Cleaning my apt yesterday I noticed a book. Hmm I thought…
Despite a busy schedule, I remember finishing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck in 2 days. It was one of the 1st books that invoked shifts in my perspective on how I wanted to more authentically live my life. There were so many lessons to dissect & apply, I read the book numerous times.
I felt the urge to sit down & write about paradoxes & some counterintuitive takeaways I’ve learned & share them with you!
I feel most people’s ultimate goal in life truly is to simply “be happy.” But wtf does this really mean? I know I’ve had to ask myself this on numerous occasions while stepping off the hot mess express of life.
Happiness is a problem.
For many of us, happiness consists of relaxing on the beach while sipping our favorite cocktail 24/7. (Sounds good to me right?!) Or it may be getting healthier or losing weight. It may be getting a new job or relationship.
However, this concept couldn’t be more wrong.
Time after time, psychology has shown that human beings draw their positive feelings (happiness) often from achieving. You could picture happiness as standing on a podium holding a gold medal.
Try to recall the last time you felt joy. What was the trigger? Most often it was because you overcame a challenge & achieved something.
The “problem” I talk about is really the need for love & validation. It triggers us to do some crazy sh*t like extremes: diets, exercise, over working, people pleasing, & settling for less than we deserve.
In other words, just because a little may do great things, more doesn’t always mean better. The sweet & savory blend is found in the appropriate dose.
I actually learned to give a f*ck about the right things by giving less f*cks.
We can learn much about paradoxes which in turn can help us achieve our “happy.”
Just some things to ponder today…
oxox Coach K
