The past couple years have felt really different, this year especially.
I told myself this year was my year. It was the year of “F*ck yeses only & no lateral moves because lateral moves don’t mean a level UP.”
My bff sent me a TikTok about cake vs icing. How we think icing is always the most important end goal & oftentimes we miss out on how good & more important the cake may be.
Both are important but it’s truly about dose & ratios & what’s appropriate for you at the moment.
It’s like wanting shredded abs (icing) but missing the more important goal of a healthy, happy, body you love (cake).
Or it can be like wanting partnership (cake) but truly wanting & deserving that partnership that sets your soul on fire (icing).
I wanted to remind y’all of something really important when it comes to any kind of relationship…& that can mean dating or partnerships, friendships, work-spouse relationship, parent-child, & that is this: I want to invite you to be the cake & to let everyone else in your life be the icing on the perfect cake that is you.
🤷♀️If you don’t like cake, that’s fine. Sub in pie🥧 💁🏼♀️Honestly, really, I’m more steak 🥩 than cake, but be the steak doesn’t have the same ring to it so here we go with be the cake 🍰
We often enter into relationships & make decisions from our codependent & people-pleasing habits with the desire for other people or bad habits to fill a gaping hole in our hearts & our lives.
You are the cake to end all cakes, everyone else is a delightful addition to your life, not the main attraction.
Commit to cakeful (or steakful) living. When you live in a space of freedom, self love, & empowerment, you allow yourself to be the icing for someone else.
Honor the people who are your icing 🧁 & the space where you are the cake 🍰 (or steak 🥩) 😉
oxox Coach K #sundaychurch
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