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Confessions of a Saturday morning shameless selfie…

Daily confessions of a shameless morning selfie…⁣
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In case you needed the reminder, it’s OK to be sorta sweet, sorta Beth Dutton🤚🥃⁣
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Yellowstone. Dudes I love this show.⁣
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I have not been so obsessed with a show since Grey’s Anatomy, One Tree Hill, & Sex & the City.⁣
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To my new followers you’ll find I talk about all kinds of real life sh*t on here. Love, food, relationships, money, fitness – they’re all connected.⁣
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If you meet me in person I want you to be able to say, “You’re just like you are on social media!” Because that’s how it should be.⁣
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Some personal things about me…⁣
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I’m not naturally “feminine” per se. It’s a skill I’ve had to develop.⁣
4 words: Bull in China Shop🐮⁣
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As I aged I noticed how trauma affected the balance of my masculine & feminine energy.⁣
👉Trauma from from being made fun of as an overweight kid⁣
👉feeling I had to achieve to be loved⁣
👉or being liked simply for my looks & not the totality of all that I am⁣
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I emotionally disconnected, became avoidant, & flirted more on the line of masculinity rather than embrace my femininity.⁣
✅Thank you therapy.⁣
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My therapist asked me about my sex life. “Do you like to be the more dominant one?” (felt like I needed a shot of tequila at this point😂)⁣
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I guess I never noticed how rough around the edges I was until a boyfriend criticized me for slammin cabinet doors. He’d yell at me.⁣
I said we’ll maybe you’re just fragile🤷‍♀️😆 Obviously💁🏼‍♀️that relationship ended.⁣
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It made me wanna change myself because I thought, well, there’s something wrong with me.⁣
I changed for him & that cycle of losing myself in relationships continued for years.⁣
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I’m grateful for every single piece of 50 shades of fxcked up that makes me — ME. ⁣
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One of the best decisions you’ll ever make is to invest in therapy & always be seeking to be a better version of yourself.⁣
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Tell yourself today👉you weren’t made to fit in, you were made to move mountains🏔 ⁣
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Oxox Coach K #saturdaymorning #butfirstcoffee

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How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to Reveal Your Best Body in 2023

How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to reveal your best body in 2023

Since I’ve been on my gut healing & weight loss journey I have thought a lot about addiction. It’s really hard to admit you have a food addiction because everybody needs to eat in order to live.

There were several things that made me realize that I was addicted to food & THAT was the biggest culprit which exacerbated my Crohn’s issues & inability to get healthier & lose weight.

Maybe you can relate to these too…

Going past a McDonalds & instantly wanting to devour a large fry & 20 piece nugget whether I was hungry or not (And I did smash the ENTIRE meal!)

“Having” to have something sweet after dinner & eat in front of the tv.

Seeing other people eating, especially food I restricted or labeled as “bad,” longing to do so regardless if I had just eaten.

Hiding food & eating when your friends & family don’t know you are. I’d binge then throw it all up.

And just plain feeling out of control!

I’m sure you understand the feeling of waking up in the morning & saying you’re “going to do better today” & then you fail miserably like you did the day before.

Maybe you’re like I was. You’d go to bed at night & say that “tomorrow will be another day & you’ll start working out & eating right.” Then you don’t.

I remember saying one time if food were liquor, I would be drunk every day.

It’s taken over 2 decades to build the body you see today, I’ve been every shape & size! If I can do it, so can you!

Life lessons I learned along the way to hopefully help you transform too: How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to Reveal Your Best Body in 2023!

  • How to Build Muscle and Lose Fat to reveal your best body in 2023

oxox Coach K

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Life & love advice I wished I knew at 20 that I know now at 40

A meaningful post I feel for many out there… 

Ran into a friend today reminiscing about summer & old times, relationships & new energy we’re both looking forward to for 2023.

We laughed about what if we knew back then what we know now 👀 

Ever thought about that too?

So, we came up with a list…swipe & enjoy!


We also talked about how the people who are comfortable being alone will never waste your time with dating games.

Zero bullshit. If they’re special, you’ll know & you’ll know you’re special too because they choose to spend time with you over their favorite person, themself.

Hi. It me 😆👋 

⁣I thoroughly enjoy straight forward people who take the lead & tell me exactly what they want. You always know where they stand.

People who have taken the time to be alone & be ok with it are basically interviewing you to replace ourself as our new best friend & we really don’t want to give up that position but we are also intrigued & hopeful that there is more out there❤️

Whatcha thinkin?

Oxox

Coach K

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How I managed my energy to create a happier, healthier life by doing these 8 things brilliantly

I used to smash Bangs ⚡️ like it was my job.  Coffees & energy drinks were temporary solutions. Which initially gives us some energy but after a while, we feel tired again.⁣
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Let’s not forget the havoc it plays on our adrenals, inflammation, hormones, digestion, etc. 😔 ⁣
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Feelings of tiredness are so common that many times we just sit on the couch watching TV, unable to do anything else. It makes us feel like a watered down version of ourselves.⁣
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We have everything.⁣
Modern man has everything: a computer, internet access, which gives him the opportunity to communicate with people around the world. A car to get to work faster, a gym membership, & plenty of food.⁣
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We know everything.⁣
We all know that we need to watch less TV, eat less junk food, move more, & read more books.⁣
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But we do nothing.⁣
Most will deny this. Try to remember the times when you bought brand-new sports equipment or a gym membership or vowed to start your diet on Monday. Did you? Why?⁣
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Most often because of lack of energy, purpose, fulfillment, time management, & discipline 🤷‍♀️ ⁣
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So let’s promise ourselves positive change & continue to crush this week! Swipe, save & share: How I stopped being tired & started living by doing these 8 things brilliantly!⁣
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Gimme an🦾 if you’re ready to make this your best life yet!⁣
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oxox Coach K⁣

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Therapy Confessions about dating & things that make me want to drink

Therapy confessions👉Things people ask me that make me laugh, want to drink🥃 & smoke a cigar😂(💁🏼‍♀️like I need a reason sip bourbon & smoke a cigar but whatever🙃)⁣

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Why are you single?⁣

Are you getting married again?⁣

Don’t you want kids?⁣

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Listen, I admittedly was a serial monogamist the majority of my life. I was the girl that always had a boyfriend. 

I had only dated & kissed 2 guys up until the age of 27. Don’t worry, I made up for it quickly after my 1st divorce😆why lie.⁣ They call it the “Hoe Phase” for y’all not familiar👀 

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I don’t think I ever really learned how to “date.” ⁣

I honestly had no idea WHAT I was doing.

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It’s like I just wanna hang with an awesome person, go adventuring & do cool sh*t with. One I love being around, that’s easy & down the road if it turns into something more, that’s the end goal🤷‍♀️ ⁣

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Had a follower ask what I thought she should do about dating & marriage…everyone laugh now😹 ⁣

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So we talked…⁣

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Don’t know if I’ll ever get married again, never say never. I know the people meant for me, find me. Hell I’m not even sure what the right answer is anymore nor do I care.⁣

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I feel relationships are whatever you choose to define them as, not what society tells you. I don’t feel you need a contract for happiness or validation.⁣

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By dating you do figure out what you don’t like so you know what you do like.⁣

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THINGS NOT TO DO:⁣

Don’t say yes to men or women who aren’t suitable for you, don’t ignore red flags just because you don’t want to be single. Don’t do things you don’t agree with just to keep a relationship going. Don’t dishonor your own values just so you aren’t lonely. Don’t lose yourself. Don’t lose faith in love.⁣

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One day, you’ll understand the price is too high to pay to lose yourself — the most important person in your life.⁣

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All of your painful experiences craft you into the impeccable person you are today. ⁣

And the right person will appreciate every part of you, your story & let you live life on your own terms.⁣

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The right person feels like freedom & home imo.⁣ You can’t read a book to tell you how to feel…

You can read all the books in the world but if you can’t read yourself you can’t efficiently execute anything.⁣

#shitmytherapistsaid 

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Has anyone else felt they read all the books but in honesty you realized you were a really sh*tty executor, too?😆👋⁣

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A painful truth brought up in therapy one time was the realization that when I felt anything or anyone was touching the walls of my freedom or made me feel “unsafe” or “wrong” — I’d run.⁣

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Confessions of a recovered avoidant🙋‍♀️ 

It was fear. I had a follower ask me today if I’ve ever been afraid of anything so much that I ran from it. Fxck me.🤦‍♀️ It forced me to painfully sit there & reflect.

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I realized thru experiences & relationships what I should’ve been asking myself during periods of discomfort was, “Is this relationship or experience making me want to up level into a better woman?”

I stayed in a LOT of situation-ships & cohabitations far longer than I should have because of fear.

I also RAN from a lot of potential relationships because of fear. Fear to be in a situation-ships or comfortably numb cohabitation again.

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I didn’t have the tools back then or self awareness to assess/navigate relationships & life experiences effectively.

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If you feel you have to appear a certain way to receive validation, respect, or love — you need to figure out what it is inside you that makes you want to change to be more accepted & worthy.⁣

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Look for the pebbles in your shoes, they may not be large stones but they will cut you after time.⁣

All right, hope my ramblings and therapy sessions helped you toO!

Love & hugs,

Coach “no longer in my hoe phase (thank the Lord 🙏😄)” K

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Healthier & Younger After 40: Secrets To A Sexy Life

Healthier & younger after 40: Secrets to a sexy life

You are where you are in life because you choose to be there.
Face the truth.

On some level, you feel like you deserve to be where you’re at in life, even if you don’t like your life. I’ve been there.

If you’re getting paid “less than you’re worth,” it’s because you’re not getting paid less than you’re worth. If you agree to a certain wage, you literally accept that wage as what you’re worth.

If you keep people in your life who don’t treat you well, you’re keeping them there because you have low self-worth. After all, if your self-worth was high you wouldn’t allow people to treat you that way.

The secret to a sexy life? Well, it’s not exactly what I thought it would be. It’s actually in doing the “unsexy” the majority of the time.

You see I figured out that “life” truly happens in the interlude & inbetweens.

I don’t know about y’all, but the last 4 years of my life have been UNREAL.

I went from being broke af, single af, sick af, lonely af, lost af
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abundant af, healthy af, happy af, to married af, to divorced & single af again & everything in between!

That’s only a percentage of the roller coaster ride that strangers I meet & write for find delight in listening to.

My “regular” daily life?

Workout. Work. Write. Create. Read. Learn, Sleep. Repeat.

I found by walking the line of structure & spontaneity, that THAT in between was the secret sauce to finding the sexy life.

For me, the only way to facilitate such sweet serendipity was to keep leveling myself up in life — unlocking access to richer experiences, better health, & deeper people. That meant cultivating upleveling habits, environments, mindset, & goals.

So, if you’re puffing cig after cig before getting drunk at the local bar every night the only “serendipity” you might unlock is a clumsy, dumpster fire make-out sesh with someone with more baggage than a trash truck & a hangover the next day.

Swipe, save, & share: Healthier & Younger After 40: Secrets To A Sexy Life.

  • Healthier & younger after 40: Secrets to a sexy life

oxox Coach K

bio carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana fishers
Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

http://www.instagram.com/lil_bit_of_fit
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“I’ll start my diet Monday” Why it’s not working & tips to help

A sobering & reflective conversation…⁣
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Emotion is energy in motion. Dieting is an emotional problem, it’s more about behavior than food.⁣
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Nothing happens if nothing moves. So I ask you, “Where is your emotion driving you?”⁣
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Hard truths & guidelines to help you push the restart button for the last time. 🔖⁣
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Do you refuse to rest? Refuse to give up addictions? Refuse to reverse diet & STOP chronically dieting? Do you refuse to simply put in the work it requires to change your body, health, & life?⁣
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Y’all, basically what you’re saying here is, “I want this, but I don’t it bad enough to do what is required to achieve it.” ⁣
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“I can’t cut back on workouts.” (even though they’re stressing my body out even more which is actually hindering progress)⁣
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“I can’t give up my coffee/bangs/etc.” (even though my cortisol is jacked up thru the roof & I can’t sleep at night)⁣
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“I can’t give up sweets & snacking at night.” (even though they’re causing inflammation, gut problems, high glucose, fat gain, & more cravings)⁣
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“I can’t reverse diet because I’ll gain weight.” (even though you’ve been eating less than a toddler for 20+ yrs & still don’t have the health or body you want)⁣
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Sound familiar?⁣
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I share these things because I love y’all and I’ve made all the same mistakes as you! ⁣
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It’s Sunday night, let’s freaking rock this week! Here are some tips to help, take what you need!⁣
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Oxox Coach “your biggest cheerleader” K 📣⁣
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21 Cheat Codes I Wished I Knew At 21

There’s someone right now living & loving their life with less than you.⁣
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They are living & loving their life the same weight, body size, body fat, relationship status, health condition, job, financial status & more, as you.⁣
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External factors aren’t what make you unhappy, you do. It’s the perception of life & the thoughts in your head. You aren’t your thoughts but you do choose to listen to them.⁣
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No more, “I’ll be happy when…”⁣
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Cheat codes I wished I had learned earlier.⁣
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Which one do you resonate most with?⁣
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Happy Saturday family! I love you!⁣
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Oxox Coach K⁣
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Read this If you feel the need to shrink yourself

My therapist told me one time, “If you feel the need to constantly try & shrink yourself mentally & physically, maybe you should think about walking into a bigger room.”⁣⁣
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Oof. You feel that one right?!⁣⁣
Drop a ❤️ if you needed that too.⁣⁣
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I took that advice & applied it to every facet of my life & fitness.⁣⁣
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I realized I didn’t REALLY wanna be or look like other people. I was searching for worth outside of myself because I was lost.⁣⁣
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I remember the night I took a sip of bourbon & told myself, “Sis, it’s time to retire the insecure you, the chronically sad you, the you who chases & changes herself, the you who feels like she’s too much & not enough at the same time.⁣⁣
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It’s time to stop letting your past haunt & define you & start creating the most awesome, highest value version of yourself. It’s time to manifest the highest alignment vision of the kind of woman, body, fulfillment, & relationships you deserve & desire.”⁣⁣
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I journaled qualities of the high value woman I wanted to be & that moment changed the game…⁣⁣
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♥️She lives by the 4 agreements:⁣⁣
Be impeccable with your word, always do your best, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions.⁣⁣
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♥️She loves herself above all because she knows if she loves herself she can move mountains & love others fully.⁣⁣
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♥️She takes care of herself mentally, physically, financially, & spiritually. She does not chase, she magnetizes.⁣⁣
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♥️She knows she can only be beautiful like her. She knows that if she wants to look & feel a certain way like her, she has to be willing to TAKE ACTION like her, be DISCIPLINED like her, have A MINDSET like her, show up CONFIDENTLY like her, & LOVE herself like her.⁣⁣
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♥️She is clear on what she wants in a partner & embodies what she wants to attract. Her relationships are ADDITIVE to her life, not all-consuming & she only engages in reciprocal relationships.⁣⁣
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♥️She believes that anything is possible, life is always extraordinary, passionate/healthy love exists, & she’s willing to wait for what she wants because Queens don’t settle like dust in the wind.⁣⁣
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Oxox Coach K⁣⁣

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Confessions of a shameless early morning selfie

Confessions of a shameless early morning selfie…⁣

👉I used to have a post it on my mirror that read “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels”. ⁣
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That’s bullshxt. Nothing tastes, as good as feeling, strong & happy, which has nothing to do with a number on the scale. ⁣
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♥️I’ve never been so excited to see the scale go up because I know I’m gaining muscle. ⁣
❤️I’ve never been so excited to see my baby traps coming back. ⁣
♥️I’ve never been so excited to finally feel myself again honestly probably for the 1st time since pre C word(I won’t say it) 2020. ⁣
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So if you feel like you’ve been lost, too, give it time you’ll find your way back again. I simply focused on doing things that brought me joy without question. ⁣
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👉 I got 8 hours of sleep last night. I still woke up at 4 AM. Yes, that meant I crashed before 8 PM. The people in my life know if they text me & I don’t respond back it’s because I’m shamelessly asleep. Don’t worry I’ll text your🍑 at 4 AM when I get up. 😂⁣
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👉I remember the days where I hated waking up in the morning because I hated the life I was living. I felt nothing in my life was fulfilling – not my fitness routine & body, not my relationship, not my job, it just felt like I was there swimming in a pool of mediocrity & complacency. ⁣
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Now, I can’t wait to wake up. The love that I have for myself & my life is kind of embarrassing when I think about it. And I don’t care. ⁣
I’ve worked hard to feel this way & craft a life that satisfies my soul. ⁣
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I can only wish the same feeling for y’all which is why I share vulnerably in hopes of helping at least one person.
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Dudes, I get so tired of social media some days. Being completely honest, a lot of days.⁣
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Although, I love all of you, there are days I yearn for that peaceful pre-social media era.⁣
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It’s taken me 40 years to evolve & not give a shxt. ⁣
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Here’s what you need to know…⁣
☀️Not everything that is in season blooms the same way. Some of us are late bloomers.👋 ⁣
☀️Lost & found are from the same box.⁣
☀️Don’t put old energy into new containers.⁣
☀️”Life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon. Savor life. Create your own heaven on Earth.⁣
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Oxox Coach K

bio carnivore lilbitoffit katie kelly indiana fishers
Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle. 


Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!


You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com


http://www.instagram.com/lil_bit_of_fit