The Older I Get the More Self Aware I Grow & The More I Realize These Things…

Something my life journey has shown me is that the more I heal & love myself as I am, the more grounded & peaceful life becomes.

A hard lesson I learned 👉how & when to adjust. It’s hard because often times as painful af & you don’t wanna do it. 

The older I get, the less I feel the need to perform.

the less I feel the need to shrink & settle.

the less I feel the need to chase.

the less I feel the need to overextend & over-explain.

The older I get the more I realize that I’m not interested in things or relationships that are not physically, mentally, emotionally nourishing, stimulating & rooted in authentic loving intentions.

MOOD: I’ve changed & evolved into a better version of myself. I’m choosing different & walking tall with fresh energy. I attract all that I desire to my highest alignment. Healing & self awareness are my superpowers. Growth is good to me. I love me, my body, my mind, & spirit. I now choose to stand in my power for good.

Drop a ❤️ if you’re in this season.

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Hard Truths Why You Struggle With Food & Fitness

hard truths why you struggle with food & fitness

Let’s start at the beginning.
Because we know the statistics.

We know that obesity has quadrupled since the 1950s.

We know that diabetes has increased from around 1.5 million people in the 1950s to over 34 million today, 90% or more of whom have type 2 diabetes, which is preventable.

We know that roughly 50% of American adults have cardiovascular disease and 70% of American adults are on some kind of prescription medication.

We know that we get 1.5 to 2 hours less sleep per night than a hundred years ago.

We know all of this stuff, because we are constantly bombarded with these statistics, hammered over the head with them until they lose their meaning.

But what we don’t talk much about (& we should), is the inner root cause of WHY these statistics exist.

“Losing weight” or “getting in shape” repeatedly score the top ten of people’s New Year’s resolutions. If you, too, have declared that you “finally want to get fit in 2023,” then it’s time to look at where you’re at.

Have you changed? Or have you given up on your fitness goals again — like so many years before?

If you have been trying to become a fitter, healthier version of yourself & repeatedly failed, you might need to come to grips with a few uncomfortable fitness truths.

If you take them to heart & act accordingly, you are well on your way to becoming the fittest & healthiest you can be. Let’s dive in!

Save & share! What’s mine is yours!
As Deepak Chopra says, “No one owns anything.”

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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Becoming Superhuman: How I Work 14+ Hours A Day, Balance 4 Jobs and Fitness

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You are where you are in life because you choose to be there.⁣ Face the truth.⁣

On some level, you feel like you deserve to be where you’re at in life, even if you don’t like your life. I’ve been there.⁣

If you’re getting paid “less than you’re worth,” if you agree to a certain wage, you literally accept that wage as what you’re worth.⁣

If you keep people in your life who don’t treat you well, you’re keeping them there because you have low self-worth. After all, if your self-worth was high you wouldn’t allow people to treat you that way.⁣

The secret to a sexy life you love? Well, it’s not exactly what I thought it would be. It’s actually in doing the “unsexy” the majority of the time, following what you love to do, & creating systems to make your life successful!

You see I figured out that “life” truly happens in the interlude & inbetweens.⁣ It’s creating your heaven everyday.

My “regular” daily life?⁣

Workout. Work. Write. Create. Read. Learn, Sleep. Fun. Repeat.⁣ Grind & hustle my a$$ off & I love it.

I found by walking the line of structure & spontaneity, that THAT in between was the secret sauce to finding the sexy life.⁣

For me, the only way to facilitate such sweet serendipity was to keep leveling myself up in life — unlocking access to richer experiences, better health, & deeper people. That meant cultivating upleveling habits, environments, mindset, & goals.⁣

So, if you’re puffing cig after cig before getting drunk at the local bar every night the only “serendipity” you might unlock is a clumsy, dumpster fire make-out sesh with someone with more baggage than a trash truck & hangover the next morning.

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

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Biohacking That Helped Me Instantly Feel Better & Reverse Aging

Biohacking that helped me instantly feel better & reverse aging

I don’t know one person that wouldn’t want to know the secret to the foundation of youth. As one living with Crohn’s Disease & lived 40 years of struggles ranging from obesity, bulimia & anorexia, cervical cancer, renal stones, having my gallbladder removed to any color of 50 shades of f*cked up & addictions you can imagine…I’d try & experiment with anything to look & feel my best.⁣

You can read more about my healing and transformation journey here.

Disclaimer: these are what have worked for me. Take what you need, can, believe in, whatevs, & chuck the rest. You do you. You are more than welcome to DM me with questions. No unsolicited advice here. Aholes not welcome. Everyone is entitled to eat, workout, & live in a way that makes them feel amazing & a badass. I’m simply journaling my experiences as a resource for you to be your own health advocate & do your own life admin.⁣

**All links & discount codes available in IG bio & highlights**⁣ 

Biohacking is a term simply used to describe do-it-yourself biology. It involves people making incremental changes to their bodies, diet, & lifestyle to improve their performance, health, & well-being. Some types of biohacking have been around for many years, such as intermittent fasting.⁣

Biohacking ranges from efforts to improve brain function, treating dis-eases & disorders, looking more youthful, to faster weight loss. ⁣

Some favorites I incorporate into my life & success routine include things like:⁣
Red Light Therapy⁣ @emrtekinc
Grounding (Earthing)⁣
Meditation & Writing⁣
Cryotherapy⁣
Infrared Saunas⁣
Blue Blockers⁣
Organic & Natural Products vs Conventional (beauty products, cleaning supplies, cooking products, coffee, water, teas, etc)⁣
Supplements @nuethix_formulations
Intermittent Fasting⁣
Functional Crossfit @3kings_athletics
Restore Hyper Wellness @rhw_fishers
A Meat Based primarily Carnivore Diet (I call myself a Liberal Carnivore. I’m not dogmatic about it)⁣
Colon Hydrotherapy⁣

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I stopped obsessing over fat loss & focused on holistic health.

The biggest one in my opinion. Excess weight & inflammation come from not only physical triggers but also mental & emotional triggers. Unpacked trauma, habits, & addictions manifest as both physical & emotional inflammation.

I believe the secret to having it all is believing abundantly you already do. Those that choose to walk along the path of abundance experience a completely different life. Opting to live life to the fullest, exuding happiness, generosity, creativity, fulfillment, inspiration, & joy.

Your physique, energy & overall health will never flourish or look/feel the way you want if you do not get healthy first & stop obsessing over numbers like the weight on the scale, body fat %, excessive number of steps you get in a day, & how many calories you restrict.

Master your emotions & circle or you become a prisoner to them.

I eat optimal protein, calories, & foods that nourish my body, mind, & spirit.

Due to my autoimmune allergies, Crohn’s disease, past disordered eating, & addiction to food/carbs/sugar, I experimented & found a meat based “carnivore” WOE (way of eating) worked best for me. Been carnivore for 3+yrs

I generally eat between 1g-1.5g of protein/lb of body weight. I’m 5’1 & 105-108lbs on avg. I trust my body, eat what I crave & do whatever form of exercise it feels like doing that day. I do not punish myself for eating. I do not earn, burn, or use food as a treat. It is honored with respect & literally the life fuel we are made of.

I eat mindfully, slow, chew thoroughly & until I’m 80% full. I wait 20 minutes after eating to allow my satiety cues to let me know I’m full. Eating enough food also helps balance hunger & satiety cues. I maintain my weight on 1850-2100+ calories/d after giving my body time to heal. That meant initially gaining 15lbs during a reverse diet & adaptation period. Took me a year to lose that weight. Be patient.

I embraced aging is inevitable, but living well with a young spirit & nourished vessel is a choice.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Eat the right way for you & in appropriate doses.
  • Get exercise & quality sleep everyday.
  • Stress your body optimally. Challenge=Change.
  • Track your data if things aren’t working.
  • Avoid fake, processed, sugary drinks & foods.
  • Its never too late for dietary & lifestyle changes.
  • Mind your thoughts & circle or they’ll mind you.
  • Saunas, red light therapy, grounding, & cold therapy are fabulous for longevity, recovery, anti-aging, & detox.
  • Get out in the sun, avoid toxins as much as you can.
  • Live for metabolic & hormonal health, aesthetics will follow if you’re good to your body.

Biohacking Summary

FYI: Full list of codes and links here

SLEEP & WALKING: Anyone can do this. Sleep as much as you can. Take naps. Walk in the morning, take breaks during the day, walk after meals, walk as a night cap. Gtfu & move. We weren’t made to live like sloths.

GRATITUDE, Positive Affirmations, Abundance Mindset: basically loving MY life unapologetically, doing shit I love, & giving less fux. Try it. I lovingly dare you.

Not CHRONICALLY DIETING: eat enough optimal food for daily function & activity consistently to be a badass, eat at least at maintenance the majority of the time, eating daily optimal protein at every meal, getting in daily optimal healthy animal fats. Choose to eat the right way for YOU.

Digestion Support: Intermittent Fasting especially on work days. Occasional Omad. Nuethix Formulations Utilyze Digestive enzymes. (Code: lilbitoffit) Chewing food thoroughly, eating slowly, not stuffing myself, stopping when I am about 80% full. Walking after meals.

Reducing Caffeine & Alcohol: Duh. Leaving this one here, you guys are smart you know why. Stress + hormone balance. Keep caffeine in the mornings.

Meat Based Diet: I eat mainly meat, seafood, eggs, & dairy in moderation (butter/cheese/milk), organic coffee, tea, water. Minimizing/removing processed, artificial foods. This has allowed me to reduce gut flares, put my Crohn’s in med-free remission, lose fat & maintain my weight loss, & feel/perform my best. My specific story & healing protocol is in the link in my IG bio. It’ll answer all your questions on trigger foods, disordered eating, gut healing & carnivore! AGAIN, eat the way that serves YOU best!

Functional CrossFit & Strength Training: @3kings_athletics 5d/wk

Organic Coffee: @bulletproof @foursigmatic @lifeboostcoffee Coffee is one of the most chemically treated plants produced. Organic reduces toxins, chemicals, & molds. Tastes better imo.

No Tap Water: Reduces toxins. Contaminants in our water can lead to health issues, including gastrointestinal illness, reproductive problems, neurological disorders, & autoimmune conditions.

Personal Development: be a forever student of life! Read, write, therapy, workout, eat well, listen to educational podcasts, YouTubes, audiobooks, learn new skills, invest in yourself! Use your time wisely! A list of my favorites are here on Instagram!

Reduce Toxic Products: Beauty products. Fragrance. Plastics. Cleaning products. Microwaving. Cooking products, etc. Use cast iron skillet, Airfryer paper liners from @amazon Love Physician’s Formula & BeautyCounter.

Circadian Rhythm Routine: reducing electronic use. Sleeping more. Blue blockers (Discount Code: lilbitoffit20) Getting outside for sun & grounding especially in the morning. My prescription glasses + blue blocking lenses I got from Eyeglass World. I use them during the day & a pair of amber ones at night before bed.

Red Light Therapy: pads off @amazon, @Emrtekinc Light. (Discount Code: lilbitoffit20) Benefits include: Reduces oxidative stress, inflammation & joint pain, Increases muscle recovery, collagen production & tightens skin, Reduces fine lines & wrinkles, Increases hair growth, Increases energy, Increases wound healing, Improves memory & vision quality, Increases testosterone production, Improves sleep & can aid in fat/weight loss. Use mine at least 20 minutes per day.

Grounding: Mats/Pads & getting outside in nature. Involves doing activities that “ground” or electrically reconnect you to the earth to help with pain, inflammation, fatigue, depression, sleep, & numerous dis-eases & conditions. Got my mats off @amazon I sleep on one & use the pad at work.

Supplements: @nuethix_formulations Cort-Eaze Cortisol Balance Support, Estro-Cort Estrogen Balance Support, Utilize Digestive Enzymes, Nu-Multi Multivitamins, Relax Liposomal Sleep Support. Electrolytes: @goultima, @drinklmnt Tea: Green tea, Matcha, Herba Mate, Red Rose Teas off amazon

Portable Infrared Sauna: got min off @amazon. Love it for detox, recovery, reduces inflammation & pain, & positive hermetic stress. Hormesis is a dose-response phenomenon characterized by low-dose stimulation & high-dose inhibition, & has been recognized as representing an overcompensation for mild environmental stress. The beneficial effects of mild stress on aging & longevity have been studied for many years.

Wellness Treatments & Services: I utilize Restore Hyper Wellness @rhw_fishers Services include Red Light Therapy, IV Therapy, Compression Therapy, Cryotherapy, Infrared Sauna, Etc.

Colon Hydrotherapy & Enemas: flush bowel of toxins, relieves constipation, helps with digestive motility for my Crohn’s disease, gastroparesis, & impaired gastrointestinal motility. I have a home in-shower enema system from @amazon Colonics I do quarterly, enemas as needed. I go to Brandy Mason in Carmel, IN with Carmel Colonics & Terri Hawkins with Natural Rejuventation in Indy.

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This is my home shower unit from Amazon

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8 Strong Life Lessons You Can Literally Start Applying Today To Improve Your Life

It was like getting glasses & actually seeing for the first time.⁣

Those “blobs” – they were trees. They were flowers & so much more.⁣

Most people spend the first half of their lives collecting and the second half choosing what to keep.


“So now that you’re 40, which lessons do you plan to carry with you?”⁣

A friend asked me this question on my 40th birthday. At the time, I didn’t have a great answer. Actually I think my eyes glazed over a lil bit from the enormous amount of information running through my brain.⁣

Looking back, I realized the reason I write to y’all is so you can learn from not only what I have learned, but from my mistakes & experiences so that you can be a better human faster than I was.⁣
THAT is being a good leader.⁣

It’s not about acting like you know everything or being “sugar & spice & everything nice.” “Nice,” in my opinion, is telling the truth & that doesn’t always make you the most popular, but it does make you someone who stands for something larger than themselves & accountable.⁣

I started my fitness, nutrition coaching, & social media journey 15+ years ago. During that time, I’ve written & shared thousands of blogs, posts, & videos, most rooted in life lessons learned & weeding out what matters from what doesn’t & what’s gonna help the most people out there.⁣

Here are more lessons the world — and the amazing people (like you) I’m lucky to have along with me for the ride — have taught me that I plan to carry with me as long as the Universe will have me here.⁣

It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re in motion. The less time you spend thinking and the more time you spend doing, the closer you’ll get to the life you want.⁣

Try some of these on for size and just run with’em. Report back to me when your life is awesome.⁣

I’m grateful for each & every one of you that read, share, & unpack your bags of life right beside me.⁣

oxox Coach K⁣

6 Paradoxes That Will Blow Your Mind And Upgrade Your Life

6 paradoxes that will blow your mind and upgrade your life

Cleaning my apt yesterday I noticed a book. Hmm I thought…

Despite a busy schedule, I remember finishing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck in 2 days. It was one of the 1st books that invoked shifts in my perspective on how I wanted to more authentically live my life. There were so many lessons to dissect & apply, I read the book numerous times.

I felt the urge to sit down & write about paradoxes & some counterintuitive takeaways I’ve learned & share them with you!

I feel most people’s ultimate goal in life truly is to simply “be happy.” But wtf does this really mean? I know I’ve had to ask myself this on numerous occasions while stepping off the hot mess express of life.

Happiness is a problem.
For many of us, happiness consists of relaxing on the beach while sipping our favorite cocktail 24/7. (Sounds good to me right?!) Or it may be getting healthier or losing weight. It may be getting a new job or relationship.

However, this concept couldn’t be more wrong.

Time after time, psychology has shown that human beings draw their positive feelings (happiness) often from achieving. You could picture happiness as standing on a podium holding a gold medal.

Try to recall the last time you felt joy. What was the trigger? Most often it was because you overcame a challenge & achieved something.

The “problem” I talk about is really the need for love & validation. It triggers us to do some crazy sh*t like extremes: diets, exercise, over working, people pleasing, & settling for less than we deserve.

In other words, just because a little may do great things, more doesn’t always mean better. The sweet & savory blend is found in the appropriate dose.

I actually learned to give a f*ck about the right things by giving less f*cks.

We can learn much about paradoxes which in turn can help us achieve our “happy.”

Just some things to ponder today…

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The Year I Give Up. 8 Bad Habits Preventing Your Dreams From Becoming Reality

8 bad habits preventing your dreams from becoming reality

I was staring at a terribly unflattering close-up of my face on my iPhone screen. Kinda like the terribly unflattering videos in the Target checkout line.

Staring at my iPhone, I was waiting for a client to accept our FaceTime call.

“Why the hell do reflections trigger us?” I thought.

I should have used those 10 seconds of wait time to express gratitude for this technology that allows us to connect from all over the world!

And yet all I could focus on was this red sun spot I have in the middle of my forehead & the fact my eyes looked tired af.

I moved the phone to a different angle to see if I could get a “better view.” I pulled at my eyes for an instant eye lift. I immediately started brainstorming solutions to these “imperfections.”

Was this something Botox could solve?
Would I need to invest in some kind of fancy cream or treatment?

I’m disappointed to say that all of this flashed through my mind in those 10 seconds, but I keep things on the real reel here & I’m just like you.

“Only from a place of self love do you have permission to change yourself,” I kept telling myself.
And that is what I remind myself every time the criticism Gremlin creeps in.

I understand it’s hard to break this cycle of self-critique. Especially when you’ve experienced trauma like being made fun of as a kid or raised in an environment where achieving & people pleasing were the only ways you felt you could receive love.

I realized years ago I needed to break these bad habits & started practicing daily gratitude & being present in my body as it was.

If you ask me today what my top beauty advice would be, I would say this…

Look in the mirror less, obsess less about things that don’t add true value to your life & look at the rest of the world to see what you could be using your time for instead.

I now use my extra time for growth & nourishment in the forms of education, service, money, personal development, health, self care, & making memories with loved ones.

I decided 2023 would be the year I give up. The year I nourish.

I owe it to myself, to you, to my dreams, & to the legacy I want to leave here that doesn’t have a damn thing to do with a red sunspot on my forehead.

Cheers to 2023 – the year I. Give. Up.

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How I Plan to Make 2023 my Best Year Yet Using This 8 Step Success Formula

I listened to a podcast by Jay Shetty last week that invoked the most enriching reflection on my year I’ve ever had. ⁣

Every year I spend time getting a clear insight of how this year went, the ups & downs, the special moments, & the things I might want to do away or restart next year.⁣

This year I asked myself 7 questions suggested on that podcast. I included them on the last slide for you!⁣

These would be a great idea for a date night, community group, or a night out with friends!⁣

And here’s a challenge for you, REALLY get to know people this next year.⁣

I feel we get so wrapped up in superficial 2 second reels & TikTok’s that we’ve forgotten about depth & real life sh*t. ⁣

I’m over the swipe right or left society we got goin on here. How bout you? 🙄⁣

Anywhoodle…to help you start somewhere, here is a synopsis of the success formula I’m using to make 2023 my best yet!⁣

Lots of life lesson gems 💎 in the one!⁣

Gimme a 🔥 of you’re ready to have your best year!⁣

Oxox Coach K⁣

Three Life Lessons I Learned From A Terminally Ill Man That Started With A Pick Up Line

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One of the best lines I’ve ever heard was delivered to me by a terminally ill man. He knew I was looking for something more, more specifically something within myself. Guess I looked like I needed a laugh!

I was working in patient access as a phlebotomist & registration right out of college (Which I LOVED!). I didn’t know if I needed to go back to school, I was unhappily married & more so unhappy with myself, physically & mentally.

He said, “I hope you know CPR, because you just took my breath away! So, aside from taking my breath away, what do you like to do?”

I laughed, “Self sabotage, apparently.”

He passed away from lung cancer a few months later. He was one of many people I got to know (& lose) in my time working in healthcare.

The message I want to share with all of you is just a short synopsis of the golden nuggets he shared with me.

He said, “Being close to fear & death, in many ways, taught me to live. Successful & happy people don’t self-sabotage. They quietly quit the past. So what is it you need to let go of? What lights you up & fills you with purpose & fulfillment? That’s your answer to making changes to live your heaven everyday.”

It wasn’t a transformation overnight but decades of making different decisions & shifting my perspective because of that one conversation.

I went to radiology school. I started doing sh*t I loved. I started slowly forgiving & loving myself. I started releasing people & habits that didn’t serve (which meant a divorce years later). It meant changing numerous jobs, failed relationships, & trying on a multitude of hats in every facet of life over my 40 years.
And I continue evolving, trying on new hats, & making mistakes, too.

3 lessons that I took from this gentleman:

  1. Life (& the world) is a malfunctioning machine, the more pissed off we let ourselves become about it, the more likely we are to crash. Try again.
  2. Happiness is not a consumable product or end goal. It is not something you find by searching or achieving. It is an arising byproduct of a fulfilling, well-lived life.
  3. A well-lived life has more to do with perspective than anything else. As long as you can evolve & laugh, there is hope.

oxox Coach K

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Hailing from Fishers, Indiana, Katie is an aficionado of health, mindset, human connection, & entrepreneurship. Motivational writer, speaker, doer of many things, she grew up on her family’s beef cattle & crop farm where agriculture was her first love. She is a Purdue University graduate well known for her storytelling of life lessons & personal transformation through her own relationships, financial struggles, Crohn’s Disease, disordered eating, CrossFit, & adapting a carnivore diet lifestyle.

Katie also has over 17 years experience as a Registered Radiologic Technologist, Nutritionist, & Sales Consultant. She works with people of all walks of life as a nutritionist & personal life coach to help them authentically optimize their lives to find health, wealth, & happy!

You can catch her via Instagram @lil_bit_of_fit & blog, Lilbitoffit.com

http://www.instagram.com/lil_bit_of_fit

Confessions of a Saturday morning shameless selfie…

Daily confessions of a shameless morning selfie…⁣

In case you needed the reminder, it’s OK to be sorta sweet, sorta Beth Dutton🤚🥃⁣

Yellowstone. Dudes I love this show.⁣

I have not been so obsessed with a show since Grey’s Anatomy, One Tree Hill, & Sex & the City.⁣

To my new followers you’ll find I talk about all kinds of real life sh*t on here. Love, food, relationships, money, fitness – they’re all connected.⁣

If you meet me in person I want you to be able to say, “You’re just like you are on social media!” Because that’s how it should be.⁣

Some personal things about me…⁣

I’m not naturally “feminine” per se. It’s a skill I’ve had to develop.⁣
4 words: Bull in China Shop🐮⁣

As I aged I noticed how trauma affected the balance of my masculine & feminine energy.⁣
👉Trauma from from being made fun of as an overweight kid⁣
👉feeling I had to achieve to be loved⁣
👉or being liked simply for my looks & not the totality of all that I am⁣
The list could go on…⁣

I emotionally disconnected, became avoidant, & flirted more on the line of masculinity rather than embrace my femininity.⁣
✅Thank you therapy.⁣

My therapist asked me about my sex life. “Do you like to be the more dominant one?” (felt like I needed a shot of tequila at this point😂)⁣

I guess I never noticed how rough around the edges I was until a boyfriend criticized me for slammin cabinet doors. He’d yell at me.⁣
I said we’ll maybe you’re just fragile🤷‍♀️😆 Obviously💁🏼‍♀️that relationship ended.⁣

It made me wanna change myself because I thought, well, there’s something wrong with me.⁣
I changed for him & that cycle of losing myself in relationships continued for years.⁣

I’m grateful for every single piece of 50 shades of fxcked up that makes me — ME. ⁣

One of the best decisions you’ll ever make is to invest in therapy & always be seeking to be a better version of yourself.⁣

Tell yourself today👉you weren’t made to fit in, you were made to move mountains🏔 ⁣

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