.⁣
I said we’ll maybe you’re just fragile🤷‍♀️😆 Obviously💁🏼‍♀️that relationship ended.⁣

It made me wanna change myself because I thought, well, there’s something wrong with me.⁣
I changed for him & that cycle of losing myself in relationships continued for years.⁣

I’m grateful for every single piece of 50 shades of fxcked up that makes me — ME. ⁣

One of the best decisions you’ll ever make is to invest in therapy & always be seeking to be a better version of yourself.⁣

Tell yourself today👉you weren’t made to fit in, you were made to move mountains🏔 ⁣

Oxox Coach K #saturdaymorning #butfirstcoffee

How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to Reveal Your Best Body in 2023

How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to reveal your best body in 2023

Since I’ve been on my gut healing & weight loss journey I have thought a lot about addiction. It’s really hard to admit you have a food addiction because everybody needs to eat in order to live.

There were several things that made me realize that I was addicted to food & THAT was the biggest culprit which exacerbated my Crohn’s issues & inability to get healthier & lose weight.

Maybe you can relate to these too…

Going past a McDonalds & instantly wanting to devour a large fry & 20 piece nugget whether I was hungry or not (And I did smash the ENTIRE meal!)

“Having” to have something sweet after dinner & eat in front of the tv.

Seeing other people eating, especially food I restricted or labeled as “bad,” longing to do so regardless if I had just eaten.

Hiding food & eating when your friends & family don’t know you are. I’d binge then throw it all up.

And just plain feeling out of control!

I’m sure you understand the feeling of waking up in the morning & saying you’re “going to do better today” & then you fail miserably like you did the day before.

Maybe you’re like I was. You’d go to bed at night & say that “tomorrow will be another day & you’ll start working out & eating right.” Then you don’t.

I remember saying one time if food were liquor, I would be drunk every day.

It’s taken over 2 decades to build the body you see today, I’ve been every shape & size! If I can do it, so can you!

Life lessons I learned along the way to hopefully help you transform too: How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to Reveal Your Best Body in 2023!

  • How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to reveal your best body in 2023

oxox Coach K

Life & love advice I wished I knew at 20 that I know now at 40

A meaningful post I feel for many out there… 

Ran into a friend today reminiscing about summer & old times, relationships & new energy we’re both looking forward to for 2023.

We laughed about what if we knew back then what we know now 👀 

Ever thought about that too?

So, we came up with a list…swipe & enjoy!


We also talked about how the people who are comfortable being alone will never waste your time with dating games.

Zero bullshit. If they’re special, you’ll know & you’ll know you’re special too because they choose to spend time with you over their favorite person, themself.

Hi. It me 😆👋 

⁣I thoroughly enjoy straight forward people who take the lead & tell me exactly what they want. You always know where they stand.

People who have taken the time to be alone & be ok with it are basically interviewing you to replace ourself as our new best friend & we really don’t want to give up that position but we are also intrigued & hopeful that there is more out there❤️

Whatcha thinkin?

Oxox

Coach K

How I managed my energy to create a happier, healthier life by doing these 8 things brilliantly

I used to smash Bangs ⚡️ like it was my job.  Coffees & energy drinks were temporary solutions. Which initially gives us some energy but after a while, we feel tired again.⁣

Let’s not forget the havoc it plays on our adrenals, inflammation, hormones, digestion, etc. 😔 ⁣

Feelings of tiredness are so common that many times we just sit on the couch watching TV, unable to do anything else. It makes us feel like a watered down version of ourselves.⁣

We have everything.⁣
Modern man has everything: a computer, internet access, which gives him the opportunity to communicate with people around the world. A car to get to work faster, a gym membership, & plenty of food.⁣

We know everything.⁣
We all know that we need to watch less TV, eat less junk food, move more, & read more books.⁣

But we do nothing.⁣
Most will deny this. Try to remember the times when you bought brand-new sports equipment or a gym membership or vowed to start your diet on Monday. Did you? Why?⁣

Most often because of lack of energy, purpose, fulfillment, time management, & discipline 🤷‍♀️ ⁣

So let’s promise ourselves positive change & continue to crush this week! Swipe, save & share: How I stopped being tired & started living by doing these 8 things brilliantly!⁣

Gimme an🦾 if you’re ready to make this your best life yet!⁣

oxox Coach K⁣

Healthier & Younger After 40: Secrets To A Sexy Life

Healthier & younger after 40: Secrets to a sexy life

You are where you are in life because you choose to be there.
Face the truth.

On some level, you feel like you deserve to be where you’re at in life, even if you don’t like your life. I’ve been there.

If you’re getting paid “less than you’re worth,” it’s because you’re not getting paid less than you’re worth. If you agree to a certain wage, you literally accept that wage as what you’re worth.

If you keep people in your life who don’t treat you well, you’re keeping them there because you have low self-worth. After all, if your self-worth was high you wouldn’t allow people to treat you that way.

The secret to a sexy life? Well, it’s not exactly what I thought it would be. It’s actually in doing the “unsexy” the majority of the time.

You see I figured out that “life” truly happens in the interlude & inbetweens.

I don’t know about y’all, but the last 4 years of my life have been UNREAL.

I went from being broke af, single af, sick af, lonely af, lost af
to
abundant af, healthy af, happy af, to married af, to divorced & single af again & everything in between!

That’s only a percentage of the roller coaster ride that strangers I meet & write for find delight in listening to.

My “regular” daily life?

Workout. Work. Write. Create. Read. Learn, Sleep. Repeat.

I found by walking the line of structure & spontaneity, that THAT in between was the secret sauce to finding the sexy life.

For me, the only way to facilitate such sweet serendipity was to keep leveling myself up in life — unlocking access to richer experiences, better health, & deeper people. That meant cultivating upleveling habits, environments, mindset, & goals.

So, if you’re puffing cig after cig before getting drunk at the local bar every night the only “serendipity” you might unlock is a clumsy, dumpster fire make-out sesh with someone with more baggage than a trash truck & a hangover the next day.

Swipe, save, & share: Healthier & Younger After 40: Secrets To A Sexy Life.

  • Healthier & younger after 40: Secrets to a sexy life

oxox Coach K

bio carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana fishers
Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

http://www.instagram.com/lil_bit_of_fit

“I’ll start my diet Monday” Why it’s not working & tips to help

A sobering & reflective conversation…⁣

Emotion is energy in motion. Dieting is an emotional problem, it’s more about behavior than food.⁣

Nothing happens if nothing moves. So I ask you, “Where is your emotion driving you?”⁣

Hard truths & guidelines to help you push the restart button for the last time. 🔖⁣

Do you refuse to rest? Refuse to give up addictions? Refuse to reverse diet & STOP chronically dieting? Do you refuse to simply put in the work it requires to change your body, health, & life?⁣

Y’all, basically what you’re saying here is, “I want this, but I don’t it bad enough to do what is required to achieve it.” ⁣

Biggies: ⁣
“I can’t cut back on workouts.” (even though they’re stressing my body out even more which is actually hindering progress)⁣

“I can’t give up my coffee/bangs/etc.” (even though my cortisol is jacked up thru the roof & I can’t sleep at night)⁣

“I can’t give up sweets & snacking at night.” (even though they’re causing inflammation, gut problems, high glucose, fat gain, & more cravings)⁣

“I can’t reverse diet because I’ll gain weight.” (even though you’ve been eating less than a toddler for 20+ yrs & still don’t have the health or body you want)⁣

Sound familiar?⁣

I share these things because I love y’all and I’ve made all the same mistakes as you! ⁣

It’s Sunday night, let’s freaking rock this week! Here are some tips to help, take what you need!⁣

Oxox Coach “your biggest cheerleader” K 📣⁣


21 Cheat Codes I Wished I Knew At 21

There’s someone right now living & loving their life with less than you.⁣

They are living & loving their life the same weight, body size, body fat, relationship status, health condition, job, financial status & more, as you.⁣

External factors aren’t what make you unhappy, you do. It’s the perception of life & the thoughts in your head. You aren’t your thoughts but you do choose to listen to them.⁣

No more, “I’ll be happy when…”⁣

Cheat codes I wished I had learned earlier.⁣

Which one do you resonate most with?⁣

Happy Saturday family! I love you!⁣

Oxox Coach K⁣